Advice for unwilling cuckold

Hello David i think.you should sit down znd have a totally open convetsation about what you both wants and needs . Be totaly open .My wife and i talk about everythi g esp her sexual wants outside of our marriage ot had made ot alot better for out lifestyle our xexis bettet yet controlled but she enjoys getting well fuckrf bu one of her regular studs. ASK ME ANYTHING BOB
 
I agree. It's mostly unfair to the child. No one should have a child because it's erotic or as part of a kink. Having a child is an entirely different thing and requires a major investment in time, love and money.
Droppy you are so right From alot of resesrch and peo people on here The bull doesnt stay around or even acknowledges thd child its up to the couple for 18 yesrs to support the child plus can lead to resentment with the husband in time FUCK ALL.THEY WSNT TAKE AS MANY LOADS THE COUPLE WANTS BUT NO CHILD
 
Droppy you are so right From alot of resesrch and peo people on here The bull doesnt stay around or even acknowledges thd child its up to the couple for 18 yesrs to support the child plus can lead to resentment with the husband in time FUCK ALL.THEY WSNT TAKE AS MANY LOADS THE COUPLE WANTS BUT NO CHILD
Plus the child will probably never know who their real father is. This can cause problems later on if medical issues arise for the child because doctors cannot access the genetic and medical information of the unknown father which could serve as a valuable resource.
 
Plus the child will probably never know who their real father is. This can cause problems later on if medical issues arise for the child because doctors cannot access the genetic and medical information of the unknown father which could serve as a valuable resource.
Hey Droopy we havent chatted in a while YOU were so right about the Latex for my hotwife Red she has really embraced latrx and she is wearing mostly latex and leather
She szy it feels so difffernt fucking in latex from open crotch panties and accesible crotch leggging snd open nipple latex bras. SHEssid she wsx going to try to spend 24 hrs in some type of latec including latex of some type to sleep.in fuck in she wore a open. Nipple top a open crotch thong type , she said her goal was to be totally fuckrd on latex she said she had apprehensions if she coukd do ot SHE DID SUCCEED.She came home the nect day snd i had to clean all.her latex some of it she told md had alot of cum.inside and outside of her outfits SHE Said i did a good joband even let ne out of my cage anf i got a blow job that i havent had in months all.because you helped me to convince her ti wrsr more latex But it did run up HER AMEX PURCHASES on my bill
 
I suspect that edcooke is done, done with this site, done with wife and done with his humiliation. He has gone on to figure out how to feel good about himself without his wife. He knows she won't stop. She got tired of hiding her affairs and became emboldened enough to put it in his face rather than apologizing as she did in the past. It's clear she has gotten to a place where she doesn't care.

Edcooke, I hope you have started to heal. I hope you are making yourself a priority because at one time you WERE her priority and she was yours, and now she's firmly decided to make herself a priority no matter what the consequences are. That's what you have to work with!
Essentially that is what happened. We are now divorced, I don't see her any more and don't care what she is doing and I'm pretty sure that my sex life is over. While there's therefore nothing for me to say that would be of interest to those on the site, I admit that I have developed a bit of an obsessive desire to read and view the content on the site and see/hear what others are experiencing in their marriages.
 
My wife and I have a MUTUAL understanding about her sleeping with other guys. To me, watching and thinking about her getting fucked is hotter than any porn I’ve ever seen. And she loves big cock. It’s a mutually beneficial arrangement that has only made our sex life even hotter.
If she was having a relationship with someone behind my back, we’d get divorced.
Love is a lot of things, but it is not deceit and betrayal.
 
Lynn: This and the Jaanddaj message are obviously very sympathetic to my situation. (It appears that women generally are the ones willing to consider suggesting constructive solutions while men think I just need to give up. I wish my wife felt the same.) Despite my wife's cheating and lying (and other related factors that I would be embarrassed to describe), I love her, respect her, desperately want her to be happy and have no interest in holding her actions against her. She seems to have become someone entirely different, and less admirable, than the woman I've known for so many years. I keep thinking that I must be able to do something to bring her back to who she was.
Tough situation you’re in. Possibly you can have a mmf three way and at least be in the game. Even suggest ffm with you as the male. Seeing you in action may get her attention. At a minimum you will be sexually emboldened.
 
