Beginning of convincing my gf

What should i do next?


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Im in relation with a girl for 4 years now she is 21 im 22 years her body is 34-28-32
As far i know she never watched porn she find those gross and im her 1st relationship where she is my 2nd , also we both are virgin planning to marry after job which is approx 3 years from now on


So after a lot days of headscrathing i finally told her about my fantasy of MMF threesome, so she is in girls hostel in another city, i did video call and told I'm missing her etc then i told , that recently im having a fantasy, she asked about it i told its threesome fantasy , and i make it clear thats its not that i have reduced my love or want to get other women thats why suggesting, and im still possessive about her but its emotionally, to be safe i told her that im not sure about this fantasy since we haven't tried practical sex yet , but in future i may ask you about this stuff

So her reply : "i agree with your point that 1st marriage and all,, with time what fantasy will kick in me i dont know , but this thrresome or dp is gross to me i wont do these"

I told im not convincing you just telling if it was a stranger and we never see each other after

She : " you are o with seeing me with someone else?"

I : " as long you treat other person as a like sex toy and dont get emotional attached, and its a stranger and we wont meet again and im with you in the action , with all this paramet im ok"

Then she told nah its gross and told that she take physical relation seriously and dont want extra partner according to her physical comes from emotion so just for entertainment she cant have sex with other she isn't that type

Considering her anger and asked her is it impossible for her to not getting string attached after one night stand on which she said no, then i said ok leave it then.

She : "we both are enough good no need to spoil the relationship "








Now what should i do next
 
Some extent its ok but the way she is telling that she take physical relation so seriously that she will sleep only with that man whom she love so if i insist much and she end up loving other male it will destroy the relationship thats her point
Women to some extent always get involved emotionally just how we are does not mean it endangers your existing relationship.
 
That’s what we tell ourselves because it is how we are taught to think, yes we need some emotional attachment to fuck a guy but even she, if you asked properly, will admit having sex with a guy she liked only to find she did not like him really. Your follow up question should be how long did you carry on fucking him after you discovered you really did not like him if she is honest you will be surprised at her answer.
 
Well not all of us are the same but if a woman values the relationship she has then she is fearful of reprisals if she strays. Your task is to ensure she feels loved safe and secure and that you are not looking to fuck other women. Educate her with information about husbands who enjoy watching their wives with other men, talk to her openly, ask her if she would enjoy the touch and caress of another man if she knew it would not cause you any problems or your relationship. Explain that this is part of who you are and she is so beautiful and sexy to you that seeing her with other men is very arousing and part of your sexuality. Ask her if she likes you being horny for her and convince her how much hornier for her and only her you will become after watching her. Finally allow her some attachment for the guy she chooses but it’s your job to ensure she continues to love only you, none of these men will give her the sexual freedom or offer her love unconditionally as you will. Over time and with some slight encouragement not Many women will say no.
 
Wait but do other things buy some porn with guys watching theirs wives fuck, make sure they are seductive rather than wham bam thank you mam. Also buy some that tell a story of how wives can enjoy their sexuality to the full with a cuckold husband. Do not mention what you want let the messages drip feed in when she watches the porn with you make sure you pleasure her enthusiastically, especially with your tongue. Buy her some nice clothes tell her how gorgeous she looks, take her out to be admired by other men, tell her when she is being looked at by them, make her feel good about herself and her body, gently no pushing. Take her somewhere you are not known have her wear some sexy underwear and clothes make sure plenty of men are present let them look at her, if you think she might be hit on without any danger to you or her go to the toilets and allow time for this to happen. Forget even mentioning your fantasy just let her enjoy yours and others attention, never never under any circumstances show jealousy do this for some time then encourage her to go out alone with her friends that’s enough for the time being be patient.
 
Ok currently we again in long distance relationship so any guide for now? Or i just wait to over the long distance one so i can share some porn together kinda moment.
 
