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A little about us. I'm 49 and she's 47. I've always been the creative and open one in our 15+ year marriage while she has always been very conservative and a traditionalist. In other words, anything outside of the two of us wasn't of interest to her (except for some toy play every now and then).

To spice things up, we both downloaded an app that we could send sexual ideas to each other, kind of like a truth or dare game but mostly covering dares we wanted each other to do. In one of them, I dared her to find an anonymous stranger to sext with for one night. She said that was "crazy", scolded me for thinking of such a thing and wouldn't talk about it any further. A few weeks later we were chatting casually over some drinks during a vacation (pre-Covid of course) and she said that if I lead the way, she would "maybe" play along. It started out as me using a burner number on a texting app. I'd flirt with her as a stranger who misdialled a text and she played along with short one sentence answers for a couple minutes before disappearing for days without answering.

I decided to up the ante a bit and did some searching online for someone who could text her instead of me (I think she figured out it was me after awhile anyway). I asked her to download a burner number on her phone and to text me her new number. I waited about a week when all of a sudden I get a text on my regular text number from a number I don't recognize and it's my wife. She's downloaded the app and has a burner number.

By now, I've chatted with a guy on the other side of the country for a couple of weeks, explaining what I wanted and what she was like. We went through the ground rules and he agreed to play by them. He messaged her at a pre-set time when I knew my wife and I would be together in the same room. She instantly knew it wasn't me messaging her and didn't say a word to me, even though I knew who it was. For the next couple of weeks, this new guy and I would chat and it didn't appear she was playing along and he was becoming a bit frustrated with the whole situation, as was I.

Then, out of the blue one day about 3 weeks ago, he messaged me to tell me she had been texting with him on and off pretty much all day and sent me some screen shots. The talk wasn't super hot or sizzling or anything but there was plenty of innuendo and flirting on her part. My wife and her boy toy are now texting everyday, sharing pictures and she has said he has sent her a couple of short clips that are very explicit in nature. When I asked if she wanted to continue she said "YES" in all caps in a text with a flame emoji next to it. Last night, she went outside to water some plants and do some other things. She left her phone on the counter with the screen facing down. I picked it up and saw it was unlocked and the text screen was open. I quickly scrolled back but going back to the very beginning to skim through a 3 week long text thread wou;d've taken forever so I stopped at one point and began to read. There was plenty of naughty talk, painting images of what they would do to each other, lots of teasing (and some that left nothing to the imagination) photos of various body parts. There was also lots of idle chit chat about their younger years, their preferences in TV shows, food and other everyday things.

The past 3 weeks she has been a complete nympho in bed with me. No longer does she wear her old pajamas but now comes to bed in either sexy lingerie or is naked and jumps on me. I'm not complaining because knowing she has a side guy is making me hornier than ever as well. Our sex has gone through the roof and more often than not she talks in bed while we are getting busy as if this other guy is there waiting for his turn. In fact, last time we had sex, she rode me until I blew inside her and she got off, went to her toy box and got out her favorite dildo (8" and 2" in diameter). She came back to bed and insisted that I fuck her with it and that "your cum makes good lube and it's easier for me to take all of him".

I'm hoping this is one small step towards having either a hotwife encounter for her or a swinging encounter for all three of us. Anyone have any thoughts? Am I reading too much into this? Is it staring me in the face? What advice on what to do next?
 
A little about us. I'm 49 and she's 47. I've always been the creative and open one in our 15+ year marriage while she has always been very conservative and a traditionalist. In other words, anything outside of the two of us wasn't of interest to her (except for some toy play every now and then).

To spice things up, we both downloaded an app that we could send sexual ideas to each other, kind of like a truth or dare game but mostly covering dares we wanted each other to do. In one of them, I dared her to find an anonymous stranger to sext with for one night. She said that was "crazy", scolded me for thinking of such a thing and wouldn't talk about it any further. A few weeks later we were chatting casually over some drinks during a vacation (pre-Covid of course) and she said that if I lead the way, she would "maybe" play along. It started out as me using a burner number on a texting app. I'd flirt with her as a stranger who misdialled a text and she played along with short one sentence answers for a couple minutes before disappearing for days without answering.