Essentially that is what happened. We are now divorced, I don't see her any more and don't care what she is doing and I'm pretty sure that my sex life is over. While there's therefore nothing for me to say that would be of interest to those on the site, I admit that I have developed a bit of an obsessive desire to read and view the content on the site and see/hear what others are experiencing in their marriages.
Did not see this post before my reply. Sex life is only as dead as you want it to be. Get back in the game and leave your heart out of it. Many are looking for pleasure without being fully invested. Good luck
 
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Essentially that is what happened. We are now divorced, I don't see her any more and don't care what she is doing and I'm pretty sure that my sex life is over. While there's therefore nothing for me to say that would be of interest to those on the site, I admit that I have developed a bit of an obsessive desire to read and view the content on the site and see/hear what others are experiencing in their marriages.
I'm truly sorry that you had to endure the heartache you did. Thank you for taking the time to confirm the unfortunate results. I can understand how you would feel like your sex life is over. The opportunities become much less as time passes by. I have many, many friends that have divorced and remained single because they are so particular about compatibility (once burned, twice shy).

The important thing for you is to remain as positive as you can and continue to hope the right person comes your way. You've gotten yourself out of a bad situation. That hard work was the necessary first step towards being happy again. Don't give up on trying to find what you need to stay happy!
 
Essentially that is what happened. We are now divorced, I don't see her any more and don't care what she is doing and I'm pretty sure that my sex life is over. While there's therefore nothing for me to say that would be of interest to those on the site, I admit that I have developed a bit of an obsessive desire to read and view the content on the site and see/hear what others are experiencing in their marriages.
Ed dont let one person or anyone change your wants and needs in any part of life incuding sex.There is people out tgere that enjoy life and there lifestyles no.matter what it is Total communication is important im.sure you will find a lady that wants a guy that caring and willli g to discuss each other needs to what ever level.you each want. Feel free to ask me anything. BOB
 
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It is a bit callous to say that my marriage was "nearly sexless". I always did everything I could to satisfy her sexually. It took her 30 years to tell me something was wrong, From her recent revelations she's been cheating for our entire marriage, and never gave me a chance to meet what everyone calls her needs. i definitely feel used AND UNLOVED. I didn't get married just to have a business partner.
Ed she should have sat diwn and have true ho est discussions a out everything its WRONG IN ALL WAYS NOT TO TALK OPENLY WITH YOUR PARTNER ABOUT EVERYTHING im soorry that she treated you that way for so may years
She. Could have told you her needs and the the two of you could be friends go to dinner things like that and be seperated but respect each other as bd at least enjoys some good times yet she chose to disrespect you and hersdlf by not being honest you two could have had a respectfull friendship INSTEADSHE NOT ONLY DISRESPECTED YOU BUT ALSO CAUSED EXTREME ANIMOSITY BETWEEN THE TWO.OF YOU TAKE YOU TOME AND FIND A LADY TGAT RESPECTS YOU. BOB
 
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Essentially that is what happened. We are now divorced, I don't see her any more and don't care what she is doing and I'm pretty sure that my sex life is over. While there's therefore nothing for me to say that would be of interest to those on the site, I admit that I have developed a bit of an obsessive desire to read and view the content on the site and see/hear what others are experiencing in their marriages.
This is what I expected from reading your earlier posts. Now you are single but I don't quite understand what meant when you said your sex life was over. Did you mean it's over with her or over period? Do you feel so emasculated that you probably can't make with any women going foreword ? Just as a matter of interest, when my wife was breaking me in as cuckold, at first I resisted and even walked out on her in a fit of macho pride. I was like, no bitch is going to have all this freedom while making me an imprisoned cuckold and controlling my life. I laughed at the idea. I went my way like a self respecting man should. But I remembered what she said as I walked out the door: " You'll come crawling back." This I discovered was not an idle statement. As my time away from her increased, a feeling grew inside of me. I would pick up girls and have sex as best as I could but forgot how ineffectual I was in bed due to my lack of size. While some women were polite and faked it, others would laugh me out of bed or get up and leave telling me how pathetic I was. I found that the girls that laughed and rejected me turned me on. So I became obsessed with humiliation and remembered how that was my ex'es plan for me anyway. But I still had an emotional barrier I had to break. That was a certain kind of pride I had when I left her. I was intent on showing her how I was a 'real' man and didn't need her. I was mixed between standing my ground or surrendering to her and begging her to take me back. Well the joy of humiliation was stronger than my male pride which was pretty much destroyed by my attempts with other women. So I humbly called her and told her I wanted to come back. Her sadistic laughter gave me an instant erection and I knew she would allow me back. The intense shame I felt when she made me kneel before her and recite the rules that I would live by set the tone of my lifestyle and made me realize that this was my place. That was the day the last of my male ego and pride were snuffed out. Now, a knew kind of pride replaced it, the pride of doing my best to serve my dominant wife and never braking the rules she set for me.
 
