Weird (bad?) experience last night. Did I get cucked??

[RLG34]

Warning, this is pretty long.

So, not sure how I feel about the experience for us last night. My Mom stayed with the kids so we could get out of town for a night at a hotel.

Long story short, we brought a guy back to our hotel room, and he ended up being kind of abrasive. He was younger, probably early 20s and was not very respectful in my eyes. Didn’t seem that way at all earlier, but when we got him back to the room, he shifted into calling my wife a slut and a whore multiple times. The third time I told him to cut that shit off. Not long after that he’s telling my wife he’s going to “wreck her pussy.”

At this point, I’m done with this, but my wife said it was ok, calm down. I think she could see I wasn’t happy, but I didn’t expect her to then ask ME to leave the room. I was kind of stunned, but said you’re sure and she said yes, it’s fine.

So I waited about three doors down by the elevator. I wanted to be close enough I could hear if anything unsafe came up, but not stand outside the door like “nothing to see here, my wife is just getting banged in there.” He came out about 20 minutes later. I stared him down, but he didn’t make eye contact with me. I’m still kind of pissed as I write this.

So I asked my wife if everything was ok and she said “yes, good now get over here.” We had great sex, she was very wet and eager. She was so wet I asked her just to make sure he wore a condom and she said of course. Good. I can’t lie, it was really great. Probably up there with the best we’ve ever had.

Then it all turned for me. Afterwards we’re talking about how things went and she said it was really good. I said, “okay, did you get any pictures or video?” No they didn’t, everything happened kind of fast. I’m not happy about that, but whatever. Uh ok, so tell me what happened.

Come to find out he was pretty aggressive and my wife evidently liked it. Said it reminded her of a couple times in college. Ok, so that’s new.

I wanted to know how big he was and she just said BIG. I asked how big like 7 inches? She just showed me with her hands and I was like fuuuuuuuck. And she showed me how big around and I understood why her pussy was so wet and felt like it did. Sounds like easily above 8” and thick. I have to be honest, that’s the biggest I know of my wife taking and not exactly sure how I feel about it. So yeah, he wasn’t all talk.

Then she tells me he tried to put it in her ass TWICE. I said, “why the fuck didn’t you call for me!?” And she said it’s fine, I’m a big girl I can handle myself. He stopped it. It was just in the moment, we were having fun. Uhhh okay. WTF.

The final straw for me is I ask her did she cum and she said he licked her pussy after he came and she did. Ok fine. Then it comes out that he came IN HER MOUTH. She proudly says “I swallowed” with a little giggle like I’m going to be happy about that. I said “I FUCKING TONGUE KISSED YOU AFTER!” And she’s just telling me to calm down, it’s hot. No big deal.

She was saying she thought this is what we wanted and started to feel bad. I didn’t want her to feel bad and assured he she did nothing wrong. Inside I’m conflicted though.

Anyway, I’ve just got some major confusion going on today. On one hand, it turns me on. On the other, I feel like I got semi-cuckolded and found out some things about my wife I might not like.

Has anyone had a similar experience? What did you do? How do you make things “right.”

 

[Welder153]

sounds like she got what she wanted

 

[Jiggyjiggy]

Your on a slippery route, wether you like it or not. You’ve unleashed the slut in her.

 

[Welder153]

Your on a slippery route, wether you like it or not. You’ve unleashed the slut in her.

so true, may as well embrase it now, nothing can change what has happened, and she enjoyed it, she will want to again , with him or someone else

 

[Jiggyjiggy]

Reverse the situation, your loving wife lets you bring home a younger women and then there she is satisfying your sexual needs your wife doesn’t know about. She dumbly leaves and let’s you get on with it with her there. Of course you’ll go all all out and do things to this younger women you’ve only dreamed about and that you wife would never had imagined!!!

of course you’ll going to want to do it all again

 

[RLG34]

My wife and I talked about this in depth today. I think we’re getting to an understanding. Not quite there yet.