I decided to up the ante a bit and did some searching online for someone who could text her instead of me (I think she figured out it was me after awhile anyway). I asked her to download a burner number on her phone and to text me her new number. I waited about a week when all of a sudden I get a text on my regular text number from a number I don't recognize and it's my wife. She's downloaded the app and has a burner number.

By now, I've chatted with a guy on the other side of the country for a couple of weeks, explaining what I wanted and what she was like. We went through the ground rules and he agreed to play by them. He messaged her at a pre-set time when I knew my wife and I would be together in the same room. She instantly knew it wasn't me messaging her and didn't say a word to me, even though I knew who it was. For the next couple of weeks, this new guy and I would chat and it didn't appear she was playing along and he was becoming a bit frustrated with the whole situation, as was I.

Then, out of the blue one day about 3 weeks ago, he messaged me to tell me she had been texting with him on and off pretty much all day and sent me some screen shots. The talk wasn't super hot or sizzling or anything but there was plenty of innuendo and flirting on her part. My wife and her boy toy are now texting everyday, sharing pictures and she has said he has sent her a couple of short clips that are very explicit in nature. When I asked if she wanted to continue she said "YES" in all caps in a text with a flame emoji next to it. Last night, she went outside to water some plants and do some other things. She left her phone on the counter with the screen facing down. I picked it up and saw it was unlocked and the text screen was open. I quickly scrolled back but going back to the very beginning to skim through a 3 week long text thread wou;d've taken forever so I stopped at one point and began to read. There was plenty of naughty talk, painting images of what they would do to each other, lots of teasing (and some that left nothing to the imagination) photos of various body parts. There was also lots of idle chit chat about their younger years, their preferences in TV shows, food and other everyday things.

The past 3 weeks she has been a complete nympho in bed with me. No longer does she wear her old pajamas but now comes to bed in either sexy lingerie or is naked and jumps on me. I'm not complaining because knowing she has a side guy is making me hornier than ever as well. Our sex has gone through the roof and more often than not she talks in bed while we are getting busy as if this other guy is there waiting for his turn. In fact, last time we had sex, she rode me until I blew inside her and she got off, went to her toy box and got out her favorite dildo (8" and 2" in diameter). She came back to bed and insisted that I fuck her with it and that "your cum makes good lube and it's easier for me to take all of him".

I'm hoping this is one small step towards having either a hotwife encounter for her or a swinging encounter for all three of us. Anyone have any thoughts? Am I reading too much into this? Is it staring me in the face? What advice on what to do next?
Keep playing the game you have going and ask him to up his game. Tell him to try and get her to send him sexier pics and get her to send him some nudes, eventually leading to full on tits and pussy shots!
 
Keep playing the game you have going and ask him to up his game. Tell him to try and get her to send him sexier pics and get her to send him some nudes, eventually leading to full on tits and pussy shots!

Thanks for the reply. I haven’t messaged him for a couple of weeks now as I don’t really want to interfere with their tryst. She has sent him seductive poses both clothed and unclothed but only from the waist up. I asked her why no pussy shots yet and her reply was that she was waiting for the right time.

I noticed on her phone yesterday that he made reference to paying a visit sometime and she didn’t seem too fazed by it and replied that “that would be fun I think”.
 
So...she knows that you know, right? Hopefully he will be able to come visit and you can watch him fuck her. It's awesome to watch that first cock slide into your wife's pussy! Hope it works out for y'all, and it starts you on the incredible journey of hotwife fun.
 
So...she knows that you know, right? Hopefully he will be able to come visit and you can watch him fuck her. It's awesome to watch that first cock slide into your wife's pussy! Hope it works out for y'all, and it starts you on the incredible journey of hotwife fun.

