Hello to all. Funny where life leads you at times. For weeks I’ve been googling self help terms and thoughts about where my wife and I are in our relationship. More times than not I saw this site in the result. Yes I’d love input while I enjoy the other content.
I’ve been married to my lovely wife for 7 years, together 11. I know of my wife’s sexual past through her volunteering. I think she’s been about 50% forward and honest with it which is more than I’ve ever volunteered.
With recent events I’m starting to notice things or realize what was happening. My wife like so many contracted Covid. Unfortunately she has an auto immune issue which effects her joints and landed her in the hospital for 4 days. Thankfully everything else was like a cold. While she was in I took over all family responsibilities in and around the house. While inside her car, which I rarely ever enter, I heard a constant low buzzing. After going crazy I looked in the 3rd row seats and found a phone. Not very smart but the code was the same code my wife uses for everything else. Turns out she was and is sending pictures of her either I or she took. Not important on details but hundreds of pictures were sent with texts to guys along with dark and raunchy conversation. I was very angry and hurt but decided not to say anything right then since she was ill.
The content shared with these guys was deep and sometimes dark. I referenced above things I should have noticed. Since I’m a laundry guy I noticed her gym bag would have gym clothes and shoes but no panties. There were no panties because she’s been giving them to a few of these guys. The closest thing I saw to sex on the phone was a video sent to her by one of the contacts. She’s propped up against his passenger seat in his vehicle and she’s fingering herself telling him not to touch and just watch.
I copied and transferred the phone memory and put it back where it was. Fast forward a year or so now and I still haven’t let her know or looked for the phone again. One of the things that has changed is my initial anger has turned to intrigue. Once or twice a week I open up those files and get myself off to the back and forth between her and the guys. That started some months back. Now it’s evolved into fantasizing about someone else having sex with her as I am having sex with her. She’s gorgeous and sexy but I get harder and more interested thinking of one of those big guys having sec and pleasuring her.
For some reason I’m living the clean life relatively speaking and I’m nowhere close to telling her my feelings or letting her know I know what she’s been doing. I imagine it’s common. Anyone else have similar stories especially when it comes to the apprehension?
I’ve been married to my lovely wife for 7 years, together 11. I know of my wife’s sexual past through her volunteering. I think she’s been about 50% forward and honest with it which is more than I’ve ever volunteered.
With recent events I’m starting to notice things or realize what was happening. My wife like so many contracted Covid. Unfortunately she has an auto immune issue which effects her joints and landed her in the hospital for 4 days. Thankfully everything else was like a cold. While she was in I took over all family responsibilities in and around the house. While inside her car, which I rarely ever enter, I heard a constant low buzzing. After going crazy I looked in the 3rd row seats and found a phone. Not very smart but the code was the same code my wife uses for everything else. Turns out she was and is sending pictures of her either I or she took. Not important on details but hundreds of pictures were sent with texts to guys along with dark and raunchy conversation. I was very angry and hurt but decided not to say anything right then since she was ill.
The content shared with these guys was deep and sometimes dark. I referenced above things I should have noticed. Since I’m a laundry guy I noticed her gym bag would have gym clothes and shoes but no panties. There were no panties because she’s been giving them to a few of these guys. The closest thing I saw to sex on the phone was a video sent to her by one of the contacts. She’s propped up against his passenger seat in his vehicle and she’s fingering herself telling him not to touch and just watch.
I copied and transferred the phone memory and put it back where it was. Fast forward a year or so now and I still haven’t let her know or looked for the phone again. One of the things that has changed is my initial anger has turned to intrigue. Once or twice a week I open up those files and get myself off to the back and forth between her and the guys. That started some months back. Now it’s evolved into fantasizing about someone else having sex with her as I am having sex with her. She’s gorgeous and sexy but I get harder and more interested thinking of one of those big guys having sec and pleasuring her.
For some reason I’m living the clean life relatively speaking and I’m nowhere close to telling her my feelings or letting her know I know what she’s been doing. I imagine it’s common. Anyone else have similar stories especially when it comes to the apprehension?