I get what your saying but for us it's just some good sexy fun with a guy we know.
We don't fall into the....unrealistic fake fantasy thoughts like many on here do.
Our friend does have a big dick, they get it on pretty hot sometimes and he does cum in her but he never "blows his load down her throat".
Nothing negative or demeaning happens. The few times she did swallow his load it was from a very hot but sensual blow job. Him or I have never been fucking her, pull out then cum in her mouth or on her face, tits or anywhere ON her. We always cum in her puss during sex. We all like it that way.