How Do I Tell my Wife I Want Her to Fuck Other Men

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  1. Paul Ramsey

    Paul Ramsey New Member

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    Does anyone have any suggestions on how to raise this in a way that will not leave me dying with embarrassment (or with her thinking something is wrong with me) if she rejects the idea out of hand? I am 54, she 51 and still very hot and we have been married 25 years.

    Any thoughts would be very gratefully received.
     
  2. thirstyjoe

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    can i see a pic of your wife?
     
  3. Curvylover

    Curvylover Well-Known Member
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    Hi, there is many ways to start this with her, first, u need to avoid telling her directly, if u r not 100% sure about her reaction, the thing will take sometime before starting it, here r some ways to help u testing her mood about it:
    1- buy some cuckold adult movies from the adultshop and watch it together, while watching , when she is really turned on, u tell her imagine ur self in this wife's place.
    2-read cuckolding stories together, while reading tell her ill change the wife's name in the story with ur name.
    3-show her how much u love her, so she wont think that u doing this bcz u dont love her.
    Im a real life cuckold husband, since 2010, our life is just perfect. Ill tell u more in other post, i dont want to make this very long and boring to read lol
    Take care 20160813231459-1.jpg
     
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  4. thomaachax

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    I jus show her some hotwife captions and jus wonder urself like u ppl cant imagine such a situation and ask her to imagine abt it. U will get wonderful replies...
     
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    So, she likes it or not?
     
  6. Funforus96

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    Just tell her someone you talked to said she was sexy and I bet that will get her mind going
     
  7. spin418

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    Without some prior foundation, and in the absence of some clear demonstration on her part that she's already inclined that way, I don't think you can just come right out and "tell" her. It's something that will take time, should take time. you reveal your desires over time, but I think it must come in the context of a loving, trusting connection. You want her as communicative sharing her own desires as you are yours. You're going to need to explain yourself as best you can.
     
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  8. altamira

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    25 fuckin years man! you can' lie to her and get away with it. total honesty. flat out tell her- honey, i'm sick and I really could use your help. that's it man - no beating around the bush. so, make sure she's totally clean shaven and looking like an 8 year old, and say, baby -remember that story you were always afraid to tell anyone, even me, about when you were just a little girl and your uncle would take you with him to his poker games? And they'd play poker with you for hours, making you swear to never tell since gambling was illegal and you weren't old enough to even play. Remember? Now that you're old enough, you ever think about playing poker again? I mean, ya ever miss playing poker with the guys? If she gives you one of those looks, and goes asking if you been snortin' whisky and drinkin' cocaine, just shrug it off like, "hey bitch, I told ya I was sick!"
    Anyhow, that's how I'd do it- if i wanted my ol lady to fuck other guys to give me leverage for fuckin other women.
     
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  9. trample999

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    Have to comment on this from personal experience, married for almost 20 years and brought this up casually a couple of times in the last 5 years. My wife is very well endowed and I mentioned how often I noticed guys checking her out, after a bit of vague conversation about it all I mentioned it was hot and surmised they were likley thinking about what they would like to be doing to her 'assets' and that it made me horny. This was met with absolute shock (in retrospect she admitted that it turned her on too) so it kind of died there till about 6 months ago when all hell broke loose..I brought it up again during one of those marital sexual 'up times' and she went along with it all...we joined a website and posted a profile stating we were looking for a guy for her to fuck and posted a couple of photos..the response was crazy and the more responses we got the hornier she got, we settled on a likely candidate and started kik chatting with loads of sexting and pictures to and from him, by this point I was ready to have my fantasy fulfilled but overdid it to the point of obsession, suffice to say she went very cold on the idea and it became a poisoned subject. On the upside she recently (after 4 months of not mentioning hotwifing) and not in a sexual scenario stated that 'if you hadnt pushed so hard I would have done it'...so my advice...Take it very very slowly, theres many exciting moments in the journey to actually doing anything and most importantly make sure you are completely attuned to your partners responses and state of mind throughout.
    Good luck in reaching your goal!
     
