Any ideas how to let my young girlfriend try other guys?

[calamarito]

Hello,
My gf is only 20yo. She is really really attractive, very cute face, astonishing body.

She is the 'good girl' style. She is kind of person that would never break the rules. I.e. she does 'bad' things like ... eating sweets, not exercising, and that is more or less her limit. She comes from the country side from a traditional family. So she has a traditional, somewhat, concept of couple. The guy, the girl. Having relations with others is wrong.

In that context... I am wondering which posibilities I have to have her sleeping with other dudes. For me is a huge turn on. But even letting her know I have this fantasy might confuse her. From her cultural background, usually a boyfriend would be very jelous and will watch out that his gf does not cheat on him. However for me it would be a huge turn on.

Other than that, I am totally open, i.e. I would accept her conditions, like if she would not tell me details, etc. Honestly I would also turned on if she would cheat on me secretly. But of course I would not know it so how can I be turned on? ;-)

Another thing is... I would be also turned on if I would find out some dudes hit on her on social networks. She is so hot that I am convinced this could be the case. But I do not check her social networks so I cannot know.

In my head a possibility would be if we go out and have some drinks. But she is not like a heavy drinker.

When she goes out with her girlfriends she drinks a bit more. But then she textes me etc. i.e. seems pretty clear she is not into other dudes.

 

[Jxmmy69]

Hello,
My gf is only 20yo. She is really really attractive, very cute face, astonishing body.

She is the 'good girl' style. She is kind of person that would never break the rules. I.e. she does 'bad' things like ... eating sweets, not exercising, and that is more or less her limit. She comes from the country side from a traditional family. So she has a traditional, somewhat, concept of couple. The guy, the girl. Having relations with others is wrong.

In that context... I am wondering which posibilities I have to have her sleeping with other dudes. For me is a huge turn on. But even letting her know I have this fantasy might confuse her. From her cultural background, usually a boyfriend would be very jelous and will watch out that his gf does not cheat on him. However for me it would be a huge turn on.

Other than that, I am totally open, i.e. I would accept her conditions, like if she would not tell me details, etc. Honestly I would also turned on if she would cheat on me secretly. But of course I would not know it so how can I be turned on? ;-)

Another thing is... I would be also turned on if I would find out some dudes hit on her on social networks. She is so hot that I am convinced this could be the case. But I do not check her social networks so I cannot know.

In my head a possibility would be if we go out and have some drinks. But she is not like a heavy drinker.

When she goes out with her girlfriends she drinks a bit more. But then she textes me etc. i.e. seems pretty clear she is not into other dudes.

Post some pics

 

[verkitwme]

This is such a common thread on here. The best response is TELL HER

 

[ottawacuckoldhusband]

This is such a common thread on here. The best response is TELL HER

I will echo what ”verkitwme” said above: you need to tell her!

The only thing I would add is that you also need to accept whatever answer she gives you, even if that answer is “no, I’m not into that”.

It’s honestly that easy. The first step is just to be open and honest with her and tell her about the fantasies that turn you on so much.

 

[mopal]

There are so many possibilities. Sure, one option is the NO BS solution - just tell her - quick and easy.
Doesn't sound like that is the best approach in this case - but you never know!

Instead you could try the long and patient approach:
Let her know she is sexy.
Let her know how good she is at sucking and fucking - boost her sexual confidence.
Play with dildos with her and comment on her ability to handle two cocks at the same time.
Start to fantasize with her during sex - about other guys - get her into the mindset and roleplay.

I doubt she will jump in to having sex with a stranger, alone, without you. She might go for a threesome in time, but I wouldn't count on it.

So yeah, perhaps just tell her about this fantasy of yours and see what she says. And accept her answer!

 

[calamarito]

Yeah that is what I though. I think the option of telling her directly won't work since she won't get it. Remember she also quite young. It would be different if she would be on her thirties or forties.

 

[ottawacuckoldhusband]

Yeah that is what I though. I think the option of telling her directly won't work since she won't get it. Remember she also quite young.

It goes without saying that you know your girlfriend much better than random folks on an Internet forum, and you will have a better idea on how she will react than most people on here.

If don’t feel comfortable telling her, as another commenter mentioned, maybe ease into the conversation by introducing dirty talk during sex (maybe about a threesome, or a strangers cock, etc) and see how she reacts. Perhaps watch some cuckold porn together and see what she says. These are great ways to start a conversation without actually starting one.

Also, and admittedly, it’s been a long time since I was in my twenties, but I don’t think you are giving enough credit to the maturity level of your gf. How do you absolutely know she won’t get it unless you talk to her about it (Once again though, you know her better than I).

And, the idea that you magically become mature enough to be a hotwife or a cuckold in your thirties is an assertion I would challenge.

In my opinion, what’s more important than age or sexual repertoire, is yours and hers ability to communicate effectively, and the ability to create a non judgemental safe space where you can share your ideas and Kinks and fantasies without fear of judgement or reprisal.

As an example, when I finally sat down with my wife and told her my fantasy, she in turn shared with me some of her deepest fantasies that she wanted to try out.

Communicating is not easy (nothing in life is), but its something worth leaning into in any relationship.

 

[calamarito]

It goes without saying that you know your girlfriend much better than random folks on an Internet forum, and you will have a better idea on how she will react than most people on here.

