Confessed about my Cuckold Fantacy to my Girlfriend. Need your advice.

[Willy69Wonka]

Hello Guys! I need your help. I posted this on CuckoldPsychology and HotwifeLifestyle but i got mixed answers. So decided to post this here as well.

So a little background about the situation. Im with this amazing girl for 6 years now and we love each other so much. We are probably gonna get married next year, We are from India and live in different cities because of work for now. We haven't had penis in vagina sex yet. She wants to wait till marriage and she's a virgin. It's the tradition here in India. We do oral and many other things when we meet. She's not into sexting so how we get off when we are away is we watch porn and talk dirty to each other and cum. About my girl. She's a little freaky and she hates vanilla sex. She loves rough sex and has a little naughty side and into kinks. I'm also a very openminded boy with lots of fantasies and kinks.

So few weeks ago i decided to tell my girlfriend about my cuckold fantasy. but i don't think i did it the right way and kind of effed things up.

When we were gonna watch porn i asked her if she likes to watch something we've not watched before. And i listed few categories we haven't watched. Even though we've watched a cuckold video by an accident i listed Cuckold in the list. The list was MFM, FMF, Cuckold, BDSM, Femdom, Lesbian and Gay. She Asked what cuckold is, What MFM is and what FMF is and after thinking she selected MFM.

That day we couldn't watch porn because her friend came over. So the next day i i said lets watch and i said i have to tell her something. i asked her if she remember the cuckold video we watched the other day. She said no but then after a while she said yes. i said i loved it and the next day i looked for the full video and watched again and that it really excited me. She asked why didnt i tell her and stuff and it got me really excited her asking that way. so i said i watched few more also. Then she asked if i wanted to do it in real life. I said Im open to it if she wants to try it. She didnt really react to it well and It was a No from her. After some explaining we ended up watching MFM porn anyway. But after that she didnt talk about it.

Im really really really into this but i dont want to force her or anything because if she's into it only i will enjoy this, So guys whats next? Do i give it up or anything else i should do? I mean lots of wives / girlfriends has gotten into this after being completely against it right? Should i talk about it again? Or wait and see if she brings it up? When we watch porn should i send cuckold porn or MFM? (we watch chastity porn where husband is caged but wearing a strapon and fucking wife. Chastity was her idea and she came up with it a long time ago before i said i like cuckolding.) Anything else i can do to encourage her? With the kinks we have and things we like to do i have this small hope that one day we'll go through with this and ended up getting into the lifestyle. What do you guys think? Really looking forward to your answers and advices. Thanks.

*im not looking to do this immediately. Maybe in 3,4 years? I just want to make her use to it so it might grow on her? not trying to manipulate but her understanding what this is about and get her to think about it?

*not looking for a bull or to share pics of my girl 🙂

Sorry for the long post and sorry if my English is bad. Not a native speaker.

 

[myjuicywife]

based on what I've read, it sounds like she's into some aspects of cuckold, but maybe not others. you said she enjoys MFM and chastity as things she likes, for example. rather than painting with a broad brush, probe about things she enjoys and those she doesn't. ultimately, you want her to participate in things you have in common, right? whether there is a label or not ...

 

[6inches]

i agree with my juicy, i think you are on the right track, she is already kinky, so play along with it. its gonna be hard until you are finally living together.

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[Hot4maturelady]

Hello Guys! I need your help. I posted this on CuckoldPsychology and HotwifeLifestyle but i got mixed answers. So decided to post this here as well.

So a little background about the situation. Im with this amazing girl for 6 years now and we love each other so much. We are probably gonna get married next year, We are from India and live in different cities because of work for now. We haven't had penis in vagina sex yet. She wants to wait till marriage and she's a virgin. It's the tradition here in India. We do oral and many other things when we meet. She's not into sexting so how we get off when we are away is we watch porn and talk dirty to each other and cum. About my girl. She's a little freaky and she hates vanilla sex. She loves rough sex and has a little naughty side and into kinks. I'm also a very openminded boy with lots of fantasies and kinks.

So few weeks ago i decided to tell my girlfriend about my cuckold fantasy. but i don't think i did it the right way and kind of effed things up.

When we were gonna watch porn i asked her if she likes to watch something we've not watched before. And i listed few categories we haven't watched. Even though we've watched a cuckold video by an accident i listed Cuckold in the list. The list was MFM, FMF, Cuckold, BDSM, Femdom, Lesbian and Gay. She Asked what cuckold is, What MFM is and what FMF is and after thinking she selected MFM.

That day we couldn't watch porn because her friend came over. So the next day i i said lets watch and i said i have to tell her something. i asked her if she remember the cuckold video we watched the other day. She said no but then after a while she said yes. i said i loved it and the next day i looked for the full video and watched again and that it really excited me. She asked why didnt i tell her and stuff and it got me really excited her asking that way. so i said i watched few more also. Then she asked if i wanted to do it in real life. I said Im open to it if she wants to try it. She didnt really react to it well and It was a No from her. After some explaining we ended up watching MFM porn anyway. But after that she didnt talk about it.

