Hi, I'm Candy and I have not started this lifestyle yet. My husband is very turned of the cuckold lifestyle. I have so many questions. Why does he want to watch me get fucked? He said he likes to see me get pleasure. I'm confused and my self-esteem is not the best. I feel like he doesn't want me on like I alone don't turn him on. I would so appreciate other's experiences and stories.
Candy from Idaho
- Thread starter BabyBlues
- Start date
You turn him on so much he can’t wait to watch you getting fucked by someone else. It has nothing to do with you not turning him on it’s just the opposite. Show us a picture of yourself and the comments with boost your self esteem to new heights. Enjoy and welcome to the lifestyle
He wants to see you happy, and unless you're giving him the same response that porn girls (or his previous lovers) give to sex then he feels inadequate to properly please you (and he probably is, like most guys in your country who're unfit and eat unhealthy diets).
You are an example of the kind of women I avoid in this lifestyle. You are seemingly not pursuing better sex experiences yourself to fulfill your own desires, but are/would be doing it for the husband. The cuck thus is the dominant one in the arrangement and the others are just performing for him.
You are an example of the kind of women I avoid in this lifestyle. You are seemingly not pursuing better sex experiences yourself to fulfill your own desires, but are/would be doing it for the husband. The cuck thus is the dominant one in the arrangement and the others are just performing for him.
Hi Candy, I am a Bull. I also am very dominant. I am speaking as both a man who has had wives as well as a Dom who has had wives. I assure you, your husband loves you and is very sexually attracted to you. A man who wants to be a cuck may have any number of motivations.
Watching you with another man scratches an itch. The voyeur itch. Watching you with another man, seeing you as a wanton sexual woman. Abandoning yourself to pure pleasure, excites him. A lot. Perhaps like his own personal porn, with you as the star.
He may also feel like he isn't giving you what you need sexually. This is his way to take care of you in essence.
Maybe he has a submissive side. Sharing his wife with an alpha man would feed into that.
Maybe is a combination of things. None are wrong, right, good or bad.
You will read a lot of posts here, most are written by men who have one or more of the above motivations. Rest assured, every one of those men love their wife and feel fulfilled by sharing her.
I encourage you to read about how cucks like to reclaim their wives, perhaps that's something you two may enjoy if you do try this lifestyle out. Remember there is no right or wrong way, just what works for you guys. Talk about it openly and make sure you keep talking about it. That's the most important part.
Watching you with another man scratches an itch. The voyeur itch. Watching you with another man, seeing you as a wanton sexual woman. Abandoning yourself to pure pleasure, excites him. A lot. Perhaps like his own personal porn, with you as the star.
He may also feel like he isn't giving you what you need sexually. This is his way to take care of you in essence.
Maybe he has a submissive side. Sharing his wife with an alpha man would feed into that.
Maybe is a combination of things. None are wrong, right, good or bad.
You will read a lot of posts here, most are written by men who have one or more of the above motivations. Rest assured, every one of those men love their wife and feel fulfilled by sharing her.
I encourage you to read about how cucks like to reclaim their wives, perhaps that's something you two may enjoy if you do try this lifestyle out. Remember there is no right or wrong way, just what works for you guys. Talk about it openly and make sure you keep talking about it. That's the most important part.
Something worth mentioning: your husband is a very visual person. His desire to experience you with a lover is completely separate from his sense of attachment and attraction to you.
What‘s most important: take your time. Do what feels safe and fun. Communicate with your hubby around your concerns. Don’t tolerate any kind of pressure to do this.
I have experience in the lifestyle as the wife’s lover.
Johngomez3699
Male
Hey I also am in the this area I’m in idaho as well if you would be interested in chatting with me and seeing if you and your hubby would think I’d be someone you guys would click with and want to have fun and try things with id love to get to know you guys and chat shoot me a pm or message on here my name is John and I’m a 20 single male it’s nice to meet you candy
You have very normal and valid questions. While I cannot speak for your husband, I can confirm that there are men out there that are turned on by their wife’s pleasure. I have always put my partner’s pleasure before my own. When I was younger, I did my best to master the art of oral to make sure I could satisfy my partner before I would cum.
As I got older and my sex and fitness level started to wane, I became more interested in the lifestyle. My wife and I talked about her playing with others for many years before she agreed to give it a try. In her case, she was very interested in having a variety of men to play with, but wasn’t okay with me playing with other women. She also didn’t think it was fair that she could play if I didn’t get to. It took a long time for her to accept that I enjoy her playing as well. She still doesn’t understand why, she just accepts it.
She has now played outside of our marriage for several years and with numerous men. We have seen our rules and guidelines evolve over time, but we are going strong. There have been a few bumps in the road and those usually happen when communication breaks down.
When we first started, we agreed to try it once and if either of us didn’t like it, that was the end and there would be no negative consequences. It was still a leap of faith for both of us, but it worked out. Talk through everything with your husband until you think you have covered everything. Then talk some more. Make sure he still thinks it’s a good idea after he cums. Even with every precaution, there will still be evolution as you find your way in this lifestyle.
Best of luck to you and your husband!
Baby Blues, you say your self esteem is not the best but it is probably your husband's self esteem that is in question. There is an old saying: "It's a man's world" but not in the cuckold world. In our lifestyle the woman is worshiped and has all power over her mate and he gives his all to serve her. It may sound a little strange but some men enjoy being out ranked by another 'superior" male and surrendering his wife or girlfriend to him. His interest in watching his wife being pleasured by another 'better" man satisfies his cuckold needs. It doesn't mean you are unattractive or undesirable to him. Quite the opposite, it makes him want you even more. It's human nature to want even more that which we can't have or must work hard for. Then on your terms alone you can allow your husband back to reclaim you and he will do so with great fervor although he might be fast the first time he will recharge. The wife gets the best of both worlds, a strong well endowed man for maximum sexual pleasure pleasure and a loving, loyal husband for emotional support. If you are an adventurous type of woman or at least curious I suggest you try this. I think you will discover the magical power a woman can have over men. I predict that your self esteem will soar as you will soon be treated as the queen I believe you are.
It’s such a hot fantasy to watch your wife with another man. Quite frankly, most women don’t get it and it’s more for the man but the pleasure you could both get is interesting. Not for everyone.
It’s all about him getting pleasure from your pleasure, my wife cumming on a big new dick make me so turned on, it drives me crazy to hear her orgasms after orgasm and my fun is getting to reclaim her after
Hello Candy
I have read your story i understand but men want there women happy .The lifestyle might not be fir everyone .Two people need to tslk openly My wife and i have been in the lifestyle for 5 years afyer 25 years of marriage things can chsnge thatvwhat has happened to us 5 years ago she became a hotwife our intimatecy changes for the better she saw hiw mich she was really attractive afyer she startex dressing sexuer and going out with her friends or me when she came home i couldnt wait ti ask her how her girls night out wasn A few times she went out with her friends guys woukd hit on her i told her well.let them buy youba drink or dance your a beautiful lady . IN time things changed our sexlife skyrocketed. Her confidence went wild this lead to her becoming a hotwife .we could never go back everything has changed for the better she goes out about once a month on a date and reclaiming her is amazing. Feel free to ask me anything here or Pm. Bob
I'm sure he desires you no less hun...rather is expressing that he derives immeasurable pleasure at the thought of you being. gratified beyond your wildest dreams.
