Cathy, I think it's also the women's assurance to not have missed out. Really big guys are hard to come by and the package needs to be right too. So not to disappoint themselves and protect themselves women will manage their expectations. Once the Genie is out of the bottle, this changes....
This is the most difficult part - accepting who you are and just live it. It's liberating. No more pretending being an alpha, just submit and be a cuckold.