Same here. We also have run into the guys that can't seem to comprehend that we have jobs and family and need to plan things ahead of time. A last minute late night booty call is NEVER happening.
It depends on your relationship dynamic and what is the bigger turn on for each of you. My wife wants me to pick the guys we meet with and to always be there, kind of giving her permission. That's what turns her on. She has veto authority if she really doesn't like something about the guy, but...
My wife is shaved. If we're going to meet with someone, I do it myself so she's nice and smooth without missing any spots. For her, oral is all about the clit...she likes a fast flicking tongue on it to get her off
My wife always wears hers...that's part of the fun of being a hotwife! Taking it off would make it seem like she's trying to hide something when its really the opposite