Wife ever run hot/cold with you wanting to share her?

[Dcucked]

It has been only a few weeks since i seriously brought up the idea to have my wife fucked by another guy. My wife didnt say no to the idea, rather she said "I dont know" and voices her concerns about safety and what might happen if we find her a lover. The open communication that followed has been great. We've discussed whether we find a total stranger, or an old bf, or a swingers club. Somtimes i will mention her being with another person and she will respond in a playful, teasing kind of way. We've had some fun with role play in bed too. Other times though she gets upset and doesnt want to talk about it. She says that she just wants me and she is not turned on by someone who is not her husband who she loves very much. I suppose I am flattered but I still think it would be amazingly hot to see her losing herself riding another cock.

Is this normal for those in the early days of the wife sharing lifestyle?Since entertaining the possibility of her really becoming a hotwife it is all I can think about. I imagine her blowing a thick cock with her hand wrapped around the shaft showing off her wedding ring. Seeing another man's hands cup her soft boobs while his cock stretches her pussy wide would be so hot.

I just dont know if we will ever get from where we our to actually seeing that happen. I suppose patience is key. Any other advice or encouraging stories would be appreciated.

Thanks!

 

[Robert Smith]

I have shared my wife with many men over the last 30 years. My wife, then GF, sounded similar to your lady. Persistence paid off for me

We are in our 60s. I met Elaine when I was 32 and she was 29. We were both divorced with no kids. After dating for several months I really started liking her. I had done some swinging and wife sharing with my ex wife. I don't think that led to our divorce, but one never knows. I got Elaine to pose for sexy polaroid pics and she didn't seem to object like some women do. For my birthday she surprised me with some lingerie photos done by a professional she had hired. I was more than pleased with that attitude. After about a year I decided to broach the idea of sharing her. Started with sex talk in the bedroom. While having sex she acted willing saying it might be fun, but nothing ever actually happened. I knew for our relationship to go further I was going to have to press the issue to see if she ! was all talk and no action. I kept telling her to pick out some guy she would like to fuck. I didn't care if it was old lover or friend. She said she could not approach someone about having sex with them if she really loved me.

 

[wormwood]

I'm in the same boat my friend. But my boat is years older than yours. (I've been trying for years) She runs hot and cold on the subject and wont really share why. The more I press, the more she seems to resist. So I've backed off quite a bit but I'm still frustrated.

 

[Indiancpl1328]

We also started on a similar note & eventually she made up her mind to go ahead with it. What I noticed is women are horny in 2nd & 3rd week after periods so it's the best time to bring up the topic. Secondly we didn't had sex for almost a year as we were bored of routine & role plays this made her horny day by day.
Another thing is her first experience has to be really good..any wrong man on the first ocassion & chances are she will never do it again. And above all you need to have patience. It took us good 4 years to do it but now she is completely into it.

 

[Hotrodden]

It has been only a few weeks since i seriously brought up the idea to have my wife fucked by another guy. My wife didnt say no to the idea, rather she said "I dont know" and voices her concerns about safety and what might happen if we find her a lover. The open communication that followed has been great. We've discussed whether we find a total stranger, or an old bf, or a swingers club. Somtimes i will mention her being with another person and she will respond in a playful, teasing kind of way. We've had some fun with role play in bed too. Other times though she gets upset and doesnt want to talk about it. She says that she just wants me and she is not turned on by someone who is not her husband who she loves very much. I suppose I am flattered but I still think it would be amazingly hot to see her losing herself riding another cock.

Is this normal for those in the early days of the wife sharing lifestyle?Since entertaining the possibility of her really becoming a hotwife it is all I can think about. I imagine her blowing a thick cock with her hand wrapped around the shaft showing off her wedding ring. Seeing another man's hands cup her soft boobs while his cock stretches her pussy wide would be so hot.

I just dont know if we will ever get from where we our to actually seeing that happen. I suppose patience is key. Any other advice or encouraging stories would be appreciated.

Thanks!

Me and my husband are currently in the same place. We love each other completely and know we have a solid marriage but he would love to share me but hes not pushing it on me. hes ok it just being us but like you said above hed love to watch me lose it with another man but just a new fuck nothing connecting it to or not even a regular guy. Im like her, Im ok with just having my man..but my fears, concerns and regrets for myself keep playing in my head. We even thought about me doing his best friend but his friend is worried about getting caught so for now hes been put on the back burner. So we are just going to maybe search for one, vet him out and have regular chit chat and ease into it. I love being blindfolded so maybe this will ease my nerves and fears. But for now we love playing out the fantasy in our lives as it drives us both crazy.