 

[Welder153]

Good luck I hope you both come to understand each other’s needs and desires. My gf fucked a guy three different occasions, while I was there to watch and join in some. Although she said after each date she wasn’t interested in seeing him again. But knowing he asked to see her. She was giddy as a school girl each day getting ready for her date.

My wife and I talked about this in depth today. I think we’re getting to an understanding. Not quite there yet.

 

[RLG34]

Good luck I hope you both come to understand each other’s needs and desires. My gf fucked a guy three different occasions, while I was there to watch and join in some. Although she said after each date she wasn’t interested in seeing him again. But knowing he asked to see her. She was giddy as a school girl each day getting ready for her date.

Thanks. Basically after lots of discussion today, I saw it from her POV much more, which is what fun is it for her if she’s fucking guys that don’t really do anything for her at all. She did apologize for the way it went down. Said she was just embarrassed and I was killing the mood. We’ve agreed I’ll be present or she’ll get pictures from now on, no exceptions. She said she won’t apologize for enjoying herself and being free and spontaneous with the sex. I don’t disagree. Ultimately I think we probably had to get to this point sometime.

 

[WNY3somecple]

1). The young guy watched too much porn.
2). You and your wife need to set guidelines before hand.
3). You need to lay out what is and is not okay with any potential partner

 

[RLG34]

1). The young guy watched too much porn.
2). You and your wife need to set guidelines before hand.
3). You need to lay out what is and is not okay with any potential partner

All valid points. My wife even mentioned what you said in #1. She said, yes he had a big dick, but he didn’t seem like an experienced lover. After I left she said he toned it down a little, and even the ass thing was in a very unaggressive way. She said this is probably something we’re just going to face more with younger guys, and that’s what she prefers. She likes being the hot wife, the cougar. Young guys still finding her attractive really turns her on, makes her feel sexy. She also said she was in control and everything they did was because she wanted to, not because he forced anything. But she also said she did enjoy the more forceful way, being "taken" instead of her doing everything.

For 2 and 3, I think that’s exactly what we’re doing now in hindsight. We realize now our rules need to be more detailed and thorough. We had a loose understanding, and clearly some of those didn’t align.

This experience hasn’t ruined anything for us, and now that we’ve talked, it does turn me on. Wife asked to only do oral last night because she admitted she was a little tender from Saturday night. She also said she’d do it again and enjoyed it way more than the first one. All in all, we’ll probably look back at this as kind of a turning point for us in a good way. Moving forward together, and in agreement.

 

[2wheel]

Warning, this is pretty long.

So, not sure how I feel about the experience for us last night. My Mom stayed with the kids so we could get out of town for a night at a hotel.

Long story short, we brought a guy back to our hotel room, and he ended up being kind of abrasive. He was younger, probably early 20s and was not very respectful in my eyes. Didn’t seem that way at all earlier, but when we got him back to the room, he shifted into calling my wife a slut and a whore multiple times. The third time I told him to cut that shit off. Not long after that he’s telling my wife he’s going to “wreck her pussy.”

At this point, I’m done with this, but my wife said it was ok, calm down. I think she could see I wasn’t happy, but I didn’t expect her to then ask ME to leave the room. I was kind of stunned, but said you’re sure and she said yes, it’s fine.

So I waited about three doors down by the elevator. I wanted to be close enough I could hear if anything unsafe came up, but not stand outside the door like “nothing to see here, my wife is just getting banged in there.” He came out about 20 minutes later. I stared him down, but he didn’t make eye contact with me. I’m still kind of pissed as I write this.

So I asked my wife if everything was ok and she said “yes, good now get over here.” We had great sex, she was very wet and eager. She was so wet I asked her just to make sure he wore a condom and she said of course. Good. I can’t lie, it was really great. Probably up there with the best we’ve ever had.

Then it all turned for me. Afterwards we’re talking about how things went and she said it was really good. I said, “okay, did you get any pictures or video?” No they didn’t, everything happened kind of fast. I’m not happy about that, but whatever. Uh ok, so tell me what happened.

Come to find out he was pretty aggressive and my wife evidently liked it. Said it reminded her of a couple times in college. Ok, so that’s new.

