How did you convince your wife

How did you convince your wife into this lifestyle ? How did it start? Was she ever against it and then she changed her mind ?
My wife and I are pretty open minded about everything. It didn't take any convincing. We had some neighbors in our community that were swingers and we had always talked about entering into an alternative lifestyle and "wham, bam" here we are...
 
How did you convince your wife into this lifestyle ? How did it start? Was she ever against it and then she changed her mind ?
Never needed to after I caught her boss eating her pussy in our bedroom. She wanted to keep letting him, but we didn't want to divorce, so she agreed to tell me about her time with him. That led to them fucking, naturally. Then, we started going out to find men to fuck her while I watched and participated, too.
 
It took me about four years to convince her, mainly through roleplay, getting her to dress sexier and edgier when we went out, and trying to convince her that i was not looking for sex for myself, and also that although i would feel jealous, i wanted her to enjoy herself, given that she always had hung men, and now that she was married to me i did not want her to feel stuck with my tiny manhood.
 
5 years and still in the process. Went from straight laced but hot Indian wife to going tentatively to strip clubs, to adult naked vacations where guys sucked on her tits and we took bondage photo shoots. Right now she has her amateur porn channel and we were going to try out a gangbang style photoshoot before COVID intervenes. How did I do it? By constant telling her how hot she was and that every male in the room she was, was secretly stripping and mind fucking her. It was easy for me because it is true. I am very fortunate to have a hot-as-lava wife
 
How did you convince your wife into this lifestyle ? How did it start? Was she ever against it and then she changed her mind ?
Actually--I never had to convince her--a mutual friend Told her when we started dating that I had swung before & she wanted to know all about it- Then she wanted to try it & once she did--There was No stopping her- (which made me very happy)-- neither her or I could ever figure out how many men she had over the time we were together- She Did enjoy meeting New men--(Strangers) & expected sex the first meeting- Most of the time I was Not present--was at work or whatever-- Although lots of times I was--None of these men are me--just "Friends of hers-
 

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5 years and still in the process. Went from straight laced but hot Indian wife to going tentatively to strip clubs, to adult naked vacations where guys sucked on her tits and we took bondage photo shoots. Right now she has her amateur porn channel and we were going to try out a gangbang style photoshoot before COVID intervenes. How did I do it? By constant telling her how hot she was and that every male in the room she was, was secretly stripping and mind fucking her. It was easy for me because it is true. I am very fortunate to have a hot-as-lava wife
Are you guys from india ? I have been there a few times and wanted to go to a nice strip club ..any good recommendation guys ?
And love your story guys 😍🔥
 
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Took years of persuasion and encouragement, my wife used to be quite shy, we used to discuss swinging, getting another partner etc. then I got her to dress sexily to parties and then on holidays even more sexily sometimes like a teenager when she was 28, she started to enjoy the attraction, once at a game we were watching at home, we invited a guy she had mentioned "she imagined having sex with" , her ex-manager, a few years older, she was wearing a short skirt and a midriff exposed blouse, he got her to flash her boobs if her team won - which happened. For Xmas, he got her some lingerie, it seemed to be going well, then she got cold feet. On the repeat date, she went out for dinner with him alone, told me that they kissed and little bit of fondling, He sent her some more lingerie and invited her the next Saturday, she went ahead, he took her home, I got a text from her that she was fine and would come home on Sunday. Next day at 11 am I got a text that she was ready to be picked up.
 
I've found through experience that anything other than a YES is a NO!

There's an old 1 liner: "It took 10 years to become an overnight success."

For us it was years of NO, equivocal, unconditional, absolute NO!!

UNTIL it wasn't.

I kept it up for years (badgered) until she finally agreed to do it (she planned on once only) to shut me up. She took to it like a duck to water, 18 months, 100+ different partners, many repeats, 2 regulars, 2 GBs.

Now she is fully on board and would give me up before the lifestyle.

 
I've found through experience that anything other than a YES is a NO!

There's an old 1 liner: "It took 10 years to become an overnight success."

For us it was years of NO, equivocal, unconditional, absolute NO!!

UNTIL it wasn't.

I kept it up for years (badgered) until she finally agreed to do it (she planned on once only) to shut me up. She took to it like a duck to water, 18 months, 100+ different partners, many repeats, 2 regulars, 2 GBs.

Now she is fully on board and would give me up before the lifestyle.

Yea-Life is funny sometimes--I was lucky I didn't have to "Bug" my then girlfriend (later my wife)& I had No plans to introduce her to the lifestyle- We had both been through Nasty divorces & neither of us were Ever going to get married again--early on when we were dating the people who introduced us told her I had done some swinging in the past--She wanted to hear all about it- So I told her--In great detail--she would get Soooo turned on--then we arranged out first meeting with a couple--From that point forward she could'nt get enough-- It's funny because really--I had participate but really didn't know much (about how everything worked or terminologies (just that it was fun) & she knew even less--We didn't even try to learn any of that we just Dived in & at the time (before everyone had computers) used message boards at sex shops/Magazines with contact adds & phone chatlines- over time I became her cuckold & we didn't even know there was a word for that-We just told folks that I like to watch or be told about it afterwards-- We tried a few times to add up all the people her & or I were with & could'nt --Almost 30 yrs in the lifestyle until she got sick & suddenly died (heart problems)-- I don't think there was much we didn't try--but we were happy- This is us taken by one of her many boyfriends -
 

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It was more like my wife had to convince me! We had been looking for ways to spice things up and actually stumbled on the hotwife stuff. We looked at the porn and other sites but always talked about what "they" did. Then one day my wife asked "what would you think about me being a hotwife?" I was pretty surprised and didn't know what to say, so she said "just something to think about." A week or two later she brought it up again while we were looking at some videos people posted. Well, another week of talking about it and she got me to agree to let her try it! That was almost five years ago and we love it! My wife has had many lovers, done a few gang-bangs, has gone on weekend trips, and her best friend knows all about it! I always clean her when she gets home and tells me about her date - another thing she had to convince me to do!
 
It was more like my wife had to convince me! We had been looking for ways to spice things up and actually stumbled on the hotwife stuff. We looked at the porn and other sites but always talked about what "they" did. Then one day my wife asked "what would you think about me being a hotwife?" I was pretty surprised and didn't know what to say, so she said "just something to think about." A week or two later she brought it up again while we were looking at some videos people posted. Well, another week of talking about it and she got me to agree to let her try it! That was almost five years ago and we love it! My wife has had many lovers, done a few gang-bangs, has gone on weekend trips, and her best friend knows all about it! I always clean her when she gets home and tells me about her date - another thing she had to convince me to do!
Yup-people Assume it's Always the man who wants to "Try It" & quite often won't believe it's the woman--
 
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