 

[Robert50]

My wife also runs hot and cold but she knows how obsessed I am with this lifestyle. Her anxiety seems not from the fact that I love to watch her fuck another man or that I want to eat his come out of her freshly fucked pussy. Rather, it comes from the fact that I also love to fluff up and clean her bull’s cock before and after they fuck.

 

[Dcucked]

My wife also runs hot and cold but she knows how obsessed I am with this lifestyle. Her anxiety seems not from the fact that I love to watch her fuck another man or that I want to eat his come out of her freshly fucked pussy. Rather, it comes from the fact that I also love to fluff up and clean her bull’s cock before and after they fuck.

Living the dream Robert, living the dream

 

[btweets]

It has been only a few weeks since i seriously brought up the idea to have my wife fucked by another guy. My wife didnt say no to the idea, rather she said "I dont know" and voices her concerns about safety and what might happen if we find her a lover. The open communication that followed has been great. We've discussed whether we find a total stranger, or an old bf, or a swingers club. Somtimes i will mention her being with another person and she will respond in a playful, teasing kind of way. We've had some fun with role play in bed too. Other times though she gets upset and doesnt want to talk about it. She says that she just wants me and she is not turned on by someone who is not her husband who she loves very much. I suppose I am flattered but I still think it would be amazingly hot to see her losing herself riding another cock.

Is this normal for those in the early days of the wife sharing lifestyle?Since entertaining the possibility of her really becoming a hotwife it is all I can think about. I imagine her blowing a thick cock with her hand wrapped around the shaft showing off her wedding ring. Seeing another man's hands cup her soft boobs while his cock stretches her pussy wide would be so hot.

I just dont know if we will ever get from where we our to actually seeing that happen. I suppose patience is key. Any other advice or encouraging stories would be appreciated.

Thanks!

When she gets upset and doesnt want to talk about it, is it during any particular time? Does she get like that, when you bring it up while you’re having sex? Are you bringing it up just out of the blue, and without anything leading to that type of discussion? What I’m saying is, timing is everything! You should only attempt to bring up the idea while she’s in the heat of the moment, when she’s sexually excited and turned on? Works even better if you talk to her about it, when she’s at her most heightened state of arousal, and especially before she has an orgasm.

 

[2wheel]

When she gets upset and doesnt want to talk about it, is it during any particular time? Does she get like that, when you bring it up while you’re having sex? Are you bringing it up just out of the blue, and without anything leading to that type of discussion? What I’m saying is, timing is everything! You should only attempt to bring up the idea while she’s in the heat of the moment, when she’s sexually excited and turned on? Works even better if you talk to her about it, when she’s at her most heightened state of arousal, and especially before she has an orgasm.

Yes at the height of sexual excitement isn't the same as yes in the clear light of day.

 

[Dcucked]

Yes, definetly her reponse is different if we talk about during the day vs when we are in bed. However, lately she has shared that my interest in seeing her shared makes her feel like she isnt good enough for me to be happy just having sex with her. We've been married 10yrs, together 14yrs, and while the sex is very enjoyable it is just vanilla. My wife can be very prim and proper though is open minded. We've tried toys, dirty talk, watching porn, role playing but she always comes back to feeling upset that she cant be enough for me without all those things. Ive always desired novelty in my life - work, hobbies, food - including sex. Its like having ice cream with hot fudge and whipped cream. I still love ice cream, its just better with toppings.

I just get bored with vanilla sex after a while. It gets to a point where I lose interest and would just not have sex. My wife thinks that I dont love her or find her attractive. Talking about the hotwife lifestyle is realy exciting and spiced things up for us. I think my wife would be fine just going back to vanilla all the time. In fact she has said that she only entertains those fantasies just for me, she doesnt need/want that. Its really frustrating because I feel we are going to wind up with a sexless marriage or one of us is going to turn elsewhere to find what we want.

With a hotwife lifestyle, she gets vanilla sex with me plus more sex with others (that she says she doesnt need or want) and becomes more sexy to me and then we get even hotter more intimate sex. This has nothing to do with attractiveness, its just the vanilla sex is so vanilla.