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  10. creamywife

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    Hi
    In my case,we've been married for 20 years,lately I have the same desires of wanted to see her on threesome just for explore our sex life off cause I must be a part of it,since she is a Asian girl so it takes a lot longer to convince her to try it just for once so I started with some amateur threesome movies that look like a regular couple who have fun with with an extra guy while we have sex and she was kind of super embarrass couldn't even has her eye on the movies but after the warm up and starting sex then she started to have a little peak on the movies and so on.Once she started to feel normal with those movies I notice she got more wet by watching it so I move to next step having a cock toy fucking her pussy and she somehow beginning to reach out to my cock to suck it any time I used the toy fucking and I could tell that she was ready to put in her head that she is sucking my cock while there another cock in her pussy(She moans while have my cock in her mouth give more pleasure to it) so after 2 years of trying now she finally agrees we could sometime go out to bar to have some wines even she is very seldom to drink and check back into the hotel then from there we can either get a escort guy to start with massage her tits & her cunt while she is sucking my cock(she is excellent for doing blow job and always swallow my cum).That is still not become our reality yet but at least she is willing to go along with for now.
     
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  11. Uk guy

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    From my own exprerience I strongly suggest you take it slowly. Once she has accepted the idea that you are keen on the idea, you let her lead the way and always reassure her of your love and support. She will be very nervous of the fact that you may get very cross with her in the cold light of day once the passion has subsided (whether you are fantasising during sex or should the real thing happen).
    One thing I realised, when my wife and I started talking about it, was that she believed I was looking for an excuse to have sex with other women. Once I had reassured her that this was not the case our conversations became more relaxed and our fantasies took on a more realistic flavour, we started talking about "when" not "if".
    We've been married over thirty years but my interest started before we got married. We were in our teens and at a party and the drinks were flowing when I realised I hadn't seen her for a while. To cut a long story short, I found her naked on a bed with a guys head buried between her legs. They didn't notice me standing in the doorway and I stood there in shock watching as he moved up getting ready to fuck her.
    I was a young man without a clue and all I could do was walk away. I must have been in a bit of a daze, I remember feeling hurt and rejected, because a couple of her friends stopped me and asked what was wrong and all I could say was that she was in the bedroom. They rushed to the room and stopped them.
    Later it was all tears, regrets and harsh words, she really was too drunk to know what she was doing, but we put it behind us and moved on. Exept, the more I thought about it the more I was turned on and wished I had had the presence of mind to hang back in the shadows and watch.
    Years later we were discussing some of the things we had done when we were younger when that incedent cropped up, she suprised me by saying that although she regretted hurting me she didn't regret doing it. We talked some more and I confessed that afterwards, whenever I thought about it I got turned on and I hoped she didn't think I was weird, She didn't.
    I have added this because talking frankly about another guy she had been with and both of us knowing each other was Ok with the idea led to us fanasising about it during sex which turned us both on.
    During one of our more exiting times, she said that she had always fantasised about having sex with a black guy, so I said "go on then, let's do it for real" and she said "really, do you mean it?" I said "yes and no condoms,"
    she came straight away with one of the most powerful orgasms she had ever had and I couldn't hold back.
    And thats exactly what we did.
    So I say Slow, no pressure, lots of reassurance and lots of frank discussions and let her lead the way.
     
  12. Redbankguy

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    My wife always new I wanted 3some fmf, every once in awhile she would joke with me about it, than one day I said I'd be open to a mfm threesome . I said I thought it would be really hot. From there it lead to other conversation over the past 1-2 years. Now she knows it turns me on and wants her to be with another man. It hasn't happened yet but I think I'm going to need to be in the right environment (away on vacation) of something for it to happen. She is still skeptical but everyonce in awhile while having sex I'll whisper something in her ear about a guy with a really big cock and if that would be something she would enjoy. She always says yes but the difficulty is talking about it when we aren't havi g sex.
     
  13. creamywife

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    Same here,my wife recently starting to agrees to get a 2 guys along side with me to join in as long as it's safe & right environment.She specifically give me some sign that she'll let and wouldn't mind if there another guy fuck her as long as she is in the middle to sex with me,we often try double vagina penetration(DVP) with her toy & my cock but never yet with both real cocks.
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  14. slopervy

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    After She told me of her MFM fantasy and also the fact she could see us swinging in the future. I have scheduled an erotic massage as the first step to entering into the Hotwife lifestyle. I had given her coupons and hall passes for adult fun when I am not present. And she finds that exciting but has yet to take the plunge. And just recently she asked if I would be ok with her having sex with other men. Of course as I only want her to be pleasured in any way.

    So someday soon we will add another to seduce and definitely increase her pleasure factor.