I need advice, and as I’m in an unusual position id rather it not come from the fantasists on here (no offence) but from someone who can offer genuine advice.
So here’s my position, I’ve posted here before briefly about this but basically we began swinging a number of years ago, it evolved into my wife escorting, and the actual swinging for fun stopped.
While I lived her escorting in the beginning, I soon came to resent it. She became more money orientated and eventually quit her normal job to become a full time .......
In her defence here, we live in rural Ireland and she has cornered a very niche corner of clientele and does make pretty good money.
But, it started to become a problem for me when it became difficult for me to get sex from my wife when I wanted/needed it, I know that probable sounds selfish from the outset, but I mean things like she may have seen a few clients during the day and I might want sex that night, she’ll say she’s too tired but will still jump out of bed and go meet a client if her phone rings. (This has happened a few times but is not a common occurrence)
So at Xmas this year I decided I was going to actively try and start enjoying what we do have and enjoying what she’s doing (that I wanted for so long)
But…. It’s not easy.
I want to know should I try and convince her to start some normal non-escorting swinging again, so I can watch her and enjoy it like I used to.
I know it will obviously take time and energy away from her escorting, but how should I convey that it would be for us as a couple?
We do have sex, it’s not like she’s denying me full time. We prob do it once/twice a week. So she will likely feel she doesn’t need to do something else for us.
Any genuine thoughts or advice appreciated.
So here’s my position, I’ve posted here before briefly about this but basically we began swinging a number of years ago, it evolved into my wife escorting, and the actual swinging for fun stopped.
While I lived her escorting in the beginning, I soon came to resent it. She became more money orientated and eventually quit her normal job to become a full time .......
In her defence here, we live in rural Ireland and she has cornered a very niche corner of clientele and does make pretty good money.
But, it started to become a problem for me when it became difficult for me to get sex from my wife when I wanted/needed it, I know that probable sounds selfish from the outset, but I mean things like she may have seen a few clients during the day and I might want sex that night, she’ll say she’s too tired but will still jump out of bed and go meet a client if her phone rings. (This has happened a few times but is not a common occurrence)
So at Xmas this year I decided I was going to actively try and start enjoying what we do have and enjoying what she’s doing (that I wanted for so long)
But…. It’s not easy.
I want to know should I try and convince her to start some normal non-escorting swinging again, so I can watch her and enjoy it like I used to.
I know it will obviously take time and energy away from her escorting, but how should I convey that it would be for us as a couple?
We do have sex, it’s not like she’s denying me full time. We prob do it once/twice a week. So she will likely feel she doesn’t need to do something else for us.
Any genuine thoughts or advice appreciated.