Hoping some of you are able to chime in
TY

 

[jimboslut]

I'm in the same boat my friend. But my boat is years older than yours. (I've been trying for years) She runs hot and cold on the subject and wont really share why. The more I press, the more she seems to resist. So I've backed off quite a bit but I'm still frustrated.

Sounds like my wife and me.

 

[Yorkshireguy]

My partner was like that although we have not done it yet but she has agreed in principle,i backed down to asking just to watch her wanking a guy of and her response was whats the point in just doing that ha ha,so now come the hard part for us is to find the right guy....

 

[Hieronymo]

I have shared my wife with many men over the last 30 years. My wife, then GF, sounded similar to your lady. Persistence paid off for me

We are in our 60s. I met Elaine when I was 32 and she was 29. We were both divorced with no kids. After dating for several months I really started liking her. I had done some swinging and wife sharing with my ex wife. I don't think that led to our divorce, but one never knows. I got Elaine to pose for sexy polaroid pics and she didn't seem to object like some women do. For my birthday she surprised me with some lingerie photos done by a professional she had hired. I was more than pleased with that attitude. After about a year I decided to broach the idea of sharing her. Started with sex talk in the bedroom. While having sex she acted willing saying it might be fun, but nothing ever actually happened. I knew for our relationship to go further I was going to have to press the issue to see if she ! was all talk and no action. I kept telling her to pick out some guy she would like to fuck. I didn't care if it was old lover or friend. She said she could not approach someone about having sex with them if she really loved me.

So what happened????

 

[Hieronymo]

Yes, definetly her reponse is different if we talk about during the day vs when we are in bed. However, lately she has shared that my interest in seeing her shared makes her feel like she isnt good enough for me to be happy just having sex with her. We've been married 10yrs, together 14yrs, and while the sex is very enjoyable it is just vanilla. My wife can be very prim and proper though is open minded. We've tried toys, dirty talk, watching porn, role playing but she always comes back to feeling upset that she cant be enough for me without all those things. Ive always desired novelty in my life - work, hobbies, food - including sex. Its like having ice cream with hot fudge and whipped cream. I still love ice cream, its just better with toppings.

I just get bored with vanilla sex after a while. It gets to a point where I lose interest and would just not have sex. My wife thinks that I dont love her or find her attractive. Talking about the hotwife lifestyle is realy exciting and spiced things up for us. I think my wife would be fine just going back to vanilla all the time. In fact she has said that she only entertains those fantasies just for me, she doesnt need/want that. Its really frustrating because I feel we are going to wind up with a sexless marriage or one of us is going to turn elsewhere to find what we want.

With a hotwife lifestyle, she gets vanilla sex with me plus more sex with others (that she says she doesnt need or want) and becomes more sexy to me and then we get even hotter more intimate sex. This has nothing to do with attractiveness, its just the vanilla sex is so vanilla.

Hoping some of you are able to chime in
TY

Tell her people who love their wives and want to stay with them forever are the ones who will most enjoy sharing them. Not men who are not interested in their wives.

 

[FatCuck37]

It's normal. My wife cuckolded me for around 3 years. She went on dates, she sucked dick in parking lots, she went to hotels and made me drive her to booty calls. She had 2 steady boyfriends and then she lost interest. Right now she watches cuckold porn with me and teases me about my dick being small, but she doesn't want to play with other guys anymore. It's been like that for a couple of years. Lately, during lock up, I've seen her texting with one of her old lovers. And she's been talking about cuckolding during sex. I can only hope that the cycle is resetting. So, I guess what I'm saying is there might be on and off phases, not everyone is blessed with a high sexual drive wife. Thread lightly, but keep broaching the issue. Retreat if necessary. It will happen.

 

[Hieronymo]

It's normal. My wife cuckolded me for around 3 years. She went on dates, she sucked dick in parking lots, she went to hotels and made me drive her to booty calls. She had 2 steady boyfriends and then she lost interest. Right now she watches cuckold porn with me and teases me about my dick being small, but she doesn't want to play with other guys anymore. It's been like that for a couple of years. Lately, during lock up, I've seen her texting with one of her old lovers. And she's been talking about cuckolding during sex. I can only hope that the cycle is resetting. So, I guess what I'm saying is there might be on and off phases, not everyone is blessed with a high sexual drive wife. Thread lightly, but keep broaching the issue. Retreat if necessary. It will happen.

If she's texting I think she wants to fuck.