Long distance is a difficult time for any relationship depends on how secure you feel, if you think you can pick up without any problems when you get back together then you could use this time to your advantage. This is a dangerous tactic but could gently let her know that if she gets lonely you would not be unduly upset if she took up with some male company, don’t push it just leave it out there. Make sure in all this that she feels loved and that you will be there for her when she get back with you no matter what. However encourage her to feel like a single woman for her period away, again no matter what happens or what she says as she will probably test you never, never show jealousy. Nothing may necessarily take place but you have placed a seed on the other hand if by accident or design she does seek male company and it becomes sexual it will have a duel effect on her, she will enjoy the excitement and sexual freedom, also if she tells you about it allows you to compliment her as discussed previously by saying your not surprised as she really is hot and sexy and you hoped she has enjoyed herself as she deserves to. If she does go this route the second important thing is she now knows you will not get jealous or leave her, that you won’t attempt to chase other women and it will not damage your relationship, this would make any woman think believe me.
 
I think the key to getting started is working on becoming sexually transparent. This means getting to a point where both of you are comfortable enough to have no inhibitions and be completely open about all your fantasies/desires without hesitation. I know my penis size is average at best, tad on the skinny side. I’m well aware every girl I’ve been with has likely been with a guy slightly or much bigger than I am. For the longest time my wife said had the cliche responses that my size was “perfect for her” or “it’s fine.” Told me I’m the first guy that she was able to consistently get off with during sex. Wasn’t sure I believed her at the time. I started asking her about her past sexual partners. Eventually she admitted she dated a guy that was really big. Most of the other guys were average or slightly above. After many talks I began asking how My size compared to the more average guys she was with. She finally admitted that I was one of the smallest she has ever been with. Then admitted that she was surprised that she was able to get off with me to easily compared to the others. She said my shape and length happen to hit her G spot perfect. Even though she admitted I was one of the smallest it made me for more confident that she was being truthful about me being able to get her off so easily. As she got more comfortable she began to go into detail her likes and dislikes about the sex with her past partners. Of course I was most curious about the guy she said was much larger. She guesses 7.5”-8” long and 5.5” to 6” girth since she could barely wrap her hand around it. She explained she didn’t get off very often with him but the feeling of it was different and amazing. Especially when he would cum inside her. His big penis throbbing inside her as he came was much more intense since he was so deep and filled her up. Eventually I suggested we try experimenting with penis sleeves and large strap on dildos. The first few times she told me it felt ok but still preferred mine. I later found out that was a lie and she was just holding back because she didn’t want to hurt my feelings by enjoying it too much. It took me a long time to make her feel comfortable enough to not hold back. I assured her it would turn me on if it made her cum really hard. Over time she seemed to start enjoying it more and more. The one night after a lot of alcohol I fucked her with a big strap on and she lost all inhibitions. It was crazy to see the difference. She was so much more vocal than she is with me and had multiple intense orgasms. Orgasms she had appeared to be more intense. Afterwards I asked if I shared her with another guy who has a bigger penis than me he would likely make her cum much harder than I can. She smirked and hesitantly admitted “Yes it probably would”. It was so hot to finally hear her be completely open and admit that. That’s when the flood gates opened. We started role playing. She would wear a blind fold and pretend I was sharing her with a guy friend of hers that she knows has an amazing big penis but never slept with him but always wanted to. This time she didn’t hold back at all. I’ve never seen a girl cum so hard in my life and it was amazing to see how much pleasure she got from it. I was actually envious. Now she finally admits that occasionally sex with a big dick like that can be incredible if guy uses it properly. Satisfies her in a different way than I can. But…it’s not something she would want on the regular. She would much prefer a dick my size that gets her off really well and consistently. this is the point where she finally asked her guy hung friend i mentioned if he would be interested in joining us.
 
Why on earth would you want your GIRLFRIEND who is a VIRGIN to be fucked by some other guy whom she might actually fall in love with? Leave this entire thing alone, stop talking to her about it and either marry her as planned or find somebody who is down with your fantasy. This WILL ABSOLUTELY KILL your relationship if you let it continue. You aren't even married and she doesn't even know what sex is yet. She has no idea what she will want in the future, just as she told you.
 
