I married my high school sweetheart right after I graduated from college. We have generally had a wonderful life together. We had three kids in rapid order after getting married and have built a successful business together; the kids are now adults and one has recently given us our first grandchild. I am still very much in love with my wife, and she tells me the same. The issue is that in recent years I have discovered her having several affairs. The first was a bit less than 9 years ago. When I confronted her about it she cried, apologized, promised that it would not happen again, and pleaded with me not to tell our kids and to forgive her. I did forgive her, and our life together continued essentially as it had been. However, the same thing happened a few years ago. Again I forgave her (I imagine some of you will criticize me for being a gullible fool - I accept that).
Only a month ago, I again discovered that my wife had had sex with another man. Her response this time was completely different. Although she insisted that she still loved me, there was no crying and she told me that she thought I knew what she was doing because it should have been obvious to me that I had never truly satisfied her sexually, adding that she didn't think she "could" stop. Then, she tried to talk me into agreeing that she could date (which I took to mean fuck) other men. She said something like "I want you to be my cuckold." I replied that she had pretty much seen to that already. She then explained to me that being a cuckold these days means not merely having a wife that has sex with other men but condoning or even encouraging it. She said that I should come to this website and learn more about what she called a "cuckold lifestyle" and consider whether it wouldn't turn me on to know that other men were having sex with her. She even offered to let me watch her have sex with other men.
It was as though I had never known my wife of 30 years, and as though she had never known me. Didn't she know that I had always loved only her and always wanted to have a reciprocal, monogamous relationship with her? I didn't know how to respond or what to think. I don't want to divorce my wife, and still love her deeply. We argued about this for the next couple of weeks. Finally, she refused to talk to me about it further until I had spent an hour reading the texts on this site from men happy about being cuckolds. Against my better judgment I did that. What I found was messages from men who were happy having their wives "date" other men, and other men who want their wives to do so. Surprisingly, I found no messages from men like me whose wives wanted to have sex with other men but were opposed to it. My suspicion is that there are others in that third category, and I am writing this message to see if any of them (or men or women who are engaging, have engaged or want to engage in the "cuckold" lifestyle) can offer any advice for convincing my wife to return to a traditional marriage with me. Perhaps there are examples of couples who have regretted involvement in the "lifestyle".
I do not mean to be critical of anyone who has different ideas from mine, but am not interested in any advice to become what is called a "cuckold" here. If anyone is sincerely interested in helping and has constructive ideas, I would like to read them.
Hold on, cowboys,
@edcooke. DM me, text me, or call me in South Texas. Here is my email first, and I can share additional contact information if needed:
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YES! ME! I am one of those! Like you, I was dazed and confused, but then I realized that I had conveniently forgotten that in my 20s I was doing very bad things like plowing through attached ladies by the dozen when I lived in the South Miami area and kicked around the many bacchanals of the era. My daughters tell their friends, friends' mothers, and others. Yeah, he is just a sweet little old man; he never partied when young or anything else. We love him. Even my third wife knows nothing about that dark era of my life. I hope it can stay that way until the day I become an octogenarian and start going to family events, and right in the middle of celebrations, they realize, Oh no! Grandpa did a brownstorm in his pants again! We have to leave early now or wash him with a hose, but not in front of the guests! shit grandpa! I was in no way proud of my actions back then, and while I want to get defensive and say that people introduced me to filth without judging anyone here, I wish I hadn't been introduced to the lifestyle. To clarify, I was known as a bull.
Now let's talk biology. After my now 3rd wife decided to tutor a young 18-year-old boy who has one nut [boating accident, I think] and a tinkle bigger than an actual foal's dick [male horse], I have no interest in seeing more of the footage on the CCTV. What I saw on a short splice of the footage can give me an idea, but I don't need to meet him with a tape measure. So this kid, before he was deflowered by a female Some females, I dont know, maybe my wife and I dont know, launched their romance careers with the mares in the area. Maybe he plugged one of our horses too! I dont know, maybe the wife did tell me that some time before the whole tutoring she was walking and pushing the baby along the quiet country road and heard what sounded like a farting sound or technically queefing sound at this point, right? and suddenly walked up on the genius kid burying his bone into a mare, then he freaked out and ran or fell off some stepping stool he used and disappeared. She even told me the story, and we all laughed, etc., but in retrospect, now I realize that this piqued her interest, and she probably machinated all this tutoring situation to get the kid inside the house. And that is the very reason I initially posted here.
This situation knocked the wind out of me, of course, and I got mad, sad, and this and that, but I have a very young daughter, and separating and divorcing now is not an option that would help my kid. I have older daughters too, and to be candid, I don't know how slick they are or if they figured it out. To be frank, I don't want to know. With them, things are in what I'd call a 'Don't ask, don't tell mode. I did ask my wife to please refrain from any shenanigans while the girls are around, and I am hanging a lot more in the detached structure away from the main one with my toddler since I homeschool her and do my business calls from there. The older girls are active and out doing their thing, so I hope for the best.
They aren't going to come home and be slapped in the head with anybody's pole or something similar.
At this point, I also get my own vaginas, and they come to my detached house, and yes, they get fucked in there into the wee hours of the night. touché cupcake, and I want sex with other people too, babydoll. Just look out and see the younger and hotter gentlemen who will be swallowing a shake tonight. I wave and ask the ladies to wave back. Whoops, sorry, I forgot. She will also be enjoying an ATM tonight. I know it's rough.
We live in a baby ranch-type setting [only 20 acres], and the nice kid lives on the adjacent little ranch. Yeah, how convenient. For tutoring or whatever you know?
For my sanity, I said, "Okay, cool. I am glad you're enjoying your escapades, and since that happened, you truly were given carte blanche to put my mouth right on ALL THE WASHED VAGINAS I EVER CRAVED BUT REFRAINED FROM ACTING ON. BALD OR HAIRY BLACK, BLOND OR ASIAN
Since then, lots of reading has happened. Okay, fine. Women cannot be monogaous, and the church wanted to tell women that they had to or else. This is all about control. Books: Mating in captivity, anything on the hypergamy topic, insatiable wives, and many others I don't give a flying banana peel about stories, and all I wanted were the scientific studies, really. I recommend anything by Esther Perel. Insatiable wives is ok too, but in summation, the wives we love or loved were not built for monogamy, and the theories behind it are manyfold. It is helpful and cathartic for some people to discover it all themselves.
