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I would appreciate any advice from the experts on this board, particularly any women.

My long time fantasy is to watch my wife with another man and then have sloppy seconds. We are in our late 40’s and we were both virgins when we met in college, so I am the only man she has ever been with. I’m afraid that may be a big deal for her.

Several years ago we woke up around the same time and I told her that I had a dream where she was having sex with another man and I watched. She asked if I was jealous and I told her no, in fact it really turned me on. We proceeded to have really hot sex and during it, I was really excited thinking that maybe she was into it! It was more intense than usual.

However as soon as we were finished she told me “you know that’s never going to happen right?” I was disappointed, but I let it drop.

Recently I bought her a rabbit vibrator on a lark. She knows I enjoy watching her masturbate and she will happily do that for me using her hand. She had never used a toy before. I showed her the vibrator and she was a little surprised but open to using it for me. We have proceeded to have her fuck the vibrator while taking me in her mouth.

Any thoughts on next steps to see if she is willing to move closer to being with another man? Do you think it’s a lost cause? I apologize for the long post and thank you for any suggestions!!!!
 
Thanks. I’ll try bringing up the life like dildo. We have watched porn, but it has been awhile now that our children are older!
 
Every woman should have lots of lovers. Males - If you love her -- you should focus on her and doing anything and everything that will make her happy and that includes her fucking any cock or pussy that she wants 1on1 or 3way or 4way. That includes you sucking cocks for her and licking her pussy clean after every cock she fucks and even putting your cock in a cock-cage and letting a man fuck your sissy-pussy. It is important that she fucks you with a strapon (weekly). It is all about making her happy. Any type of sex should be fun for both of you.

Next item - hope you will share the details of your past and current sex and your kinky fantasies. Where are you located?

Hello I am Robbie in Norman, Oklahoma - robbiewillsucku at gmail -- I used to be straight and dom then we got into swinging then I became a switch then a sub then more sub then very sub and I am now a sub sissy-fem cd bimale cuckold and I like it. I have 15 photos posted here:
https://imgur.com/uHQvmkx
https://imgur.com/aMXqXap
https://imgur.com/mKJmUZs
https://imgur.com/4hb4WxK
https://imgur.com/GBq2fbu
https://imgur.com/iETGkRj
https://imgur.com/grwAub1
https://imgur.com/lQF6Hx2
https://imgur.com/ZsS584W
https://imgur.com/UMY7AUo
 
I would appreciate any advice from the experts on this board, particularly any women.

My long time fantasy is to watch my wife with another man and then have sloppy seconds. We are in our late 40’s and we were both virgins when we met in college, so I am the only man she has ever been with. I’m afraid that may be a big deal for her.

Several years ago we woke up around the same time and I told her that I had a dream where she was having sex with another man and I watched. She asked if I was jealous and I told her no, in fact it really turned me on. We proceeded to have really hot sex and during it, I was really excited thinking that maybe she was into it! It was more intense than usual.

However as soon as we were finished she told me “you know that’s never going to happen right?” I was disappointed, but I let it drop.

Recently I bought her a rabbit vibrator on a lark. She knows I enjoy watching her masturbate and she will happily do that for me using her hand. She had never used a toy before. I showed her the vibrator and she was a little surprised but open to using it for me. We have proceeded to have her fuck the vibrator while taking me in her mouth.

Any thoughts on next steps to see if she is willing to move closer to being with another man? Do you think it’s a lost cause? I apologize for the long post and thank you for any suggestions!!!!
Try telling her that you keep having dreams about her having sex with another man. Let her know how much it turns you on. Just keeping it in the forefront of her mind will make her think about it more often and normalize it for her.
Also, try to reinforce the idea that you are not, ARE NOT, interested in being with another woman. Embellish your dream talk with how much you loved seeing her cum so hard on another man's cock in your dream. Tell her how she looked like she was having so nuch fun in your dream. That you'd never seen her cum so hard as when she was fucking him and it drove you wild to see her so satisfied.
 
