Introduced fantasy to wife. Help and advice!

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Couple weeks ago I brought it up to her and at first she was intrigued asking simple questions of “Would they wear a condom” “Where would we find someone” The strangest of them all bc it never was mentioned, “You guys are not going to dp me”. She quickly caught herself and got upset with me. Saying I only use it as leverage to cheat. I said not all all. Then she asked why I’m so interested and I messed up on the response. Told her I was sorry for bringing it up and we can stop discussing. I noticed though when we had sex later that night, she was more turned on like she thought about it.

Last night we were arguing about something else and she brought it back up. Told her I thought we weren’t going to talk about it any more and I reassured her that I wasn’t using it to use it as leverage.

My question for you guys, you think she’s giving it considerate thoughts? What should I do next?
 
You need to talk to her more and reassure her that it is about her getting more and better sex and that you are not interested in any other women.
Communication is key, talk, talk and then talk some more.
 
What my wife liked hearing is that a big part of what turns me on is seeing her be a slut and get out of control during sex.

I think the worst thing you can say is "you don't want to talk about it". From her initial questions, it seems pretty clear she is interested and considered it. "You guys are not going to DP me" sounds like woman code for "the idea of getting DPed turns me on."

I think she just needs time to come around without you pushing it too forcefully. I'd just maintain a stance of "if you want to discuss it we can but I'm not pushing it - I think it would be hot and you'd enjoy it is all, and it has nothing to do with other women".
 
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the two guys, i shared my now ex girlfriend with discussed condoms before hand, we both agreed to use them, and she knew i had brought some with us, but both men talked her into going bareback, against my wishes
 
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Couple weeks ago I brought it up to her and at first she was intrigued asking simple questions of “Would they wear a condom” “Where would we find someone” The strangest of them all bc it never was mentioned, “You guys are not going to dp me”. She quickly caught herself and got upset with me. Saying I only use it as leverage to cheat. I said not all all. Then she asked why I’m so interested and I messed up on the response. Told her I was sorry for bringing it up and we can stop discussing. I noticed though when we had sex later that night, she was more turned on like she thought about it.

Last night we were arguing about something else and she brought it back up. Told her I thought we weren’t going to talk about it any more and I reassured her that I wasn’t using it to use it as leverage.

My question for you guys, you think she’s giving it considerate thoughts? What should I do next?
Hi dm me convo I will chat to you
 
Couple weeks ago I brought it up to her and at first she was intrigued asking simple questions of “Would they wear a condom” “Where would we find someone” The strangest of them all bc it never was mentioned, “You guys are not going to dp me”. She quickly caught herself and got upset with me. Saying I only use it as leverage to cheat. I said not all all. Then she asked why I’m so interested and I messed up on the response. Told her I was sorry for bringing it up and we can stop discussing. I noticed though when we had sex later that night, she was more turned on like she thought about it.

Last night we were arguing about something else and she brought it back up. Told her I thought we weren’t going to talk about it any more and I reassured her that I wasn’t using it to use it as leverage.

My question for you guys, you think she’s giving it considerate thoughts? What should I do next?
Do this. Watch cuckhold porn with her, then use a dildo but don’t use ur dick. Make her feel like someone else if fucking her while ur watching. She will feel that tension then drop it saying is thjs better than my dick -but don’t make it sound awkward.
 
Couple weeks ago I brought it up to her and at first she was intrigued asking simple questions of “Would they wear a condom” “Where would we find someone” The strangest of them all bc it never was mentioned, “You guys are not going to dp me”. She quickly caught herself and got upset with me. Saying I only use it as leverage to cheat. I said not all all. Then she asked why I’m so interested and I messed up on the response. Told her I was sorry for bringing it up and we can stop discussing. I noticed though when we had sex later that night, she was more turned on like she thought about it.

Last night we were arguing about something else and she brought it back up. Told her I thought we weren’t going to talk about it any more and I reassured her that I wasn’t using it to use it as leverage.

My question for you guys, you think she’s giving it considerate thoughts? What should I do next?
Sounds like the interest is there. You'd need more open conversations to address concerns.

That she brought it up in what I'll assume as a heated discussion, means there's likely more to it than meets the eye.

Tread carefully and open minded. You may unearth things that weren't supposed to be known.
 
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Couple weeks ago I brought it up to her and at first she was intrigued asking simple questions of “Would they wear a condom” “Where would we find someone” The strangest of them all bc it never was mentioned, “You guys are not going to dp me”. She quickly caught herself and got upset with me. Saying I only use it as leverage to cheat. I said not all all. Then she asked why I’m so interested and I messed up on the response. Told her I was sorry for bringing it up and we can stop discussing. I noticed though when we had sex later that night, she was more turned on like she thought about it.

Last night we were arguing about something else and she brought it back up. Told her I thought we weren’t going to talk about it any more and I reassured her that I wasn’t using it to use it as leverage.

My question for you guys, you think she’s giving it considerate don'tpush it? What should I do next?
U say she brought it up on her own?? And she was more turned-on fucking?
COME ON MAN, of course she's thinking about it. Now, dont push it. Let her develop it herself. Tell her it will not change how u feel about her and its absolutely NOT for u to dick other gals. Ur simply interested in her enjoyment & fulfillment.
 
Do this. Watch cuckhold porn with her, then use a dildo but don’t use ur dick. Make her feel like someone else if fucking her while ur watching. She will feel that tension then drop it saying is thjs better than my dick -but don’t make it sound awkward.
She has no toys. In our discussion I mentioned getting a toy and if she wanted something bigger or smaller than mine (8 inches). She like had no thought or say on it.
 
Wait, u have 8 inches?

How much bigger are you hoping to gom?
Thats on the pretty large size.
If she wants more than that, you may have to get her her first BBC....
 
Wait, u have 8 inches?

How much bigger are you hoping to gom?
Thats on the pretty large size.
If she wants more than that, you may have to get her her first BBC....
👀 that would probably be “hot out the gates” for a first attempt, don’t you think?
 
the two guys, i shared my now ex girlfriend with discussed condoms before hand, we both agreed to use them, and she knew i had brought some with us, but both men talked her into going bareback, against my wishes
Guys WILL do this, and its is really the womans decision....despite what agreement you may have ahead of time. Most women will want to please thier partner, and sex is a LOT more itnense and personal when done without any protection. Might as well get used to that. CW
 
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Wait, u have 8 inches?

How much bigger are you hoping to gom?
Thats on the pretty large size.
If she wants more than that, you may have to get her her first BBC....
LOL, if he is a white guy, he is measuring from back behind his balls where you can feel the tightness, its some tendon or muscle that creates the erection, when he is hard!! LOLLOL It adds about 4 inches. I have experienced this personally. J (the wife)
 
👀 that would probably be “hot out the gates” for a first attempt, don’t you think?
Can I ask how old are you two? How long have you been together? Married? Kids? Number of partners each? Also any religious issues or upbringing that is more conservative?

It will give everyone context to give you better answers.