I wanted to know how big he was and she just said BIG. I asked how big like 7 inches? She just showed me with her hands and I was like fuuuuuuuck. And she showed me how big around and I understood why her pussy was so wet and felt like it did. Sounds like easily above 8” and thick. I have to be honest, that’s the biggest I know of my wife taking and not exactly sure how I feel about it. So yeah, he wasn’t all talk.

Then she tells me he tried to put it in her ass TWICE. I said, “why the fuck didn’t you call for me!?” And she said it’s fine, I’m a big girl I can handle myself. He stopped it. It was just in the moment, we were having fun. Uhhh okay. WTF.

The final straw for me is I ask her did she cum and she said he licked her pussy after he came and she did. Ok fine. Then it comes out that he came IN HER MOUTH. She proudly says “I swallowed” with a little giggle like I’m going to be happy about that. I said “I FUCKING TONGUE KISSED YOU AFTER!” And she’s just telling me to calm down, it’s hot. No big deal.

She was saying she thought this is what we wanted and started to feel bad. I didn’t want her to feel bad and assured he she did nothing wrong. Inside I’m conflicted though.

Anyway, I’ve just got some major confusion going on today. On one hand, it turns me on. On the other, I feel like I got semi-cuckolded and found out some things about my wife I might not like.

Has anyone had a similar experience? What did you do? How do you make things “right.”

1 - if your wife has sex with another man you're a cuckold, there is no such thing as "semi-cuckolded".
2 - this LS isn't for everyone
3 - the prime focus of this lifestyle is your wife's enjoyment NOT yours
4 - what you may not like is secondary to what she may like - that includes her being called what you consider verbal 'degradation'
5 - you seem to have a lot of rules: verbal, swallow, condom, being present, video, pics, etc - she seems otherwise saying more than once "it's fine."
6 - sometimes the sizzle is better than the steak
This is the point that I would say over a beer, you need an attitude adjustment or you both need to step away from this LS, cause it ain't gonna be pretty.

 

[RLG34]

1 - if your wife has sex with another man you're a cuckold, there is no such thing as "semi-cuckolded".
2 - this LS isn't for everyone
3 - the prime focus of this lifestyle is your wife's enjoyment NOT yours
4 - what you may not like is secondary to what she may like - that includes her being called what you consider verbal 'degradation'
5 - you seem to have a lot of rules: verbal, swallow, condom, being present, video, pics, etc - she seems otherwise saying more than once "it's fine."
6 - sometimes the sizzle is better than the steak
This is the point that I would say over a beer, you need an attitude adjustment or you both need to step away from this LS, cause it ain't gonna be pretty.

1 - if your wife has sex with another man you're a cuckold, there is no such thing as "semi-cuckolded".

I think we disagree there. Definitely differences between cuckold vs stag.

2 - this LS isn't for everyone

Understood. We're still feeling that out.

3 - the prime focus of this lifestyle is your wife's enjoyment NOT yours

Yes, and I've clearly admitted I haven't been as mindful of that as I should.

4 - what you may not like is secondary to what she may like - that includes her being called what you consider verbal 'degradation'

I think this is a big one. Truth is, I'm learning that what she wants from me in the bedroom isn't the same as what she wants from a stranger. This is a fantasy/fetish for her too.

5 - you seem to have a lot of rules: verbal, swallow, condom, being present, video, pics, etc - she seems otherwise saying more than once "it's fine."

We both want rules and we've talked about it at length. But like #4 above, we didn't have a good sense of what was wanted or not wanted by the other. I’ll also say that the swallowing thing isn’t a rule per se. My wife has always swallowed, so I don’t expect that would change with someone else, and she said he asked to finish in her mouth and she was good with it. My problem with it is I really don’t want to be frenching my wife after some guy came in her mouth 15 minutes ago. She said it turned her on, but she also understands why I’d be upset with that. I do think this is some of the difference between a cuckold and stag LS. And condoms we’ve always agreed on.

 

[2wheel]

I think we disagree there. Definitely differences between cuckold vs stag.