If don’t feel comfortable telling her, as another commenter mentioned, maybe ease into the conversation by introducing dirty talk during sex (maybe about a threesome, or a strangers cock, etc) and see how she reacts. Perhaps watch some cuckold porn together and see what she says. These are great ways to start a conversation without actually starting one.

Also, and admittedly, it’s been a long time since I was in my twenties, but I don’t think you are giving enough credit to the maturity level of your gf. How do you absolutely know she won’t get it unless you talk to her about it (Once again though, you know her better than I).

And, the idea that you magically become mature enough to be a hotwife or a cuckold in your thirties is an assertion I would challenge.

In my opinion, what’s more important than age or sexual repertoire, is yours and hers ability to communicate effectively, and the ability to create a non judgemental safe space where you can share your ideas and Kinks and fantasies without fear of judgement or reprisal.

As an example, when I finally sat down with my wife and told her my fantasy, she in turn shared with me some of her deepest fantasies that she wanted to try out.

Communicating is not easy (nothing in life is), but its something worth leaning into in any relationship.

Thank's man. You are quite right. Maybe age is not the most important thing. But let's say she is 21 now with a background that makes her like.... 10 yo. Let's say still lives in a disney movie world. I appreciate the remark that age is less relevant than I was thinking. However a bit, isn't it? Although I read here many folks started cuckolding lifestyles when they were in college. Anyway, I believe very young girls are less interested in penis, and get more aroused with licking their cunts while older like the penis, feel the penetration etc.

Anyway, let's see. The fact that she is a really wise and good girl makes the whole thing a hotter turn on.

 

[verkitwme]

Thank's man. You are quite right. Maybe age is not the most important thing. But let's say she is 21 now with a background that makes her like.... 10 yo. Let's say still lives in a disney movie world. I appreciate the remark that age is less relevant than I was thinking. However a bit, isn't it? Although I read here many folks started cuckolding lifestyles when they were in college. Anyway, I believe very young girls are less interested in penis, and get more aroused with licking their cunts while older like the penis, feel the penetration etc.

Anyway, let's see. The fact that she is a really wise and good girl makes the whole thing a hotter turn on.

The good girls (like I was) turn out to be very naughty...…...

 

[calamarito]

The good girls (like I was) turn out to be very naughty...…...

That's what I wish. Let's say, if I had a naughty gf and she fucks another dude, it would be less turn on than having a totally good girl and wise gf fucking another dude. Hehe, let's see.

The other thing is... I really do not like to make things too artificial.Like planning it a lot. I'd love it to happen very naturarily. But I think (think!) she does not feel sexual atraction so quickly. Not sure.

 

[verkitwme]

Have you two watched porn together? Not the raunchy type but search for some romantic stuff, good way to get started.

 

[Robert Smith]

Ask her. If you don't talk about it with her it will never happen.

 

[calamarito]

Good idea to watch some kind of porn thing. Let's see. I will try this direction. But I feel she is such a good girl, can hardly imagine her watching a porn movie. She claims she never masturbates (maybe she is too shy to admit she does,maybe she actually does not do it)

 

[2wheel]

Talk to her. If you can't handle the talk you'll never be able to handle the experience.

 

[verkitwme]

Talk to her. If you can't handle the talk you'll never be able to handle the experience.

Well said...….

 

[werekinky2]

Good idea to watch some kind of porn thing. Let's see. I will try this direction. But I feel she is such a good girl, can hardly imagine her watching a porn movie. She claims she never masturbates (maybe she is too shy to admit she does,maybe she actually does not do it)

My wife is 41 and says she does not masterbate i would love to share her with another man but she says she only wants me guess women are different than men

 

[verkitwme]

My wife is 41 and says she does not masterbate i would love to share her with another man but she says she only wants me guess women are different than men

Depends on the woman ……..

 

[werekinky2]

Depends on the woman ……..

Maybe

 

[mopal]

My wife is 41 and says she does not masterbate i would love to share her with another man but she says she only wants me guess women are different than men

My wife said the same thing, but lo and behold - now she has a lover who made her come three times the last time they (we) met!

 

[Uncledude55]

Hello,
My gf is only 20yo. She is really really attractive, very cute face, astonishing body.

She is the 'good girl' style. She is kind of person that would never break the rules. I.e. she does 'bad' things like ... eating sweets, not exercising, and that is more or less her limit. She comes from the country side from a traditional family. So she has a traditional, somewhat, concept of couple. The guy, the girl. Having relations with others is wrong.

In that context... I am wondering which posibilities I have to have her sleeping with other dudes. For me is a huge turn on. But even letting her know I have this fantasy might confuse her. From her cultural background, usually a boyfriend would be very jelous and will watch out that his gf does not cheat on him. However for me it would be a huge turn on.

Other than that, I am totally open, i.e. I would accept her conditions, like if she would not tell me details, etc. Honestly I would also turned on if she would cheat on me secretly. But of course I would not know it so how can I be turned on? ;-)

Another thing is... I would be also turned on if I would find out some dudes hit on her on social networks. She is so hot that I am convinced this could be the case. But I do not check her social networks so I cannot know.

In my head a possibility would be if we go out and have some drinks. But she is not like a heavy drinker.

When she goes out with her girlfriends she drinks a bit more. But then she textes me etc. i.e. seems pretty clear she is not into other dudes.

"Any ideas how to let my young girlfriend try other guys?"
Yeah....Break up with her.