Hello,
I'm looking for a few advices.
I'm 29 living with my boyfriend Alex who's 36, we have been together for 3 years but we know each other since we were young, we always were best friends, we both dated on our own but found each other in the end.
More than a few month ago, i accidently found out, maybe on purpose, that he watched a lot of hotwife and cuckolding stuff.
We had a talk and he tried to explained to me, as i always try to stay open minded i did not felt angry, but rather lost and clueless, and we dropped the dicussion..
The next day i searched online to find similar feedback from woman in the same position, well i can say that i found more than i thought...
I went from lost, to curious.
I found some comprehensive and very usefull resources in between forums and podcast and i have to admit i have been surprised by the deepness of those lifestyle and the power granted to the wife or hotwife.
After enough reading and listening i learned a lot and most of the kinks ans practices.
I had an other conversation with my boyfriend on the subject, and made it clear he should not feel guilty for it, tood him i made my research and also that i "might" be ok to try it with him.
He seemed relieved and happy, but when i asked him what he wanted me to do he could not answer, even if i have an idea by the memories of what i found.
Sorry if i'm long, but as i said i have a few questions...
I'm absolutely super shy (we both are), and i would never dare to approach another men to flirt, i read a lot of hotwives feedback going to bars to flirt but i can't...
I'm concerned about the perception change of my boyfriend after that, i know it is fetish for some but, if you look out for better a better (sexual) lover on purpose, how do you deal with seeing your boyfriend/husband as subpar after that. I don't talk about love and feelings, only the sexual aspect.
Is it better to go for one night stand or find a regular ?
One night stand might be easier but i would kinda little more a strong and durable connection.
I did not explained all of it to him yet, but for now i kind of feel attracted by the psycological aspect of the experience, control, teasing him, sexual tension and also the symbolism (visually and by the meanings).
For hotwives having a man who is not very talkative or shy on this kind of subject, how do you move forward ?
Or husbands what do you prefer ?
Do you go slowly making sure he follow along or do you lead and let him keep up ?
I'm looking for a few advices.
I'm 29 living with my boyfriend Alex who's 36, we have been together for 3 years but we know each other since we were young, we always were best friends, we both dated on our own but found each other in the end.
More than a few month ago, i accidently found out, maybe on purpose, that he watched a lot of hotwife and cuckolding stuff.
We had a talk and he tried to explained to me, as i always try to stay open minded i did not felt angry, but rather lost and clueless, and we dropped the dicussion..
The next day i searched online to find similar feedback from woman in the same position, well i can say that i found more than i thought...
I went from lost, to curious.
I found some comprehensive and very usefull resources in between forums and podcast and i have to admit i have been surprised by the deepness of those lifestyle and the power granted to the wife or hotwife.
After enough reading and listening i learned a lot and most of the kinks ans practices.
I had an other conversation with my boyfriend on the subject, and made it clear he should not feel guilty for it, tood him i made my research and also that i "might" be ok to try it with him.
He seemed relieved and happy, but when i asked him what he wanted me to do he could not answer, even if i have an idea by the memories of what i found.
Sorry if i'm long, but as i said i have a few questions...
I'm absolutely super shy (we both are), and i would never dare to approach another men to flirt, i read a lot of hotwives feedback going to bars to flirt but i can't...
I'm concerned about the perception change of my boyfriend after that, i know it is fetish for some but, if you look out for better a better (sexual) lover on purpose, how do you deal with seeing your boyfriend/husband as subpar after that. I don't talk about love and feelings, only the sexual aspect.
Is it better to go for one night stand or find a regular ?
One night stand might be easier but i would kinda little more a strong and durable connection.
I did not explained all of it to him yet, but for now i kind of feel attracted by the psycological aspect of the experience, control, teasing him, sexual tension and also the symbolism (visually and by the meanings).
For hotwives having a man who is not very talkative or shy on this kind of subject, how do you move forward ?
Or husbands what do you prefer ?
Do you go slowly making sure he follow along or do you lead and let him keep up ?