I get a lot of messages from husbands all around the world wanting to share their wife and how to achieve it. The truth is some men have the gift of manipulation, better talkers. Able to convince a woman to do certain things. These alpha/sigma males can be very handsome/romantic/wealthy and persuasive, more doors open for them than the average looking man. Those men have a distinct advantage to shape the woman around them and their sexual desires. Or, you may just be lucky enough to meet that rare special breed of woman who is open to new ideas. There are a lot of factors involved which can be barriers and things that can work to your advantage. Bellow are the basic things to implement if you don’t fall into the above category.
Main Barriers:
Age, cultures, embarrassment, judgment, the health of the marriage, how you met, how honest you are willing to be with your wife, body image, closed mindedness, a lack of true love she has for you, fear of mixed emotions etc
Advantages:
Being young when you met(the younger the better-more carefree thought process).
Culture…….some cultures are far more liberated about sex than others. If she loves you deeply and wishes for your happiness. If there is great communication inside the marriage. If there is a healthy loving marriage. If she is open to new ideas and lifestyle. If she feels sexy/attractive and beautiful. If she feels sorry for you(this can work very effectively). If she wants a great marriage, and will do what she can to hold it together etc
So to get to the point and this is the MOST IMPORTANT THING. You cannot share your wife if you don’t have the guts to tell her what you would like do with her. Don’t bother dropping hints or sexy talk during sex etc. They generally go nowhere. Don’t fuck around. You need to be upfront if you are to have any type of success in general. Tell her seriously and clearly what you want. Definitely do not do it during sex or being drunk, this lifestyle is a serious matter and requires serious discussion. Let her think about it while considering the pro’s and con’s. Don’t push too hard, but two serious conversation together about your desires is enough to plant the seed so she knows what you want. Make it clear to her that you are not built like the average man, you are very different with different/unique desires. In addition, let her know it’s quite common these days and it’s not as taboo as it used to be.
Start slow in what you ask for:
Now, you may not be able to ask her to be shared with her taking on a regular boyfriend or lover, but you may initially be able to ask her if you could see her have sex with another man with a condom on, or give a BJ at a nice hotel one night. Let her know it would mean the world to you, and would make you very happy to even experience such a beautiful erotic thing just once. Let her know in a sincere way how much you love her, and how much she means to you. And that you will be the best husband she can possibly imagine. And really DEMONSTRATE that to her, not just empty words. Take her out to restaurants, shopping for clothes, all the romantic things you can think of. Be the utmost GENTLEMEN. When you make your wife very happy and deeply in love with you, she is going to want to please you and return the same dedication. If you are a half ass and don’t care about her happiness, or the health of the marriage, or letting yourself go physically, or talk to her disrespectfully, you have zero chance of ever getting her to do anything like this for you. It’s common sense. This whole thing greatly revolves around give and take. You scratch her back, she will scratch yours and please you in the sex……potentially…….if she’s reasonable and fair…….AS YOU NEED TO BE WITH HER.
Let her know you want to take your already happy sex life to a new level of pleasure for you both, and that she is the sexiest woman alive. Let here know this is all about pleasure, and there will be no emotional attachment for the other person involved that will jeopardise the marriage. Make her feel beautiful, attractive and sexy. Go out with her and look at sexy dresses, sex toys and lingerie together. Tell her you would love to see another man take the lingerie off her, and then fuck her right in front of you, then join in at the end giving her another second orgasm.
Build trust in her:
Make sure to tell her she is a great woman and you have complete trust in her, and that if she was to sleep with another man you will never be jealous or insecure. And you will support her new found sexual freedom. Make her aware that this lifestyle should make you feel complete and very happy. Let her know that this is very positive for your marriage because it turns you on so much, and will make you crazy about her and more attracted.
And lastly, and this is a real important one for the straight, none swinger (normally built woman that gets jealous) Tell her that you are not interested in touching another woman EVER:
That your eyes and your HEART is only for her. STRESS to her that your fantasies have nothing to do with swinging and you swapping partners, or having sex with another woman UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. You ONLY like to watch her and know she is fucking other men. Make it ABSOLUTELY CLEAR that you are not interested in another woman.
