In the book, Tell Me What You Want The Science of Sexual Desire & How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life,
By lehmiller, the author shows how people have strong sexual desires and they are varied. After the book, I found myself wondering.... I have absolutely no desire to ever be with the same sex. I do not dream of bdsm. But these are among the strongest, most popular fantasies. Group sex or sharing is another hugely popular desire/fantasy. I DO want to share my wife with another man (other men.).
Lehmiller says our fantasies appear to be influenced by our first sexual experiences. When I was very young, we played show n tell, truth or dare behind the bushes... usually involving one girl and 2 boys.
So yes, I had an early influence that matches my desires as an adult. So, my question to you is this.... does this hold true for you? Are your desires/fantasies a product of your early experience, or do you feel theyre more hard-wired into your biological makeup?
By lehmiller, the author shows how people have strong sexual desires and they are varied. After the book, I found myself wondering.... I have absolutely no desire to ever be with the same sex. I do not dream of bdsm. But these are among the strongest, most popular fantasies. Group sex or sharing is another hugely popular desire/fantasy. I DO want to share my wife with another man (other men.).
Lehmiller says our fantasies appear to be influenced by our first sexual experiences. When I was very young, we played show n tell, truth or dare behind the bushes... usually involving one girl and 2 boys.
So yes, I had an early influence that matches my desires as an adult. So, my question to you is this.... does this hold true for you? Are your desires/fantasies a product of your early experience, or do you feel theyre more hard-wired into your biological makeup?