My wife doesn't like those places, doesn't like atmosphere and some of the cliental weirds her out. I on the other sucked my first dick in one, and they will always be a favorite of mine.
I asked her one time which one of my friends at the time (12 years ago) she found attractive enough to fuck. It got her mind turning and the rest just sort of fell in to place. Your mileage may vary though
My wife has a school girl crush on one of my friends. She won't act on it because she doesn't want to ruin anything. I think it is hot as hell, but she plays her own way so I stay out of it.