My wife and I have always flirted / made sexy jokes about threesome, etc. Recently, we bought a very large dildo, and she loves being fucked by it. We've escalated from dirty talk "Do you like fucking that big cock?" to sharing a threesome fantasy where she takes another man with a big dick. I would love to watch her fuck a well hung guy, as I think she would really enjoy it, and watching her when she's enjoying herself is really hot to me.
We talked about it being a reality, but she said it would never happen. We talked again later, and her reason isn't that she isn't interested - she would enjoy it - but because she knows she couldn't handle me being with someone else, and feels like it's unfair to me if she can play, but I can't. I told her that that doesn't matter to me. I'm completely satisfied with her, and wouldn't expect any sort of reciprocal agreement. I purposely didn't push the conversation any further after that, giving her time to think about it more.
My plan is to keep up with the fantasies and role playing, but not bring up really trying it again for a while. She may bring it up herself at some point, because she was very clear that the idea excited her.
My questions for people that have gone through similar situations:
1) How long should I wait before bringing it up again, if she doesn't?
2) Besides keeping up fantasy and roleplaying, is there anything else I should be doing to move her towards accepting the idea?
Many thanks for any and all replies!
We talked about it being a reality, but she said it would never happen. We talked again later, and her reason isn't that she isn't interested - she would enjoy it - but because she knows she couldn't handle me being with someone else, and feels like it's unfair to me if she can play, but I can't. I told her that that doesn't matter to me. I'm completely satisfied with her, and wouldn't expect any sort of reciprocal agreement. I purposely didn't push the conversation any further after that, giving her time to think about it more.
My plan is to keep up with the fantasies and role playing, but not bring up really trying it again for a while. She may bring it up herself at some point, because she was very clear that the idea excited her.
My questions for people that have gone through similar situations:
1) How long should I wait before bringing it up again, if she doesn't?
2) Besides keeping up fantasy and roleplaying, is there anything else I should be doing to move her towards accepting the idea?
Many thanks for any and all replies!