I think the key to getting started is working on becoming sexually transparent. This means getting to a point where both of you are comfortable enough to have no inhibitions and be completely open about all your fantasies/desires without hesitation. I know my penis size is average at best, tad on the skinny side. I’m well aware every girl I’ve been with has likely been with a guy slightly or much bigger than I am. For the longest time my wife said had the cliche responses that my size was “perfect for her” or “it’s fine.” Told me I’m the first guy that she was able to consistently get off with during sex. Wasn’t sure I believed her at the time. I started asking her about her past sexual partners. Eventually she admitted she dated a guy that was really big. Most of the other guys were average or slightly above. After many talks I began asking how My size compared to the more average guys she was with. She finally admitted that I was one of the smallest she has ever been with. Then admitted that she was surprised that she was able to get off with me to easily compared to the others. She said my shape and length happen to hit her G spot perfect. Even though she admitted I was one of the smallest it made me for more confident that she was being truthful about me being able to get her off so easily. As she got more comfortable she began to go into detail her likes and dislikes about the sex with her past partners. Of course I was most curious about the guy she said was much larger. She guesses 7.5”-8” long and 5.5” to 6” girth since she could barely wrap her hand around it. She explained she didn’t get off very often with him but the feeling of it was different and amazing. Especially when he would cum inside her. His big penis throbbing inside her as he came was much more intense since he was so deep and filled her up. Eventually I suggested we try experimenting with penis sleeves and large strap on dildos. The first few times she told me it felt ok but still preferred mine. I later found out that was a lie and she was just holding back because she didn’t want to hurt my feelings by enjoying it too much. It took me a long time to make her feel comfortable enough to not hold back. I assured her it would turn me on if it made her cum really hard. Over time she seemed to start enjoying it more and more. The one night after a lot of alcohol I fucked her with a big strap on and she lost all inhibitions. It was crazy to see the difference. She was so much more vocal than she is with me and had multiple intense orgasms. Orgasms she had appeared to be more intense. Afterwards I asked if I shared her with another guy who has a bigger penis than me he would likely make her cum much harder than I can. She smirked and hesitantly admitted “Yes it probably would”. It was so hot to finally hear her be completely open and admit that. That’s when the flood gates opened. We started role playing. She would wear a blind fold and pretend I was sharing her with a guy friend of hers that she knows has an amazing big penis but never slept with him but always wanted to. This time she didn’t hold back at all. I’ve never seen a girl cum so hard in my life and it was amazing to see how much pleasure she got from it. I was actually envious. Now she finally admits that occasionally sex with a big dick like that can be incredible if guy uses it properly. Satisfies her in a different way than I can. But…it’s not something she would want on the regular. She would much prefer a dick my size that gets her off really well and consistently. this is the point where she finally asked her guy hung friend i mentioned if he would be interested in joining us.
What is your size
 
Why on earth would you want your GIRLFRIEND who is a VIRGIN to be fucked by some other guy whom she might actually fall in love with? Leave this entire thing alone, stop talking to her about it and either marry her as planned or find somebody who is down with your fantasy. This WILL ABSOLUTELY KILL your relationship if you let it continue. You aren't even married and she doesn't even know what sex is yet. She has no idea what she will want in the future, just as she told you.
She knows what sex is we had intimacy except penetration, i will keep her virginity but after that i want her to be synchronize with this fantasy without any strings attached
 
Ok currently we again in long distance relationship so any guide for now? Or i just wait to over the long distance one so i can share some porn together kinda moment.
Dude, you're putting the cart before the horse, as they say... You need like a 10-year plan here, starting with actually having sex - and I mean, vaginal sex, not just oral or whatever. Have sex for like a year or two, then you can start slowly introducing other things. There's a lot of stuff to try and enjoy before making the jump to MMF or anything like that. Believe me man, life is long and things get less exciting over time, so best to pace yourself on the kinks.