Im really really really into this but i dont want to force her or anything because if she's into it only i will enjoy this, So guys whats next? Do i give it up or anything else i should do? I mean lots of wives / girlfriends has gotten into this after being completely against it right? Should i talk about it again? Or wait and see if she brings it up? When we watch porn should i send cuckold porn or MFM? (we watch chastity porn where husband is caged but wearing a strapon and fucking wife. Chastity was her idea and she came up with it a long time ago before i said i like cuckolding.) Anything else i can do to encourage her? With the kinks we have and things we like to do i have this small hope that one day we'll go through with this and ended up getting into the lifestyle. What do you guys think? Really looking forward to your answers and advices. Thanks.

*im not looking to do this immediately. Maybe in 3,4 years? I just want to make her use to it so it might grow on her? not trying to manipulate but her understanding what this is about and get her to think about it?

*not looking for a bull or to share pics of my girl 🙂

Sorry for the long post and sorry if my English is bad. Not a native speaker.

hi i am too in exactly same situation with few differences i am married and we are together for around 10 years or so. i am too from india with all other things same.

 

[Fazeldex]

Hello Guys! I need your help. I posted this on CuckoldPsychology and HotwifeLifestyle but i got mixed answers. So decided to post this here as well.

So a little background about the situation. Im with this amazing girl for 6 years now and we love each other so much. We are probably gonna get married next year, We are from India and live in different cities because of work for now. We haven't had penis in vagina sex yet. She wants to wait till marriage and she's a virgin. It's the tradition here in India. We do oral and many other things when we meet. She's not into sexting so how we get off when we are away is we watch porn and talk dirty to each other and cum. About my girl. She's a little freaky and she hates vanilla sex. She loves rough sex and has a little naughty side and into kinks. I'm also a very openminded boy with lots of fantasies and kinks.

So few weeks ago i decided to tell my girlfriend about my cuckold fantasy. but i don't think i did it the right way and kind of effed things up.

When we were gonna watch porn i asked her if she likes to watch something we've not watched before. And i listed few categories we haven't watched. Even though we've watched a cuckold video by an accident i listed Cuckold in the list. The list was MFM, FMF, Cuckold, BDSM, Femdom, Lesbian and Gay. She Asked what cuckold is, What MFM is and what FMF is and after thinking she selected MFM.

That day we couldn't watch porn because her friend came over. So the next day i i said lets watch and i said i have to tell her something. i asked her if she remember the cuckold video we watched the other day. She said no but then after a while she said yes. i said i loved it and the next day i looked for the full video and watched again and that it really excited me. She asked why didnt i tell her and stuff and it got me really excited her asking that way. so i said i watched few more also. Then she asked if i wanted to do it in real life. I said Im open to it if she wants to try it. She didnt really react to it well and It was a No from her. After some explaining we ended up watching MFM porn anyway. But after that she didnt talk about it.

Im really really really into this but i dont want to force her or anything because if she's into it only i will enjoy this, So guys whats next? Do i give it up or anything else i should do? I mean lots of wives / girlfriends has gotten into this after being completely against it right? Should i talk about it again? Or wait and see if she brings it up? When we watch porn should i send cuckold porn or MFM? (we watch chastity porn where husband is caged but wearing a strapon and fucking wife. Chastity was her idea and she came up with it a long time ago before i said i like cuckolding.) Anything else i can do to encourage her? With the kinks we have and things we like to do i have this small hope that one day we'll go through with this and ended up getting into the lifestyle. What do you guys think? Really looking forward to your answers and advices. Thanks.

*im not looking to do this immediately. Maybe in 3,4 years? I just want to make her use to it so it might grow on her? not trying to manipulate but her understanding what this is about and get her to think about it?

*not looking for a bull or to share pics of my girl 🙂

Sorry for the long post and sorry if my English is bad. Not a native speaker.

Hello Guys! I need your help. I posted this on CuckoldPsychology and HotwifeLifestyle but i got mixed answers. So decided to post this here as well.

So a little background about the situation. Im with this amazing girl for 6 years now and we love each other so much. We are probably gonna get married next year, We are from India and live in different cities because of work for now. We haven't had penis in vagina sex yet. She wants to wait till marriage and she's a virgin. It's the tradition here in India. We do oral and many other things when we meet. She's not into sexting so how we get off when we are away is we watch porn and talk dirty to each other and cum. About my girl. She's a little freaky and she hates vanilla sex. She loves rough sex and has a little naughty side and into kinks. I'm also a very openminded boy with lots of fantasies and kinks.

