Hello. We are a middle aged couple that has just started to look into this lifestyle. We are looking for other couples and hotwifes to talk to and help us with questions we may have. We Mostly have questions that we need the women’s/ hotwifes perspective on. We look forward to getting to know people and learning.
Hello, and welcome to the lifestyle!
I have been in the lifestyle literally from losing my virginity. And have had many ups and downs . I was lucky to have been introduced to it by some of the most wonderful people in the lifestyle you could ever wish for. As a young new single "bull", I had some great guides. Later in life, after I moved. Things got real rocky. I made lots of mistakes but still very positive for the most part. Except for but Including marriage to a very troubled woman, We where both in the lifestyle as "full swing" but it was a disaster. After we separated, I went right back to being very polished "bull". I really enjoyed making fantasy romantic play a reality for the couples i was with. I found I loved pleasing wives, while being a trusted freind to the husband the perfect role for me.
Then I found the most wonderful woman on earth, only downside was she had no experience or understanding of the life style. Trying to make it work, with someone so resistant to the idea was disappointing. We had a couple of mfm encounters, but she only did for me. After being with one guy for a year she finally confessed she didn't like the guy and was getting nothing out of it, "it wasn't for me and I don't want to have to do it anymore ". I sank into depression and guilt for my role in all of this.
But then I found the "cuckold consultation " and read everything he wrote. I realized my mistakes and apologized and thanked my wife for what she had sacrificed for me. With his help I was able to, listen to her needs. Make it safe for her, for the first time communicating was addictive to both of us. I learned what her attractions are and within no time at all, maybe 3 months we became the perfect Stag Vixen couple. We had always had a deep loving marriage, just needed some guidance. The fears associated with any open marriage needed to be put on the table and worked out. Yes, she now knows and is fully capable enjoying another man in front of or with me. Or even without me in the room. We have been jointly now in the lifestyle as equal partners for years. Our Love making has never been better and is the priority. We now make love for two to 3 hours each night. Last night started with 30 minutes of just kissing before any clothes even came off. And hardly ever watch TV anymore. Lol She has a regular boyfriend, this time one she really really likes, who is also now a great freind of mine. And, she wants a 3rd now lol. Pandoras box is wide open lol
She doesn't get on here much, not much of a online chatter. However we do share a kick account and love helping new people avoid all the mistakes we or more to the point, I have made.
If you think we can add some value to your journey just let me know. But remember this one piece of advice. This is your journey, this is your life. Do not let anyone tell you what you should be doing with it. You make all the rules and boundaries as a couple. Remember that ultimately, this is about you two and always should be a positive experience that drives you both even closer and deeper in love. Only thing to keep in mind, is i am horrible at texting, so I will apologize now for typos and miss spellings .
With warmest regards.
D&L
