Where do you start? How do you find a guy for your wife? Can someone suggest some good screening questions? This will be our first time too so we will be rather cautious about it all. We are in MA if it helps
How does one go about finding someone to fuck your wife?
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Let's flesh it out like this.
"Hi, I'm interested in meeting your wife."
What is the first thing you would want to know about me?
You are interviewing the bull. What's important to you two?
As a bull I try to determine what the dynamic is. I need to fit in it, you don't fit into my needs believe it or not. I am coming into your marriage. That's a privilege. If the dynamic you are looking for is an Alpha Male to your beta the appropriate time for me to assert my dominance is after that dynamic is openly established. Prior to that point I would just be acting like an a-hole.
Consider what you and your wife want then write it down. Decide how many of those wants are must haves and what is a deal breaker. Likely no one will tick all the boxes but never accept a deal breaker. Everyone will be miserable. Nothing worse (IMO) than showing up to meet my date and she is pissed because they were fighting. Or God forbid they start fighting when I get there.
Hope this was remotely helpful
"Hi, I'm interested in meeting your wife."
What is the first thing you would want to know about me?
You are interviewing the bull. What's important to you two?
As a bull I try to determine what the dynamic is. I need to fit in it, you don't fit into my needs believe it or not. I am coming into your marriage. That's a privilege. If the dynamic you are looking for is an Alpha Male to your beta the appropriate time for me to assert my dominance is after that dynamic is openly established. Prior to that point I would just be acting like an a-hole.
Consider what you and your wife want then write it down. Decide how many of those wants are must haves and what is a deal breaker. Likely no one will tick all the boxes but never accept a deal breaker. Everyone will be miserable. Nothing worse (IMO) than showing up to meet my date and she is pissed because they were fighting. Or God forbid they start fighting when I get there.
Hope this was remotely helpful
We use an online swingers site. There are plenty of single guys on it and usually they have recommendations from other couples.
We’ve been doing this a while. In our case, KK likes variety. It is not quite a full time endeavor to keep her supplied with desirable encounter partners.
We’ve used possibly every means imaginable to find men for KK, from direct pick-ups in bars and clubs, to on-line sources, even risky things like sex and exhibition in public to attract a partner.
As a routine, practiced manner, we use a combination of on-line venues, including swinger/lifestyle sites, Ashley Madison, Tinder, and DoubleList (the ********-poor version of Craig’s List, which we miss very much).
KK calls the process “shopping for cock.” Our profile is pretty specific about what we’re looking for, what our interests are, the physical characteristics that KK prefers, etc.
If I’m tasked with finding cock for KK, I’m pretty direct - my usual opener is “Would you like to do my hot wife,” or a question along those lines. KK’s a little more subtle, and if she’s filtering candidates through her own profile/contact, she usually has dozens to sometimes hundreds of responses to pick through.
Usually there are a few initial email and/or text exchanges - photos of KK to get the candidate interested, photos of the candidate to get KK interested. As things progress, KK will usually do a voice-only phone sex session with the candidate.
If things continue to progress, there’ll be one or more Zoom, ... or FaceTime sessions - we’ve learned to incorporate this to help weed out fakes/flakes, and it give’s KK a chance to see the guy’s package “real time.”
If the hurdle of the video chat/sex session is met, we do an in person screening date. KK calls this the “cock inspection.” We meet in a public spot, if KK clicks with the candidate, we take a ride in our SUV or my truck. I drive, KK gets in the back seat with the candidate. We have several pre-chosen spots, they make out, get to know one another while I drive to our parking destination.
Usually by the time I reach our target location, KK’s got his cock out, touching it, licking it, looking at it, examining him from “stem to stern” so to speak. Sometimes the screening date includes penetrating sex, KK will bang the guy in the back seat, although that’s more rare - usually it’s touching, a hand job, oral, finger-banging and making out.
If everything goes OK, the candidate’s qualified, and he’ll get an invite to the full session, “real deal.”
We require any candidate to provide STD/STI test results that meet our spec, and once things stabilize, we’re going to require some proof of COVID-19 vaccination.
We set expectations along the way, no-strings sex, no “dating,” no pop-in or unsolicited contact, no stalking. We also look for guys that can perform in the presence of another male - a surprising number of men can’t get hard, and stay hard with another guy in the room, whether its watching or participating.