So few weeks ago i decided to tell my girlfriend about my cuckold fantasy. but i don't think i did it the right way and kind of effed things up.

When we were gonna watch porn i asked her if she likes to watch something we've not watched before. And i listed few categories we haven't watched. Even though we've watched a cuckold video by an accident i listed Cuckold in the list. The list was MFM, FMF, Cuckold, BDSM, Femdom, Lesbian and Gay. She Asked what cuckold is, What MFM is and what FMF is and after thinking she selected MFM.

That day we couldn't watch porn because her friend came over. So the next day i i said lets watch and i said i have to tell her something. i asked her if she remember the cuckold video we watched the other day. She said no but then after a while she said yes. i said i loved it and the next day i looked for the full video and watched again and that it really excited me. She asked why didnt i tell her and stuff and it got me really excited her asking that way. so i said i watched few more also. Then she asked if i wanted to do it in real life. I said Im open to it if she wants to try it. She didnt really react to it well and It was a No from her. After some explaining we ended up watching MFM porn anyway. But after that she didnt talk about it.

Im really really really into this but i dont want to force her or anything because if she's into it only i will enjoy this, So guys whats next? Do i give it up or anything else i should do? I mean lots of wives / girlfriends has gotten into this after being completely against it right? Should i talk about it again? Or wait and see if she brings it up? When we watch porn should i send cuckold porn or MFM? (we watch chastity porn where husband is caged but wearing a strapon and fucking wife. Chastity was her idea and she came up with it a long time ago before i said i like cuckolding.) Anything else i can do to encourage her? With the kinks we have and things we like to do i have this small hope that one day we'll go through with this and ended up getting into the lifestyle. What do you guys think? Really looking forward to your answers and advices. Thanks.

*im not looking to do this immediately. Maybe in 3,4 years? I just want to make her use to it so it might grow on her? not trying to manipulate but her understanding what this is about and get her to think about it?

*not looking for a bull or to share pics of my girl 🙂

Sorry for the long post and sorry if my English is bad. Not a native speaker.

Be Careful ! Slow it down. Let her pick the theme and topic of naughty sex. If she never picks it, then you got a real problem. Curious, has she fucked anyone else before ?

 

[Craigatore]

Be Careful ! Slow it down. Let her pick the theme and topic of naughty sex. If she never picks it, then you got a real problem. Curious, has she fucked anyone else before ?

He said she is virgin. She might have done other things tough

 

[Fazeldex]

He said she is virgin. She might have done other things tough

Thanks. I must have missed that. I recall reading. He had not put his penis in her or something like that. I was kinda hoping she had fucked other men.

 

[Filipinlust]

You planted the seed in her head. Give it time to grow. In the meantime see if she is willing to wear something sexy for you and then encourag her to wear something a little suggestive when you go out. Take it slow. Just let her know how hot she is and how much she turns you on.

 

[Slakka]

Share pics of your girl anyway? Exchange? I have a hot Indian slut to show u too

 

[throatslayer570]

Share pics of your girl anyway? Exchange? I have a hot Indian slut to show u too

not my girlfriend but my new tinder slut 🥵

 

[Willy69Wonka]

based on what I've read, it sounds like she's into some aspects of cuckold, but maybe not others. you said she enjoys MFM and chastity as things she likes, for example. rather than painting with a broad brush, probe about things she enjoys and those she doesn't. ultimately, you want her to participate in things you have in common, right? whether there is a label or not ...

Yeah man for sure! Im more of a Stag than a cuck so im perfectly into Threesomes!

 

[Willy69Wonka]

i agree with my juicy, i think you are on the right track, she is already kinky, so play along with it. its gonna be hard until you are finally living together.

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Yeah thats exactly what i thought! Will take things slow

 

[Willy69Wonka]

hi i am too in exactly same situation with few differences i am married and we are together for around 10 years or so. i am too from india with all other things same.

How is it going for you bro?

 

[Willy69Wonka]

Thanks. I must have missed that. I recall reading. He had not put his penis in her or something like that. I was kinda hoping she had fucked other men.

No. She is a virgin but has sucked her Ex's Dick!

 

[Willy69Wonka]

You planted the seed in her head. Give it time to grow. In the meantime see if she is willing to wear something sexy for you and then encourag her to wear something a little suggestive when you go out. Take it slow. Just let her know how hot she is and how much she turns you on.

Im already doing this I got her to wear crop tops and she bought like 5 the other day. Everyday i tell her how hot she is and how much she turns me on.

 

[Willy69Wonka]

He said she is virgin. She might have done other things tough

Yeah she has sucked her Ex's dick and he has touched her

 

[ChatoChato]

Good luck!

 

[arltxstagnvixen]

She's a virgin, you say. Really, not the best start for pushing so hard into heavy kinks. It makes sense... What is new to her can also be threatening to her. Taboo is one thing, but dangerous is just plain dangerous in her mind.
From what you posted, it sounds to me more like she's trying to please but has some hard limits.
And once you hit the wall of those limits, it made her uncomfortable.
Her being uncomfortable is NOT where you want things to be.

