Are There Any Genuine Fem's/Couples out there doing MFM?

[Bethx]

Hi, my husband wants to share me. He gets turned on when I've flirted before but he really wants to share me now. I've flipped at him. Why go that far?

Not interested in pics, men explaining about being small penis sized, ultaristic or competitive (just googled all that); are there any genuine women out there that have shared themselves and are still in a happy successful relationship?

 

[WNY3somecple]

My wife loves mfm

 

[Bethx]

My wife loves mfm

Thanks for your feedback. Would be really grateful for feedback from very your wife on how its impacted your relationship. To me it feels like trouble but...

 

[Cockneyal]

Of course there are, but the fact you have doubts tell me you should leave it to fantasy chat.

 

[Bethx]

Of course there are, but the fact you have doubts tell me you should leave it to fantasy chat.

I didn't say I had doubts... just want to hear from real people on how it impacts the dynamics of a relationship after their first MFM.

 

[WNY3somecple]

Thanks for your feedback. Would be really grateful for feedback from very your wife on how its impacted your relationship. To me it feels like trouble but...

There is a risk involved in any kind of open relationship but there is also risk in a monogamous one. To us the most important things are that 1). Your relationship is strong, this type of lifestyle can be great but it is unlikely to fix underlying issues. 2). You have a good sex life already and are just looking to spice things up. 3). Related to 1 and 2 you can already communicate open and honestly. Communication is key to this lifestyle.

Be open with each other about what you want, expect, limits, guidelines/rules and make them clear to any potential partners.

With rules and guidelines be flexible, in the heat of the moment something might get done (ie you might have a no kidding rule but in the heat of passion a kiss might happen, be prepared to stay calm and discuss it afterwards. ). Now if someone is crossing a huge line then yeah address it right then.

But to me it is communicate, communicate, communicate.

Now we are a strange couple in that we started sharing while still dating in college. Though it really only became a regular thing after we graduated. So not sure how it changed our dynamic since it was almost always a part of us

 

[Welder]

I didn't say I had doubts... just want to hear from real people on how it impacts the dynamics of a relationship after their first MFM.

Check your DM.

 

[Bethx]

I LOVE MFM! That's my favorite type of sexual activity. We have been doing this for quite some time and it has not affected our relationship in any significant way that I can tell. My husband and I have a very sexually open relationship but we are totally dedicated to each other and our relationship is very strong. If you read my article from Lifestylers magazine about getting into the lifestyle and then out of it for awhile, that might help you along a bit. If your husband isn't suited to the lifestyle then this won't go well. If his temperament isn't one of rational calmness and if he expressed the jealousy that HE WILL FEEL in uncomfortable ways, then this will not work. I recommend that you find a guy or two on your own to enjoy sex solo. See how your husband reacts to that. Does he encourage more or does he seem jealous and angry over it, etc. MFM should come along only after you have determined that he is going to be able to handle everything that comes along with his wife having sex with other men. Does he encourage you to have sex with other guys? Maybe these articles will help in some way, but they are VERY sanitized for the lifestyle community. We have to be careful what we say and do because the LS community is very judgemental and there are certain taboos. Hopefully that makes sense to you.

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Mrs Hotwife

Wow! Thanks for taking the time to respond and share these links.

So I had a conversation in bed last night with my husband, quite late, after a long day (both busy professionals). I asked him to explain his motivations for sharing me. He was quite reluctant, almost tense, to talk. I was quite emotional and angry last weekend. We have in the past talked dirty when making love which has occasionally involved another man, but I've always taken that as just talk to be left at the bedroom door. Last weekend he said he'd really want to share me for real.

He is an attractivs, rational, loving, caring and compassionate husband. He is my world.

He said he didn't want to upset me again. I asked him to write everything down explaining exactly how he feels so we can have a conversation about it. Seems clinical but even if I don't take it any further, at least I'll understand him more.