Oh yes she knows that I know. I was the one who set her up to chat with this guy. They’ve started exchanging pictures and the occasional short video clip of some naughty play (cumshots for him, nipple play for her) and in a text today she began asking more questions about things to do in the city he lives in. My next move in a week or so will be to start talking about some vacation destinations...of course I’ll let her suggest the city he lives in.
 
Thanks for the reply. I haven’t messaged him for a couple of weeks now as I don’t really want to interfere with their tryst. She has sent him seductive poses both clothed and unclothed but only from the waist up. I asked her why no pussy shots yet and her reply was that she was waiting for the right time.

I noticed on her phone yesterday that he made reference to paying a visit sometime and she didn’t seem too fazed by it and replied that “that would be fun I think”.
That’s great, keep us posted please! Damn, I’m excited to see where this goes as much as you are! Lol! 😂
 
Just a quick update since my last post a few days ago:

I was in the kitchen making a quick lunch and she left her phone on the counter screen down as usual and grabbed the watering can and went outside to tend to her flowers and plants. Being curious, I picked it up, opened her text app and lo and behold this is what I read. Not being able to resist, I grabbed my phone and snapped a couple of photos (she would be able to tell if I sent screenshots to myself) of her phone screen. He certainly had her worked up and ready earlier that morning while I was out running errands!
 
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A little about us. I'm 49 and she's 47. I've always been the creative and open one in our 15+ year marriage while she has always been very conservative and a traditionalist. In other words, anything outside of the two of us wasn't of interest to her (except for some toy play every now and then).

To spice things up, we both downloaded an app that we could send sexual ideas to each other, kind of like a truth or dare game but mostly covering dares we wanted each other to do. In one of them, I dared her to find an anonymous stranger to sext with for one night. She said that was "crazy", scolded me for thinking of such a thing and wouldn't talk about it any further. A few weeks later we were chatting casually over some drinks during a vacation (pre-Covid of course) and she said that if I lead the way, she would "maybe" play along. It started out as me using a burner number on a texting app. I'd flirt with her as a stranger who misdialled a text and she played along with short one sentence answers for a couple minutes before disappearing for days without answering.

I decided to up the ante a bit and did some searching online for someone who could text her instead of me (I think she figured out it was me after awhile anyway). I asked her to download a burner number on her phone and to text me her new number. I waited about a week when all of a sudden I get a text on my regular text number from a number I don't recognize and it's my wife. She's downloaded the app and has a burner number.

By now, I've chatted with a guy on the other side of the country for a couple of weeks, explaining what I wanted and what she was like. We went through the ground rules and he agreed to play by them. He messaged her at a pre-set time when I knew my wife and I would be together in the same room. She instantly knew it wasn't me messaging her and didn't say a word to me, even though I knew who it was. For the next couple of weeks, this new guy and I would chat and it didn't appear she was playing along and he was becoming a bit frustrated with the whole situation, as was I.

Then, out of the blue one day about 3 weeks ago, he messaged me to tell me she had been texting with him on and off pretty much all day and sent me some screen shots. The talk wasn't super hot or sizzling or anything but there was plenty of innuendo and flirting on her part. My wife and her boy toy are now texting everyday, sharing pictures and she has said he has sent her a couple of short clips that are very explicit in nature. When I asked if she wanted to continue she said "YES" in all caps in a text with a flame emoji next to it. Last night, she went outside to water some plants and do some other things. She left her phone on the counter with the screen facing down. I picked it up and saw it was unlocked and the text screen was open. I quickly scrolled back but going back to the very beginning to skim through a 3 week long text thread wou;d've taken forever so I stopped at one point and began to read. There was plenty of naughty talk, painting images of what they would do to each other, lots of teasing (and some that left nothing to the imagination) photos of various body parts. There was also lots of idle chit chat about their younger years, their preferences in TV shows, food and other everyday things.

