Does anyone know of a website where you can chat about swinging and hotwifing with actual adults with a brain?

KristieKream

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I get idiots PMing me, and they have zero couth.
"Hey, bitch, wanna fuck?"
Hey, slut, wanna suck my dick?

I totally get that sites like this are filled with mental cases, but I would have thought that it wouldn't be the majority.
How do these people function in the real world? Or do they even go out in the real world?

I've had 7 guys PM me today and say: "Hi, can I see your butthole?"

The scary part is that these are guys in their 30-60's.

Can you imagine these guys in a grocery store going around and asking to see buttholes?

Anyway, if you know of a site where the grass is greener, please let me know.
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Ridiculous! Imagine someone approaching a conversation in person with you that way.....Unfortunately that sort of thing accounts for around half of the messages we receive. Makes us not want to bother 🙁. (Mrs ©©)
Just a thought...I'm pretty new here so still not sure what you're all looking for.

If you're looking for contacts I suppose to some extent you're stuck with whatever turns up warts and all.

If you're looking for chats with like minded people or even recommendations as to who would be worth chatting to why not start up a conversation with someone who seems to share your interests and perspective? The conversation would be limited to participants but there seems to be the option to invite others so it wouldn't need to be limited to just two parties. It might be that you could build up useful group chats that way.
 
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Coycouple

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Hi and thanks for reaching out but it looks like I'm not alone here. I am looking for dirty AND intelligent private chat here first and foremost with a possibility of more. I'd even settle for "intelligible". I've just been sent a message of about half a dozen words with a cock pic saying "bb" which, in the context of the message seems short for "baby". Imagine not being able to make the effort to add two extra letters.

I also completely agree with the other two ladies above. It seems it's all cock and no talk. Are they that mutually exclusive because I've known several men offline who had both in the past. I haven't found any on here yet....
It would be funny if it wasn't so sad and pathetic. There are men on this site (including my husband sometimes) who can hold a sexy and engaging conversation. It's sifting through the dead wood that's tricky ....🤭 (Mrs ©©)
 

WNY3somecple

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We tend to ignore private messages from those we have not seen post in threads. It seems to help weed out a lot. By ignore I mean we don't even read them.

Any website you pretty much have to do your best to control your own experience. For instance we received an alert that someone has left a message on our profile. Name of the poster was a typical lame guy name and they had just joined....never bothered reading the message.
 
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WNY3somecple

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Check out cuckold consultant. I like that site
Actually was a mod there for a while. Has to leave because of how God awful and repitious it was. Mostly just endless pics being posted. Comments by men who are clearly porn addicts and not aware that porn is not reality. The one discussion room where pics were mostly banned was good. But really that website is mostly about guys saying their dick is too small and weak or posting pics asking people what they think of "their wife" or just flat out posting porn gifs
 
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WNY3somecple

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We absolutely agree! Just when we think we're getting somewhere you get a flood of ridiculous messages that puts her right off. That sounds great we would love to chat sometime, especially with us all being new to this, atleast we would have intelligent conversation! 🤣 🙂 (Mrfc)
See this is actually a great way to approach having a private conversation. Post back and forth in a thread , get a feel for each other, then go private
 

wandawantsta

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Completely agree, out of 8 conversations only 3 have had the decency to show any respect and the normal pleasantries, otherwise it very much is a case of a message straight off the bat just saying 'hi' which just isnt interesting at all or 'send me pics now' and 'I will fuck your slut' um not with that attitude you won't! 🤣
Myself and fiancee, whilst not new to chatting and sharing pics, are newly dipping our toes in the scene. And it's off putting that most men can't manage to hold a decent conversation, if at all, for more than 2 minutes.
In defense of (but not in excuse of), they are American. You are British, so you possess a much more sophisticated grasp of the English language and civility. It's curious how my chats with anyone from any other country are polite and respectful. Just think, they will be American leaders soon (probably Congressmen)
 

Lynnandhubby

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Hi and thanks for reaching out but it looks like I'm not alone here. I am looking for dirty AND intelligent private chat here first and foremost with a possibility of more. I'd even settle for "intelligible". I've just been sent a message of about half a dozen words with a cock pic saying "bb" which, in the context of the message seems short for "baby". Imagine not being able to make the effort to add two extra letters.

I also completely agree with the other two ladies above. It seems it's all cock and no talk. Are they that mutually exclusive because I've known several men offline who had both in the past. I haven't found any on here yet....
That's why I asked what it was you were looking for.
This is (at least in my opinion) primarily a discussion forum. The live chat function isn't great. It is possible to have some good dirty conversation via private messages but again that's not as good as live chat. As for meeting people to take things further with, this really isn't well catered for on here.
If that's what you're really looking for, you'd be better off with a swingers dating site (they do also cater for the cuckolding scene too). They tend to have much better live chat functions and way better tools for finding potential meets, allowing you to specify preferences and search locations. And because people are hoping to meet, they invest a lot more time and effort in private conversations. But to get to use all the functions you do usually need to pay.

I think most people using this site who are actually in the lifestyle (as opposed to the wannabes - and you get a fair few of them on the paid sites too in fairness), use it as a safe place to share their experiences with other like minded people and that takes place mostly in the public forums.
In that respect the site works very well.
I guess any one site can't be good at everything and it is a free to access site after all which of course means that you will get a lot of time wasters and folks just with a purient interest but not real desire to engage with the lifestyle joining up. But that doesn't mean there aren't lots of people who are serious about the lifestyle on here too.
So I guess it really is about knowing exactly what you want from a site and then choosing appropriately.

As I say, we've found this to be about the best discussion forum for the lifestyle that we've come across but if it's private chat and/or potentially meeting up that you're looking for, then other sites cater for that so much better.
Unfortunately site rules don't allow the mention of other sites on here. But a quick internet search will throw up several but do do some research before you sign up, esp if you're paying because some are better than others.
Hope you find what you're looking for, whether it's on here or elsewhere x
 

noworries

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This is getting ridiculous! There don't appear to be many or any guys on here who are interested in chat. Those that do seem to use caveman-speak. I think there needs to be a basic sex literacy test before joining this site. I've had people suggest things which aren't even physically possible and it's a HUGE turn-off when someone's spelling is so bad you have NO clue what they're talking about. Not talking about the grammar police here but it's be nice if they could even spell four letter words. Makes me think I'm being chatted up by someone from Deliverance (the movie). Some of them might relate if they watched it.... ;)
i have given up on even trying to chat on here... its either yep... nope...uh huh or its fantasy sex chat monologue and lets not forget the "lets trade wife pics"... and they were taken when bush was president......
 

noworries

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In defense of (but not in excuse of), they are American. You are British, so you possess a much more sophisticated grasp of the English language and civility. It's curious how my chats with anyone from any other country are polite and respectful. Just think, they will be American leaders soon (probably Congressmen)
seriously??? so according to you all americans are disrespectful and impolite and everyone from any country other than the us is exactly opposite??? that broad brush you swing may just be a reason you have that opinion... all spelling, punctuation and unsophisticated grammatical mistakes here are intentional... would ever so hate to taint your opinion of us asshole americans
 
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