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I would suggest that the next time you’re having good sex, in your own words, tell her or ask her, to think of you as if you’re another guy. Tell her you want her to role play, and it could be anyone she wishes, someone she knows, a celebrity, or a complete stranger, absolutely anyone. Don’t ask her who she’s thinking about, tell her you don’t want to know, but you want to let her decide openly and to fantasize freely and openly. It’s on you then to fall into character, and change the way you usually act when having sex with her. Give her the chance to actually not think of you, but of some other guy. When you feel that she is in a heightened state, softly begin to whisper in her ear just how sexy and how hot she looks and feels right then. Ask her if it feels good, remind her to close her eyes and let her imagination run wild. Continue to encourage her to just enjoy the moment and that she looks so beautiful. Let her take it from there and remain quiet. Make sure to give her plenty of affection like kissing and licking her neck and any other exogenous zones. Pay close attention to her body and to her breathing, this will tell you everything you need to know, you just have to be paying attention to what it’s telling you. When you’re finished and based on what her body and body movement told you, tell her that you have never seen her so amazing and sexy as she just was, and leave it at that! Don’t mention another word about it unless she does. Don’t bring it up whatsoever, until you’re having sex again, and then start all over again. If she didn’t appear to show any changes in the way she reacted the first time, or the second time, just keep doing the same thing until something gives. She’ll either eventually give in to her, and your desires, or she’ll show no response and might even tell you to stop. Let’s assume you noticed a difference in her, again, after the second time, afterwards remember to express just how sexy and amazing she looks and feels, only now add a little more. Ask her if she’s enjoying this game of role playing, playfully and excitedly, tell her you can definitely notice a difference, and that it really gets you excited and turns you on so much and you love it! Depending on her reaction or response, you might decide it’s the right time to let her know that it makes you so incredibly excited and turned on, thinking about you actually watching her with another guy, while you watch her, knowing that she’s fantasizing about it at the same time!
 
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Every woman should have lots of lovers. Males - If you love her -- you should focus on her and doing anything and everything that will make her happy and that includes her fucking any cock or pussy that she wants 1on1 or 3way or 4way. That includes you sucking cocks for her and licking her pussy clean after every cock she fucks and even putting your cock in a cock-cage and letting a man fuck your sissy-pussy. It is important that she fucks you with a strapon (weekly). It is all about making her happy. Any type of sex should be fun for both of you.

Next item - hope you will share the details of your past and current sex and your kinky fantasies. Where are you located?

Hello I am Robbie in Norman, Oklahoma - robbiewillsucku at gmail -- I used to be straight and dom then we got into swinging then I became a switch then a sub then more sub then very sub and I am now a sub sissy-fem cd bimale cuckold and I like it. I have 15 photos posted here:
https://imgur.com/uHQvmkx
https://imgur.com/aMXqXap
https://imgur.com/mKJmUZs
https://imgur.com/4hb4WxK
https://imgur.com/GBq2fbu
https://imgur.com/iETGkRj
https://imgur.com/grwAub1
https://imgur.com/lQF6Hx2
https://imgur.com/ZsS584W
https://imgur.com/UMY7AUo
With respect, this is bollocks. Neither HE or SHE shold do anything just to please the other, if you want to fine, but if not, theres the start of the end of your marriage.
 
I would suggest that the next time you’re having good sex, in your own words, tell her or ask her, to think of you as if you’re another guy. Tell her you want her to role play, and it could be anyone she wishes, someone she knows, a celebrity, or a complete stranger, absolutely anyone. Don’t ask her who she’s thinking about, tell her you don’t want to know, but you want to let her decide openly and to fantasize freely and openly. It’s on you then to fall into character, and change the way you usually act when having sex with her. Give her the chance to actually not think of you, but of some other guy. When you feel that she is in a heightened state, softly begin to whisper in her ear just how sexy and how hot she looks and feels right then. Ask her if it feels good, remind her to close her eyes and let her imagination run wild. Continue to encourage her to just enjoy the moment and that she looks so beautiful. Let her take it from there and remain quiet. Make sure to give her plenty of affection like kissing and licking her neck and any other exogenous zones. Pay close attention to her body and to her breathing, this will tell you everything you need to know, you just have to be paying attention to what it’s telling you. When you’re finished and based on what her body and body movement told you, tell her that you have never seen her so amazing and sexy as she just was, and leave it at that! Don’t mention another word about it unless she does. Don’t bring it up whatsoever, until you’re having sex again, and then start all over again. If she didn’t appear to show any changes in the way she reacted the first time, or the second time, just keep doing the same thing until something gives. She’ll either eventually give in to her, and your desires, or she’ll show no response and might even tell you to stop. Let’s assume you noticed a difference in her, again, after the second time, afterwards remember to express just how sexy and amazing she looks and feels, only now add a little more. Ask her if she’s enjoying this game of role playing, playfully and excitedly, tell her you can definitely notice a difference, and that it really gets you excited and turns you on so much and you love it! Depending on her reaction or response, you might decide it’s the right time to let her know that it makes you so incredibly excited and turned on, thinking about you actually watching her with another guy, while you watch her, knowing that she’s fantasizing about it at the same time!
That is fantastic advice! Thank you. I will try that sometime when the mood and the setting is right!
 
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