Understood. We're still feeling that out.

Yes, and I've clearly admitted I haven't been as mindful of that as I should.

I think this is a big one. Truth is, I'm learning that what she wants from me in the bedroom isn't the same as what she wants from a stranger. This is a fantasy/fetish for her too.

We both want rules and we've talked about it at length. But like #4 above, we didn't have a good sense of what was wanted or not wanted by the other.

Glad you're mindful.

Is this the start or the end (part 1)?

Thursday, 8/30, I asked my wife if Gayle is going to join us for dinner Friday 8/31. (we're going out for pizza and Gayle's husband Jack is away). She's engrossed in reading a book and without any thought blurts out, "no, Gayle has a date." Then she realizes what she just said, stops reading...

www.wifewantstoplay.com

Cuckold definition isn't an opinion it's a fact - one can't disagree with a fact.

 

[mrtrusted]

This is an interesting experience that both of you should learn from RIGHT now. Your wife enjoyed the treatment and you found your boundaries. It sounds like you never discussed hard NOs in the beginning. My wife won't admit it, but she loves being treated rough and flat-out dirty when she is in the mood. I knew this going in and I find it a turn on that it turns her on. If you did not know this was a possibility with your wife, and you are the one feeling disrespected (for her? Really?), then you two need to keep going with the sit-downs. I completely understand your anger with her being dismissive of your feelings, and frankly, I would have shut the whole thing down. Part of your nature is to make sure she is safe and secure, but she sounds like she enjoys a bit of mistreatment...when you made a scene it put her in a position. She was turned on with your consent and you were there to ensure it all went well. Then, you got booted. You need to discuss this and make sure you are both on the same page. If she enjoys it, can you be there for her and make sure she gets what she wants safely? Or will you create tension? If she got off without you there, you may well be on your way to a full cuck life instead of the stag. To me, once you give up control to the other man, your cucked. To hell with what mr blanket statement up there says.

 

[RLG34]

This is an interesting experience that both of you should learn from RIGHT now. Your wife enjoyed the treatment and you found your boundaries. It sounds like you never discussed hard NOs in the beginning. My wife won't admit it, but she loves being treated rough and flat-out dirty when she is in the mood. I knew this going in and I find it a turn on that it turns her on. If you did not know this was a possibility with your wife, and you are the one feeling disrespected (for her? Really?), then you two need to keep going with the sit-downs. I completely understand your anger with her being dismissive of your feelings, and frankly, I would have shut the whole thing down. Part of your nature is to make sure she is safe and secure, but she sounds like she enjoys a bit of mistreatment...when you made a scene it put her in a position. She was turned on with your consent and you were there to ensure it all went well. Then, you got booted. You need to discuss this and make sure you are both on the same page. If she enjoys it, can you be there for her and make sure she gets what she wants safely? Or will you create tension? If she got off without you there, you may well be on your way to a full cuck life instead of the stag. To me, once you give up control to the other man, your cucked. To hell with what mr blanket statement up there says.

Yeah, we’ve done a lot of talking, and have only played once since (and it was a fairly tame handjob in a car with me there). My wife insists she wants me there, but just said she got uncomfortable with the previous encounter, but was turned on by him and wanted it badly. We’re in a better place now and Have discussed practically every scenario in detail. We’re even discussing some couples play. Overall, I just think it was a situation that got us to where we needed to be. Work and home life has been busy, but we’re arranging another date hopefully here in the next 2-3 weeks.

 

[TD12]

During my wife's first hotwife experience she ( she went to his hotel room alone and provided me with the details later) sucked the guy dry, which resulted in him cumming in her mouth an her swallowing all his cum. I was a little taken back when she told me because when she blows me she stops sucking and finishes me off with her hand. So when she provided me with the details I would have to say I was a bit upset and we discussed the issue.

She told me that she still doesn't like cum in her mouth or even the thought of swallowing cum, but in that situation (in the heat of the moment) she was so turned on by his big cock she couldn't help herself. After her explanation I'm ok with it after all it's about her freedom to explore her sexuality's and that freedom is what turns me on.

