Thank you! Really needed to hear that one.
Think I will try to gift her another session with him to begin with. It seems to be a discreet and innocent way to get her thinking of him.
Not sure if I should attend or not. Really want to see him look at her naked but don’t want to ruin their intimacy. Should I come with her?
Yeah I would always go, if you like to watch. My partners never went solo. Some guys are into that scene the woman dating. I am not one of those guys; I am a voyeur who wants to watch her have sex. Don't let her go anymore without you, because you're hoping by letting her go solo once or twice, even just for pictures, then she will change it to exclusively having encounters where you are present. You do the scenario you want from the beginning, not afterwards hoping it will change to what you want. That is not how it usually works out in the "I'll let her do it solo a couple of times, then we'll get down to business how I like it." If you do it that way, you will more than likely end up never being allowed to watch hoping after the next time while only hearing about it probably in less than ideal details and getting the decent consolation prize of only sloppy seconds.
I would go meet with the guy for coffee or something casual, if your wife is okay with it. Remember you are in this together, so you need to ask if she is okay with you talking to him. You can tell the wife that you have questions about equipment or additional shots you want to discuss possibly having taken. If she isn't comfortable with that, don't have a second session. It's pretty simple. If she is okay, you want to develop a repour with guy. Hey bring some of his work with you and comment graphically about how great your wife's big pregnant breasts looks in his amazing work. Hell ask him "If you could get her to do any picture you heart desired what picture would you like to see her do. PAUSE to gauge his reaction and listen to what he says. Then ask him at this point would he be okay with having you there, If he is not comfortable with it, just say no to the second session. He will cave trust me.
Now that is out of the way you can ask him what the most risque pix he has ever taken while reviewing his work of your wife when you ask it. I would also explicitly ask him to give you his assurance he will keep this conversation between the two of you private. Now the key subject matter you want to discuss is an easy transition because you brought the pictures he took of her. I would start by asking if any couples ever requested having both partners in the sessions and would he be willing to take those types of pictures? PAUSE to see his reaction and listen to what he says. If he is onboard your next follow up is "To be honest, and this is a little far out there, I would actually like to be the camera man taking pictures of another guy having sex with my wife" {with shy insecure comment look on your face} "I hope you don't think that is too weird. What do you think about that?" PAUSE AGAIN to watch his reaction and listen to what he says. You will know if that idea turns him on. I will bet he would be onboard, but you never know with some people. If he is onboard now you have a co-conspirator, who will assist you with initiating your first threesome very soon. You need approach this with a sequence of questions in mind, but go with guy instinct on other questions, order of the questions, etc. He might be a little apprehensive in the beginning, but you can alleviate that issue by complimenting his work.
Make sure you have a conversation with your wife as soon as possible, before the photo session about your fantasy. I have a recent post about how to do it on the site. Use your fantasy in sex talk with her. Women are usually very horny during pregnancy which should help the process along tremendously.
On the appointed "photo session" day after you have watched him direct and take pictures of her, he could encourage you to be in the shots with her by suggesting you could be unclothed also with her. You get naked or some variation having him taking pictures, then start working your sensual foreplay magic stroking, touching and kissing (start with her neck for kissing), rub her erogenous zones to get her aroused (gently stroke the back of arms, hold lightly and touch the small of her back, then tease her pussy with light light strokes over the length of her lips as you gentle kiss her, etc.). Once you have her going then whisper into her ear that you want to watch her have sex with him right now. If she hesitates with a false no (you know the difference and what you will get at first or "Are you sure") keep whispering "oh honey it would so amazing to watch you have sex. I have fantasized about a moment like this with you to the point where it has taken over my thoughts. I am the most excited I have ever been in my life just thinking about him being inside you." Boom! You will get there I'm betting. If this session isn't possible to get along far enough her on the idea of a threesome with him, have him call you with a fake, "I'm sorry the was a problem with my camera during your photo session and I am going to need to retake them, which will give you another shot if the opportunity didn't present itself on the 2nd shoot.
You want to watch in the scenario I call Voyeur Alpha/Vixen encounters. The solo guy is a guest (yes I know it is his studio blah, blah, blah but it is your naked wife). You need to be and stay in charge with her as you both should be allowed to say no at any time. Very key point here; his relationship is with the BOTH OF YOU, not just her. It is a different dynamic. He should be texting with you only to ask when, where, how, etc. He can flirt with her over text, but arrangements should be done through you. You must define the relationship you want from the beginning. Do not compromise where you don't get to watch.
My ex used the same reasoning on wanting to have the first encounters solo because she thought she wouldn't be able to relax and concentrate. I said no I want to watch, this is for both of us and I would feel left out. As it turned out me being there wasn't a roadblock, but actually made her enjoyment of it greater to the point when I left the room sometimes she missed not having me there, it felt unnatural to her.