Why not pull out now and again before you get close and go down on her for a while while you settle down, rinse, repeat until you bring her to the edge. Maybe that will work?
Many many years ago I stumbled upon a video of a party in Spain with male strippers.
I'm not 100% certain as I can't see her properly and the dates are unknown but one of the women looked very much like my gf at time. She'd been on hols with pals to Spain. She was dancing with a hung stripper...