You can find willing men everywhere. We've met men on the old swappernet site, Adult friend finder, various swinger pages, and even on porn sites like xhamster. You have to be a good communication person regardless AND you have to let your intentions be known up front...still no biggie. Be willing to .../zoom/facetime/phone with the person and be up for failed experiences at each phase. Its like net fishing... many slip thru but your patience will reel in the good ones. Directly involve your wife/GF in the hunt so she gets time to feel them out for her needs. Let the first meet be in a pubic space (dinner/drinks/mall/etc) and test the waters. If all goes well provide a place to play but again...accept that not all meets end with good plays. Common sense and decency should rule the day and the play. Good luck and update us as you can!! Thanks....
The vetting process is so cumbersome, especially for older couples.
Exactly... and not an easy thing for new folks entering into all this. That is why over the many years, we found multi players (repeats) and have always tried to be accommodating to the men. As with their playtimes... I'm staying out of their way, I find a prospect and she does the rest. We had a couple walk aways but when they experienced her true passion for sexy black men, they were hooked just like I was years ago.
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It is a lot more complicated than it sounds. We have been looking for someone to try this with for a few months but we don’t wanna do it with anyone that we know in real life because it might get awkward that’s why we have been looking online
For us I think it would have to be far away and she feels safe finds him attractive in a bar or club! A Holiday romance I think would best suit us!
Great question! The answer is very short or very long. If you up for any ole joe blow make a post.
but as the other post already said this. You must figure out what you want. Do you guys want her to be at hands of a bull and have him do his thing? Or oppositely your wife may want to be worshipped. Then no Bull type, you get 3 4 guys who serve her. Her way. NEITHER side is wrong. It’s all your preference.
but the biggest thing for us is my wife needs at least a tiny connection to a partner. It’s just not fun for her to do strangers. But many many people disagree there and think anonymous is better. No right way. Pick how you like.
lastly some people use current friends. We don’t. We just keep these parts of our lives separate cuz we have kiddos!
We are searching for the best dating online sites that you have to pay into for this lifestlye. We feel that it will allow us both to vet this guy better since hell be into this lifestyle plus it will help us zero in on the right guy since this will be our first experience doing this. Mainly for me (the wife) since ive never done this with another man while with someone emotionally. I think it will help find someone that mets all of our must haves or close to it.
Questions to a guy to fuck ur wife:
Height, weight, age, SIZE.
Education. Profession. Availability. (These qualify him as someone of interest & compatibility).
Experience in this.
Willing to meet before to check chemistry.
If he's unwilling or unable to provide this simple info, you DON'T want him near your wife! Drop him and move on.
Try Doublelist.com.
Good luck.
Height, weight, age, SIZE.
Education. Profession. Availability. (These qualify him as someone of interest & compatibility).
Experience in this.
Willing to meet before to check chemistry.
If he's unwilling or unable to provide this simple info, you DON'T want him near your wife! Drop him and move on.
Try Doublelist.com.
Good luck.
We've mostly turned the search and vetting process into sexy fun, sort of a mutual challenge. While it is cumbersome, keeping a "pipeline" full of encounter partners for KK can actually be exciting.
She gets to enjoy the anticipation of a potential new cock, expose herself, and be exposed to many, many men, so even those who don't eventually make the cut for a live, in-person encounter still provide some novelty and excitement. It is still one of my favorite parts to see the "first time" when KK gets to physically see, in-person, touch, suck, kiss and "test" a candidate, usually in the back seat, while I look on in the rearview mirror. Her eyes get wide, she licks her lips, her nipples become erect as arousal takes over after days, weeks or even months of virtual flirting, teasing, and video sex.
We originally started with online swinger sites like SLS. Then we went to Secrets in Kissimmee while on one of our yearly trips to Halloween Horror Nights. Then Jacklyn became more comfortable in her own skin and took the reigns. Up until this point, we had pretty firm rules about no one we already knew and staying away from social circles that we ran in. However, once she took control, she kind of started going through the hospital and specifically the ER that she works in, a handful of my coworkers that she would interact with, and pretty much whenever she decides. Basically, most people just think she’s a cheating whore of a wife, but we’re okay with that too.
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