Our dynamic has evolved since starting the hot wife thing.
Both KK and I have some inherent personality characteristics that are significant, and hard to change. In her case, KK is insanely, almost homicidally jealous when it comes to me and other women. I have a diametrically opposed set of traits; I enjoy the process of seduction, and I love/lust after women in general. That fundamental difference manifests itself in various ways in our interpersonal dynamic.
When we first started, we had numerous rules, which in the end were mostly mine, due to some discomfort or lack of acceptance. One example is kissing - starting out, I found it too intimate, to injurious to my own ego, so the "rule" was no kissing. In reality, kissing is integral to the experience for KK. She often broke the rule, ending up in conflict for both of us, her feeling guilty but deprived, me feeling frustration and jealousy. Eventually I figured out that kissing was necessary for her to fully enjoy the experience, and learned to accept it.
In the present moment, we have only two rules, one more of a guideline:
- no drinking and driving
- condoms are necessary with unscreened partners
KK is petite, does not metabolize alcohol well, with prior negative outcomes associated with alcohol use during an encounter - primarily "girls night out" events that involved sex with other men, alcohol, and driving home after. This is really the only hard and fast rule we have. There are so many alternatives now, from me going to fetch her if alcohol was involved, to Uber/Lyft.
The condom issue is complicated. There are spontaneous circumstances where KK still breaks this rule, overcome by lust, caught in the moment, with her desire for bare, skin-on-skin contact and cum. This has been infrequent in the last ten years, and I do my part to make sure she's prepared, including maintaining the little "sex kit," a small sequined purse she carries, containing Skyn latex-free condoms, a small bottle of coconut oil, and a couple of cleansing wipes.
Other than that, there are no rules - KK has a saying, "She who has the pussy makes the rules."
As for me and other women, I still fuck around, however it is now ultra-discreet. I maintain a small handful of long-term relationships, one that now spans almost 30-years, along with periodic dalliances with women I find attractive. They are under the radar, and for the most part under wraps because of my business travel. We just don't talk about it, sort of a variation of "don't ask, don't tell."