 

[Enes Ulf]

During my wife's first hotwife experience she ( she went to his hotel room alone and provided me with the details later) sucked the guy dry, which resulted in him cumming in her mouth an her swallowing all his cum. I was a little taken back when she told me because when she blows me she stops sucking and finishes me off with her hand. So when she provided me with the details I would have to say I was a bit upset and we discussed the issue.

She told me that she still doesn't like cum in her mouth or even the thought of swallowing cum, but in that situation (in the heat of the moment) she was so turned on by his big cock she couldn't help herself. After her explanation I'm ok with it after all it's about her freedom to explore her sexuality's and that freedom is what turns me on.

hmmmmmmmm please tell me her age and bra size

 

[Bobby75]

hmmmmmmmm please tell me her age and bra size

You’re so weird ..

 

[Welder153]

You’re so weird ..

i think i got the same message from him

 

[ep46wksp]

Warning, this is pretty long.

So, not sure how I feel about the experience for us last night. My Mom stayed with the kids so we could get out of town for a night at a hotel.

Long story short, we brought a guy back to our hotel room, and he ended up being kind of abrasive. He was younger, probably early 20s and was not very respectful in my eyes. Didn’t seem that way at all earlier, but when we got him back to the room, he shifted into calling my wife a slut and a whore multiple times. The third time I told him to cut that shit off. Not long after that he’s telling my wife he’s going to “wreck her pussy.”

At this point, I’m done with this, but my wife said it was ok, calm down. I think she could see I wasn’t happy, but I didn’t expect her to then ask ME to leave the room. I was kind of stunned, but said you’re sure and she said yes, it’s fine.

So I waited about three doors down by the elevator. I wanted to be close enough I could hear if anything unsafe came up, but not stand outside the door like “nothing to see here, my wife is just getting banged in there.” He came out about 20 minutes later. I stared him down, but he didn’t make eye contact with me. I’m still kind of pissed as I write this.

So I asked my wife if everything was ok and she said “yes, good now get over here.” We had great sex, she was very wet and eager. She was so wet I asked her just to make sure he wore a condom and she said of course. Good. I can’t lie, it was really great. Probably up there with the best we’ve ever had.

Then it all turned for me. Afterwards we’re talking about how things went and she said it was really good. I said, “okay, did you get any pictures or video?” No they didn’t, everything happened kind of fast. I’m not happy about that, but whatever. Uh ok, so tell me what happened.

Come to find out he was pretty aggressive and my wife evidently liked it. Said it reminded her of a couple times in college. Ok, so that’s new.

I wanted to know how big he was and she just said BIG. I asked how big like 7 inches? She just showed me with her hands and I was like fuuuuuuuck. And she showed me how big around and I understood why her pussy was so wet and felt like it did. Sounds like easily above 8” and thick. I have to be honest, that’s the biggest I know of my wife taking and not exactly sure how I feel about it. So yeah, he wasn’t all talk.

Then she tells me he tried to put it in her ass TWICE. I said, “why the fuck didn’t you call for me!?” And she said it’s fine, I’m a big girl I can handle myself. He stopped it. It was just in the moment, we were having fun. Uhhh okay. WTF.

The final straw for me is I ask her did she cum and she said he licked her pussy after he came and she did. Ok fine. Then it comes out that he came IN HER MOUTH. She proudly says “I swallowed” with a little giggle like I’m going to be happy about that. I said “I FUCKING TONGUE KISSED YOU AFTER!” And she’s just telling me to calm down, it’s hot. No big deal.

She was saying she thought this is what we wanted and started to feel bad. I didn’t want her to feel bad and assured he she did nothing wrong. Inside I’m conflicted though.

Anyway, I’ve just got some major confusion going on today. On one hand, it turns me on. On the other, I feel like I got semi-cuckolded and found out some things about my wife I might not like.

Has anyone had a similar experience? What did you do? How do you make things “right.”

embrace the journey, you opened the door now step through with her, or she will on her own