The past 3 weeks she has been a complete nympho in bed with me. No longer does she wear her old pajamas but now comes to bed in either sexy lingerie or is naked and jumps on me. I'm not complaining because knowing she has a side guy is making me hornier than ever as well. Our sex has gone through the roof and more often than not she talks in bed while we are getting busy as if this other guy is there waiting for his turn. In fact, last time we had sex, she rode me until I blew inside her and she got off, went to her toy box and got out her favorite dildo (8" and 2" in diameter). She came back to bed and insisted that I fuck her with it and that "your cum makes good lube and it's easier for me to take all of him".

I'm hoping this is one small step towards having either a hotwife encounter for her or a swinging encounter for all three of us. Anyone have any thoughts? Am I reading too much into this? Is it staring me in the face? What advice on what to do next?

Why the fuck haven't you set up a threesome with this guy ??? She's ready to fuck you both !!!
 
That sucks. Maybe visit Swinging Lifestyle dot com and meet someone near you. I've used that site for years and had great success.
If that were an option I’d do that but she’s already ruled out anyone else for now. She’s having fun with this guy because she trusts him and tells me that even though they have some sexy fun texting each other constantly, she has no desire to actually fuck him in real life.

I say she’s fibbing and wouldn’t hesitate jumping in bed with him given the chance. But I’m willing to invest as much time as needed to get her comfortable with the idea of us meeting him somewhere.

I’m just looking for advice from others who may have or may not have been through the same type of thing — overcoming the hardwired stigma that spouses are meant to be faithful to one another, even though being with someone else with the permission of the other spouse isn’t being unfaithful.

I’ve already eluded to her that sexually texting another guy would be considered an unfaithful act but, because I’ve encouraged her and supported her, it isn’t something that would be classed as cheating or being unfaithful. She agreed and said “I guess so”. But it’s going to take some time and some expert navigating to get her to keep moving down that road and that’s why I consider realistic advice from others to be helpful.
 
Took me a looooooooooooooooog time to finally agree to this lifestyle. Fortunately for the the first guy was a total winner. This was back when CL was still posting personals. Had to literally sift thru hundreds of emails and kept whittling down and down until we found the right guy.
I wish I had done it sooner as I can't get enough of his big cock.
 
Took me a looooooooooooooooog time to finally agree to this lifestyle. Fortunately for the the first guy was a total winner. This was back when CL was still posting personals. Had to literally sift thru hundreds of emails and kept whittling down and down until we found the right guy.
I wish I had done it sooner as I can't get enough of his big cock.
That’s pretty encouraging to know. I’m a man of patience and realize that it may never ever happen in real life so I’m fully prepared to let her be a cyber hotwife with her guy and the texting machine LOL! My way of thinking though is the longer she chats with him by text, the more trusting she will be (she has already said he’s the perfect mixture of nice and naughty) and the more he will convince her to have a meet up for some fun. That’s my hope anyway.
 
That’s pretty encouraging to know. I’m a man of patience and realize that it may never ever happen in real life so I’m fully prepared to let her be a cyber hotwife with her guy and the texting machine LOL! My way of thinking though is the longer she chats with him by text, the more trusting she will be (she has already said he’s the perfect mixture of nice and naughty) and the more he will convince her to have a meet up for some fun. That’s my hope anyway.
I think her having you onboard and being supportive is very important. Let her know how much you think she'll LOVE this !!!
 
I think her having you onboard and being supportive is very important. Let her know how much you think she'll LOVE this !!!
I'll bet Mrs. Memories4Us could use some opinions and recommendations from you and other ladies who are hotwives as to what YOU think of being a hotwife. If she hears from ladies who are ACTUAL hotwives about how their romantic lives changed, she may feel more at ease to try dating another guy.
 