In Psychology, there is something called "Fixation."
You can look into fixation on your own, but for the purpose of this thread; You must remember that your fantasy is a fixation.
A fixation can be very powerful, but is often only powerful for the person who is fixated. A fixated person cannot understand why others are not fixated by it. A person who is not fixated cannot understand how a fixated person could be fixated on that fantasy.
And...
That is a huge turn off for the non-fixated person.

When you are fixated, you are distracted from Reality and Real Life cues and clues.
You can easily think that you are making progress when in reality, you are only pushing her away.
And you... are definitely fixated. You can see this clearly in that the fantasy was strong before you met this girl. You did not develop it from wanting something for her... but for yourself.

Contrary to what anyone seeking self-validation may tell you; You cannot create a fixation for another person. You cannot create a mind for another person. A barking dog cannot move a mountain. You can influence... But you cannot make them be anyone.
Really... if it was so easy to make another persons wants real to them and for them, parenting would be easy.
So would marriage.
But they are not easy - not at all. They are hard and they are baffling. Because in the end, we all have our Own Damn Minds.
You cannot do anything to make another person what you want them to be.
But you CAN do something about yourself.
You asked for advice and ask and you shall receive:
You have created an unhealthy situation for yourself and this unhealthy position will affect her.
If you Truly actually really care about this human being, you will address your health - in order to protect hers.
Because: Trust is healthy. A lack of it in self or others is not.
Open understanding is healthy. Trying to persuade or to please another is not.
Fixation... is just plain unhealthy.
You do not need to remove the fantasy in order to remove the fixation.

If she is uncomfortable talking about this fixation, then Do Not Talk about it. If you keep making her uncomfortable, she will begin to remove that discomfort.
Instead, focus on the Cause of this fixation. Work on yourself and your health. Begin to realize that this fantasy is all about You and not her.
Only when you understand yourself, can you hope another can begin to try to understand you.

What I have said above is sound advice. It makes sense. IF two people share a fixation, it can work out. If they share a fantasy, they can share each other. But what you describe yourself doing is fixating on your fantasy at her expense - and that cannot end well.

 

[Fazeldex]

She's a virgin, you say. Really, not the best start for pushing so hard into heavy kinks. It makes sense... What is new to her can also be threatening to her. Taboo is one thing, but dangerous is just plain dangerous in her mind.
From what you posted, it sounds to me more like she's trying to please but has some hard limits.
And once you hit the wall of those limits, it made her uncomfortable.
Her being uncomfortable is NOT where you want things to be.

In Psychology, there is something called "Fixation."
You can look into fixation on your own, but for the purpose of this thread; You must remember that your fantasy is a fixation.
A fixation can be very powerful, but is often only powerful for the person who is fixated. A fixated person cannot understand why others are not fixated by it. A person who is not fixated cannot understand how a fixated person could be fixated on that fantasy.
And...
That is a huge turn off for the non-fixated person.

When you are fixated, you are distracted from Reality and Real Life cues and clues.
You can easily think that you are making progress when in reality, you are only pushing her away.
And you... are definitely fixated. You can see this clearly in that the fantasy was strong before you met this girl. You did not develop it from wanting something for her... but for yourself.

Contrary to what anyone seeking self-validation may tell you; You cannot create a fixation for another person. You cannot create a mind for another person. A barking dog cannot move a mountain. You can influence... But you cannot make them be anyone.
Really... if it was so easy to make another persons wants real to them and for them, parenting would be easy.
So would marriage.
But they are not easy - not at all. They are hard and they are baffling. Because in the end, we all have our Own Damn Minds.
You cannot do anything to make another person what you want them to be.
But you CAN do something about yourself.
You asked for advice and ask and you shall receive:
You have created an unhealthy situation for yourself and this unhealthy position will affect her.
If you Truly actually really care about this human being, you will address your health - in order to protect hers.
Because: Trust is healthy. A lack of it in self or others is not.
Open understanding is healthy. Trying to persuade or to please another is not.
Fixation... is just plain unhealthy.
You do not need to remove the fantasy in order to remove the fixation.

If she is uncomfortable talking about this fixation, then Do Not Talk about it. If you keep making her uncomfortable, she will begin to remove that discomfort.
Instead, focus on the Cause of this fixation. Work on yourself and your health. Begin to realize that this fantasy is all about You and not her.
Only when you understand yourself, can you hope another can begin to try to understand you.

What I have said above is sound advice. It makes sense. IF two people share a fixation, it can work out. If they share a fantasy, they can share each other. But what you describe yourself doing is fixating on your fantasy at her expense - and that cannot end well.

This is stunningly good advice ! Thank you for sharing.