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You're definitely not alone! My wife and I are a mismatch sexually. The other day she told me that she just doesn't need sex as much as I do. It's great that she knows I need it more than her. It's awful because in all our years together I've not been able to do or say ANYTHING that inspires her...

How many wives masturbate here? Are there wives here that never masturbate? Is it more likely that a wife will be more interested in becoming a hot wife if she does masturbate?

In another post you mentioned that you didn't know any couples that successfully enjoyed the lifestyle without having some shared clear rules/habits/expectations. In that same post you stated that some people even mocked the notion of needing rules. It seems incredibly naive to enter into ANY...

I'm with you! I don't want to imply what is good or bad. I'm trying my best to respectfully ask questions to understand things better. To make sense of things a person normally applies conventional wisdom. I've discovered there are many inconsistencies to conventional wisdom in the hot...

You sound like you were married a long time. Sorry about the passing of your wife, sincerely! My wife and I have been together a long time and like most couples that experience that many years together there are good and bad ones. Even though I wish our sex life was better, I can't imagine life...

You (the husband) said that the "unplanned roleplay" isn't really your thing but went along with it for your reasons. I get that you had figured it would fun to see and it would be nice for your wife to enjoy it. Clearly this guy pushed the submissive scenario if he asked you to beg. It makes me...

No one wants to talk about the burden a husband/bf carries when they witness their inadequacy proven by someone capable of producing reactions and responses from their wife that they have not EVER been able to produce. By allowing another person to fulfill those needs, a husband can deflect...

I completely understand if you have a true physical disability or condition that precludes you from providing the sexual satisfaction that you can't give her. In cases like yours, it has to be extremely disheartening to YOU that YOU can't provide that for her. I have serious doubts that if you...

Damn! She's going to get a lot of attention at the club!

Yes, this IS the thing, to have great sex! For those of us that have been married a long time (46 yrs here) in a monogamous lifestyle it is so easy to lose interest when the sex becomes too routine, as in a routine of infrequency, routine times/days, and routine patterns. I've learned that...

I still wonder about this?

Ultimately that's how it is. There needs to be enough that you're happy with things. If you're getting pics and video and that's what you wanted then it's all good. A smart wife knows she has to keep things interesting. She knows if she ignores her husband it won't last. That's why I've always...

That's really good to hear. Can anyone that truly loves their partner claim to have had the best experience ever if their partner doesn't share that same excitement and enthusiasm? The sex is just a part of the bigger goal of being happy and content. It makes me think of the quote by actor John...

Wow! You guys have been in the lifestyle for a while now right? It must have been some hard discussions if there were tears involved. At least you acknowledge that things have been "pretty one-sided" of late. I can only guess that he must feel little left out. Did you come up with any...

How long have you been a "mostly bottom"? Do you get a lot of action compared to your wife? Have you ever had a friendly competition as to who had more action?

I meant as in actual "......" in the same bed. Do you have a regular partner? Do you have a preference as to what your role is?

So, do you crave men now or have you lost your desire for sex altogether? Does your wife still set you up with dates? Do you still ...... with your wife?

Wish you'd revisit this thread!

You've only posted twice and it's been a while. Some of the responses have been blunt. Hopefully you've had a chance to gather yourself. I'm sure you learned things from your first marriage that you have said you don't want to repeat in the second marriage. You crave that "spicy-ness" and I...

Does the "brother and sister" relationship work for you? Because if you're happy do what you do and she's happy doing what she does then it sounds good. Are you sure you've given up on women altogether?