Long time wannabe, first time poster. Posting this to try to get it off my chest. Long story short, my wife had a 6 month affair seven years ago during this time period - fall. (I also have strong suspicions that she may have had a lesbian affair with a friend of hers several years before that, but I can't prove it). From reading the texts she sent the guy, it was some pretty mind blowing sex. I Have never gotten over it, even though we are together still. In the years that have passed, I have gotten more and more turned on by femdom/cuckold porn. I have also grown to have a serious foot fetish for my wife that has grown more intense over the last couple of years. I'm sure that there are some psychological issues that have been ingrained in me since the affair - feelings of inadequacy brought on by the affair that I have tried to cope with by embracing cuckold/femdom porn, which has snowballed - the thought of her affair, and her fucking other guys turns me on to no end, and i know that it would/might hurt if she were to do it again - but I would be just as turned on, which...i don't know what that is.
She is a beautiful woman. Our sex life isn't very good, though, and never really has been. We used to have a lot more sex than we do now, but it was never more than once a week. Now, it has been about three to four months. When we did/do have sex, I rarely last longer than a minute or three of actual PIV. I'm more comfortable going down on her since i can at least make that last as long as I want. I masturbate to pictures that I take of her feet, and to cuckold/cheating wife porn. It's just all very strange. It seems that my wife's affair is over but it is still hanging over us/me in the sense that it turned me into a cuckold wannabe. A closet cuck. I don't want to bring this up to her. I know her affair is over. I don't really know what to do. Any ideclosetcuck11