í spoke with you at length a few days ago, we both know that the borders are not going to open soon. She is so, so ready to fuck another guy, her pussy is a soggy mess wanting to fuck this well hung guy most of the time as you know. If you persist with just this one guy, you are putting at risk her ever becoming a hot wife, I there text affair falls over she will be heart broken and will likely never go down this track again. I f you want her to become a hot wife now is the perfect time, her mind is so preoccupied with stray cock any guy with with the right approach and a big cock could fuck her at will. The only thing I can see that is holding her back from becoming what you say you want is you. lighten up and make it happen for her now.

This of course is only my opinion
 
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An update from last night:
After not having seen each other for a few days (I was back at work for a few days while she stayed behind at the lake cottage) I returned to the cottage last night. When it was time for bed, she immediately climbed into bed and grabbed my cock and demanded that I suck on her tits. Game on.
While we played a little, we started talking about her friend and the effect he was having on her libido. She admitted she has never been turned on and ready to go like she is now when he’s messaging her. Her pussy proved it because she was definitely wet and ready.

She asked me again where I found him so I told her but made sure she knew that I had taken the proper steps to make sure he was worthy. This seemed to surprise Mrs. Memories but I added that it had to be done right otherwise it wouldn’t be a very enjoyable experience and she wouldn’t want to do it again. She agreed that she is having a lot of sexy fun and is becoming more confident with her body and image because of him.

As we moved to the main event (and bear in mind our cottage walls are very thin and the bed squeaks a lot because it’s older) she told me to get on my knees and fuck her. I never say no to that and did as I was told. As I fucked her slowly and quietly, I spent plenty of time kissing her and whispering into her ear. A couple times I asked her to close her eyes and picture her friend fucking her instead of me. Each time her pussy clenched down on me and she lifted her hips to meet mine. This went on for a good 20-25 minutes before she told me her hips were getting sore and that I needed to cum soon. I haven’t felt her pussy clamp down on me that much before so I know she was into it.

As I was nearing the end, I sprung the question on her and asked her if he had been from somewhere closer to here and the situation was exactly the same, would she like to spend a night with him. She replied “if I was single yes definitely” and “I would so shove his face into my pussy and then ride him”.

So there’s my challenge to overcome. She has this idea in her head that she morally can’t fuck anyone but me in real life. I’ll be on the boat lots today so I’m looking forward to your advice on how to get her past this hurdle. And For what it’s worth... I don’t know any of her friends who have done that and she says she never talks about sex with her girlfriends either.
 
1500 miles away
If that were an option I’d do that but she’s already ruled out anyone else for now. She’s having fun with this guy because she trusts him and tells me that even though they have some sexy fun texting each other constantly, she has no desire to actually fuck him in real life.

I say she’s fibbing and wouldn’t hesitate jumping in bed with him given the chance. But I’m willing to invest as much time as needed to get her comfortable with the idea of us meeting him somewhere.

I’m just looking for advice from others who may have or may not have been through the same type of thing — overcoming the hardwired stigma that spouses are meant to be faithful to one another, even though being with someone else with the permission of the other spouse isn’t being unfaithful.

I’ve already eluded to her that sexually texting another guy would be considered an unfaithful act but, because I’ve encouraged her and supported her, it isn’t something that would be classed as cheating or being unfaithful. She agreed and said “I guess so”. But it’s going to take some time and some expert navigating to get her to keep moving down that road and that’s why I consider realistic advice from others to be helpful.

Your right....it's going to take a long time to bring her to the point that she'll at least want to try swinging. It took me several years, so be patient. Since the guy she's texting is 1500 miles away, she feels "safe" (as far as actually having sex with this guy). It sounds like to me this is her way of "sticking her big toe in the water" while spicing up your sex life at the same time. The good news is....At least she's testing the waters instead of slamming the door shut. Just be patient and bring it along slowly. Don't hound her about it, but every so often when the sex is hotter than usual....talk about it. I used to tell my wife fantasies during really hot sex. After being patient, I was rewarded. We have now lived out most (but not all) of our fantasies. Good luck !!! :)
 
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