Thank her for being open. Ask "In an ideal world, and not judging, what 5 things would make you feel more fulfilled?" She writes them down. You do the same. Then compare...
If she didn't send to you, she should have sent this to me; she's a hottie! I'd have sent it to you and then invited her to 5* for hotel fun. A very naughty hotwife with a discreet side. What's not to like!!?