Thank you so much for your advice, it's made a big difference. Huge hugs to you xxx

 

[Bethx]

If there is a lot of sincere communication between both of you and you reach a consensus then you have a happy successful relationship, you just have to know that as a woman you have to do what you feel and what you want and your husband has to understand this and give you all his support. I am very happy shared wife and I love my husband more that ever when he encourages me to fuck with other men.

Thanks for your reply. I've asked my husband to explain his true motivations so I can understand more.

 

[Bethx]

It will either ruin your relationship because one of you cannot handle it or it will be a little sexual excitement for a while after then no big deal and won’t change your relationship at all. I had the latter but my biggest fear was the former. It is only as big a deal as you make it and the next morning real life still has to happen.
I think of it as a leisure activity or sport, you enjoy practicing/playing with your new friends but you don’t love them, you touch each other but it is just for fun and enjoyment. It’s really nobody’s business outside of those involved and doesn’t effect anything unless someone in the relationship freaks out or someone outside finds out

Thank you.

 

[Loridan]

Wife an I are very conservative especially her. We enjoy semi regular visits from a guy we know. We all 3 enjoy what we do, nothing weird happens, we take turns with her. It's an exciting relaxing night with him. Makes us sound hard core, we're not at all, just some extra zip to our sex life. And yes it's scary, awkward and we have weird feelings but we do enjoy it....wife cried for 2 days after our 1st time.

 

[MikeHoncho]

Hi, my husband wants to share me. He gets turned on when I've flirted before but he really wants to share me now. I've flipped at him. Why go that far?

Not interested in pics, men explaining about being small penis sized, ultaristic or competitive (just googled all that); are there any genuine women out there that have shared themselves and are still in a happy successful relationship?

Yeah my wife loves MFM. She likes to be the center of attention and she just loves making guys cum. Highly recommend it

 

[Krummsaebel]

I am not doing MFM when with her, but that is mainly because I don't like nude men so close to me. When she is out alone, she sometimes get double attention and she likes that very much. She once also had three men for her.

 

[Hotmom]

Yes

 

[pdxluv2suck]

There is nothing like MFM for me and my wife. I love to lay back with her licking my shaft while a friend is pounding her doggy style. When things get hot and his balls are slapping at her pussy and ass I can't take it any longer. I cum so hard I almost feel like I'm gonna pass out! Afterward she will gently clean his cock with her sweet mouth. A fine finish. Or at least a break until we switch positions on her. Her orgasms are epic during this whole time. Its like one long orgasm for her.

 

[cjiggler]

Cindy and I have enjoyed MFM with A LOT of guys over the years. We have been married 42 years now and still going! I will say that it's starting to become a problem as we age. I say that because at 60 I am built better than 90% of the population. I have been doing HRT for 11 years, lift and do cardio almost daily, and do a very low dose of Cialis daily in hopes of fending off dementia and/or Alzheimer(both parents had). So I am still very very horny all the time. I also have an obsession with sharing my wife, but she no longer wants to be shared in MFM. I have suggest maybe just letting some young guy video tape us having sex and if he is hard when we are done, she suck him off, but she has even declined that. So I am a bit sexually frustrated. As I always say a satisfied cock will never cheat...make sure your man is satisfied.

 

[JMNBABE]

I can't read all the responses right now, but I can tele you we have been involved in me having extramarital affairs since our 2nd year of marriage, and it has worked pretty well for us. Couple hickup's here and there, one white guy from work I get really hung up on and was ready to leave my husband and son for him; and a Black Lovers that I fell head over heels for......luckily we were both married with kids and didn't want to ruin that. Wish I had had his baby tho.....
It's pretty hard to separate sex and emotion, and anyone that says they can is not really involved (my wife fucks everyone I want her to fuck, I suck their cocks too, and she stops when I say stop and starts when I say start;.....those postings). But we are still together and I am hoping to find a new Lover soon.

J (the wife)