If you use all of these methods and you have a wife that really loves you, committed to her wedding vows to give you happiness. You will have a high chance of success. If your marriage is not in a healthy state and she does not love you very much, or anymore, your chances are slim.
There are a myriad of other factors I have not mentioned but I have covered the basics principles. Apply these and see how you go.
Good luck.
My shared Asian wife:
Main Barriers:
Age, cultures, embarrassment, judgment, the health of the marriage, how you met, how honest you are willing to be with your wife, body image, closed mindedness, a lack of true love she has for you, fear of mixed emotions etc
Advantages:
Being young when you met(the younger the better-more carefree thought process).
Culture…….some cultures are far more liberated about sex than others. If she loves you deeply and wishes for your happiness. If there is great communication inside the marriage. If there is a healthy loving marriage. If she is open to new ideas and lifestyle. If she feels sexy/attractive and beautiful. If she feels sorry for you(this can work very effectively). If she wants a great marriage, and will do what she can to hold it together etc
So to get to the point and this is the MOST IMPORTANT THING. You cannot share your wife if you don’t have the guts to tell her what you would like do with her. Don’t bother dropping hints or sexy talk during sex etc. They generally go nowhere. Don’t fuck around. You need to be upfront if you are to have any type of success in general. Tell her seriously and clearly what you want. Definitely do not do it during sex or being drunk, this lifestyle is a serious matter and requires serious discussion. Let her think about it while considering the pro’s and con’s. Don’t push too hard, but two serious conversation together about your desires is enough to plant the seed so she knows what you want. Make it clear to her that you are not built like the average man, you are very different with different/unique desires. In addition, let her know it’s quite common these days and it’s not as taboo as it used to be.
Start slow in what you ask for:
Now, you may not be able to ask her to be shared with her taking on a regular boyfriend or lover, but you may initially be able to ask her if you could see her have sex with another man with a condom on, or give a BJ at a nice hotel one night. Let her know it would mean the world to you, and would make you very happy to even experience such a beautiful erotic thing just once. Let her know in a sincere way how much you love her, and how much she means to you. And that you will be the best husband she can possibly imagine. And really DEMONSTRATE that to her, not just empty words. Take her out to restaurants, shopping for clothes, all the romantic things you can think of. Be the utmost GENTLEMEN. When you make your wife very happy and deeply in love with you, she is going to want to please you and return the same dedication. If you are a half ass and don’t care about her happiness, or the health of the marriage, or letting yourself go physically, or talk to her disrespectfully, you have zero chance of ever getting her to do anything like this for you. It’s common sense. This whole thing greatly revolves around give and take. You scratch her back, she will scratch yours and please you in the sex……potentially…….if she’s reasonable and fair…….AS YOU NEED TO BE WITH HER.
Let her know you want to take your already happy sex life to a new level of pleasure for you both, and that she is the sexiest woman alive. Let here know this is all about pleasure, and there will be no emotional attachment for the other person involved that will jeopardise the marriage. Make her feel beautiful, attractive and sexy. Go out with her and look at sexy dresses, sex toys and lingerie together. Tell her you would love to see another man take the lingerie off her, and then fuck her right in front of you, then join in at the end giving her another second orgasm.
Build trust in her:
Make sure to tell her she is a great woman and you have complete trust in her, and that if she was to sleep with another man you will never be jealous or insecure. And you will support her new found sexual freedom. Make her aware that this lifestyle should make you feel complete and very happy. Let her know that this is very positive for your marriage because it turns you on so much, and will make you crazy about her and more attracted.
And lastly, and this is a real important one for the straight, none swinger (normally built woman that gets jealous) Tell her that you are not interested in touching another woman EVER:
That your eyes and your HEART is only for her. STRESS to her that your fantasies have nothing to do with swinging and you swapping partners, or having sex with another woman UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES. You ONLY like to watch her and know she is fucking other men. Make it ABSOLUTELY CLEAR that you are not interested in another woman.
If you use all of these methods and you have a wife that really loves you, committed to her wedding vows to give you happiness. You will have a high chance of success. If your marriage is not in a healthy state and she does not love you very much, or anymore, your chances are slim.
There are a myriad of other factors I have not mentioned but I have covered the basics principles. Apply these and see how you go.
Good luck.
My shared Asian wife:
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