Ed dont let one person or anyone change your wants and needs in any part of life incuding sex.There is people out tgere that enjoy life and there lifestyles no.matter what it is Total communication is important im.sure you will find a lady that wants a guy that caring and willli g to discuss each other needs to what ever level.you each want. Feel free to ask me anything. BOB

This is what I expected from reading your earlier posts. Now you are single but I don't quite understand what meant when you said your sex life was over. Did you mean it's over with her or over period? Do you feel so emasculated that you probably can't make with any women going foreword ? Just as a matter of interest, when my wife was breaking me in as cuckold, at first I resisted and even walked out on her in a fit of macho pride. I was like, no bitch is going to have all this freedom while making me an imprisoned cuckold and controlling my life. I laughed at the idea. I went my way like a self respecting man should. But I remembered what she said as I walked out the door: " You'll come crawling back." This I discovered was not an idle statement. As my time away from her increased, a feeling grew inside of me. I would pick up girls and have sex as best as I could but forgot how ineffectual I was in bed due to my lack of size. While some women were polite and faked it, others would laugh me out of bed or get up and leave telling me how pathetic I was. I found that the girls that laughed and rejected me turned me on. So I became obsessed with humiliation and remembered how that was my ex'es plan for me anyway. But I still had an emotional barrier I had to break. That was a certain kind of pride I had when I left her. I was intent on showing her how I was a 'real' man and didn't need her. I was mixed between standing my ground or surrendering to her and begging her to take me back. Well the joy of humiliation was stronger than my male pride which was pretty much destroyed by my attempts with other women. So I humbly called her and told her I wanted to come back. Her sadistic laughter gave me an instant erection and I knew she would allow me back. The intense shame I felt when she made me kneel before her and recite the rules that I would live by set the tone of my lifestyle and made me realize that this was my place. That was the day the last of my male ego and pride were snuffed out. Now, a knew kind of pride replaced it, the pride of doing my best to serve my dominant wife and never braking the rules she set for me.
This is probably the poignant post I've seen from you. Your situation/relationship is one that has always made me cringe. At first I didn't believe you but over time I've come to accept that you do truly live this way. What struck me was that I've never heard you talk about how you "knew what a REAL man should react like". I understand that you're well past those days and you're into accepting your place. Your focus changed. You learned new ways to be satisfied. Not everyone can do what you've done. You made a choice and stuck with it and made into what works for you. Otherwise you'd be gone like edcooke!
 
This is probably the poignant post I've seen from you. Your situation/relationship is one that has always made me cringe. At first I didn't believe you but over time I've come to accept that you do truly live this way. What struck me was that I've never heard you talk about how you "knew what a REAL man should react like". I understand that you're well past those days and you're into accepting your place. Your focus changed. You learned new ways to be satisfied. Not everyone can do what you've done. You made a choice and stuck with it and made into what works for you. Otherwise you'd be gone like edcooke!
Much of what I write about is in reference to my very young years. I have known my wife since we were 6 or 7 years old as we were next door neighbors. My mother was a strict woman with a 'spare the rod spoil the child' policy. As children, my wife to be, seemed delighted in watching and laughing when I would get the belt. She often manipulated and tricked me into doing things that I would be punished for. Why I fell for her feminine wiles I don't know but I believe that I was a masochist in the making. She wowed me with her powerful charms and as we grew older this relationship took on quite a few facets. We were often together but she was clearly in charge and did a form of cuckolding even as teens. I was a sissy type boy in that I liked to cross dress and she used this to her advantage to blackmail me into doing her bidding. Odd thing was that I got to enjoy the way she would humiliate me and I had little resentment or desire to get away from her. She let me wear a lot of her clothes and this made me feel more connected to her. There was a period however in the years leading up to our marriage where I started to go thru a change. I saw how other guys were in charge and my own friends started to notice how I was different and would tease me. So I tried to reinvent myself. We were talking marriage, still far off, but the topic of sex came up. I was a poor lover to her as older teens. I was small and she enjoyed teasing me about that which was no supprise and always cheated on me but I had to accept it. We did have an emotional love for each other but she always mixed in the humiliation when it came to sex. As the submissive she created, I always enjoyed that but something started to change in me. I wanted to experience the other side. I thought I could be like a regular guy. As we talked more about what marriage would be like I started to feel like we should have a more 50-50 relationship. She wasn't having any of that and told me it would be an FLM and she would cuckold me. We got into a fight. It was the first time I ever stood up to her and resulted in us splitting up. I would have my chance now to be my own man. That was basically what my previous post was describing. I failed to make the grade however. You said I learned new ways to be satisfied and I did but it was when I was very young so in a way I really never learned the 'normal' way. I was happy with what I had. I was like Screech on that tv show :"Saved by the Bell" who always got rejected while Zack, Kelly and the others got all the action and still Screech was happy.
 
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