First time mentioning the topic. Her reaction ?

[Rafx003]

I’m 43, my wife is 40. She’s very good looking, fit, really cares how she looks, exercise every day.
Few days ago during sex she asked what im fantasizing about. My response was to see her having sex with another guy… “ You,d want me to have sex with someone else? “ Eyebrows up. Sure I’d, this would be sexy as hell to see. “ So idea of me having sex with another man turns you on?” I think it’s most erotic thing I could imagine seeing you do, not cheating, just like using a dildo but in the flesh. She did not ask anything else but her reaction wasn’t negative. I’m wondering what would be next best step. Any ideas?

 

[Simpson78]

Hey there, similar situation you're in. From what I've gathered over the past year of working on this do you talk dirty when you use the dildo about who's cock or do you like stroking my cock while that other cock fucks you? I'm stuck at that stage at the moment, and its still hot as hell to me, but she wont answer when I ask "who's" cock is fucking her. She does say she likes feeling my hard cock in her hand while that big cock fucks her but thats as far as I've gotten. Wish I could help you more and wish you the best of luck in this journey. But I will say I do feel better since I've told her my fantasy like a big weight was lifted off of my shoulders and the fact she didnt smack me upside the head was pretty nice too ha.

 

[Hotwifelove]

I was kind of shocked but curious too. We did not do anything right away. It took us awhile to get it all figured out . We did not rush into anything.

 

[Funnguy1]

I’m 43, my wife is 40. She’s very good looking, fit, really cares how she looks, exercise every day.
Few days ago during sex she asked what im fantasizing about. My response was to see her having sex with another guy… “ You,d want me to have sex with someone else? “ Eyebrows up. Sure I’d, this would be sexy as hell to see. “ So idea of me having sex with another man turns you on?” I think it’s most erotic thing I could imagine seeing you do, not cheating, just like using a dildo but in the flesh. She did not ask anything else but her reaction wasn’t negative. I’m wondering what would be next best step. Any ideas?

Any updates?

 

[jw_kk]

The first time it came up, KK's reaction was puzzling, a blend of wholly negative reaction, and a strange defensive posture, as if I was trying to trap, or trick her.

KK cheated on me throughout the entire time we dated, during our engagement (even breaking off said engagement to fuck other guys with impunity), after resuming our engagement, and all the way through our wedding. There was a slight pause in her infidelity, maybe two - three months after the wedding, but it resumed with vengence.

I mostly lived in denial, choosing not to confront her or challenge her with my knowledge of her cheating.

All that said, the first time I broached the subject was via pillow-talk during a love making session, about five, maybe six months after our wedding day. The newlywed glow was still at least partly going on. We were in bed, a little stoned, a little drunk, totally naked, looking at a small-format porn mag - a "couples guide to sex positions" or some such.

In that era, it was kind of a softcore porn thing disguised as a couple's instructional guide. One page was a 'sex with a toy and a cock' thing - the young woman was fucking her pussy with a dildo, while the male partner fucked her ass. It made me insanely hard. I lost it, whispering into KK's ears my thoughts, visualizations of KK with a cock in each hand, one in her mouth, one in her pussy and ass... I held nothing back - whispering every perverted desire about seeing her fucking other men - many men.

During my outpour, KK had a massive orgasm - it happened very quickly, so intense her body spasmed and shook. It was over before I finished spilling my guts. After, she was very quiet, almost paralyzed, for quite a long time. Her first words were stern, almost angry: "It'll never happen!"

I don't want to mischaracterize the remainder as "discussion," but the mumbled conversation contained some accusatory elements (was I fucking, or did I want to fuck other women, using my fantasy as an excuse?), did I think she was fucking someone else behind my back, little vollies of that sort.

That went on for about twenty years, an intensifying circle of infidelity - cheating, lying, denial, until we both finally figured it all out after some near marraige-ending catastrophes.

 

[Joecde3vfr4]

The first time I brought it up, she immediately said someone always gets hurt or jealous or both.

Her first husband talked her into sharing her with a few of his friends, always MFM not in a large group. She said she didn’t understand why he would have had her fuck a much better and bigger lover. I said that would be the whole point, to give her something she wasn’t experiencing at the time.

She ended up leaving her husband for one of their lovers. She was with him for around 5-years. She still says he was the biggest cock she has ever had.

 

[naturalcucky]

I’m 43, my wife is 40. She’s very good looking, fit, really cares how she looks, exercise every day.
Few days ago during sex she asked what im fantasizing about. My response was to see her having sex with another guy… “ You,d want me to have sex with someone else? “ Eyebrows up. Sure I’d, this would be sexy as hell to see. “ So idea of me having sex with another man turns you on?” I think it’s most erotic thing I could imagine seeing you do, not cheating, just like using a dildo but in the flesh. She did not ask anything else but her reaction wasn’t negative. I’m wondering what would be next best step. Any ideas?

She will probably step!

 

[Smiley689]

My wife thinks it's funny and just kinda weird

 

[hermano33s]

I’m 43, my wife is 40. She’s very good looking, fit, really cares how she looks, exercise every day.
Few days ago during sex she asked what im fantasizing about. My response was to see her having sex with another guy… “ You,d want me to have sex with someone else? “ Eyebrows up. Sure I’d, this would be sexy as hell to see. “ So idea of me having sex with another man turns you on?” I think it’s most erotic thing I could imagine seeing you do, not cheating, just like using a dildo but in the flesh. She did not ask anything else but her reaction wasn’t negative. I’m wondering what would be next best step. Any ideas?

Any pics of your hotwife ?

 

[Distraction79]

"It's either me or your fetish"
I chose her over the fetish, but it never went away

 

[Davidtops1]

"It's either me or your fetish"
I chose her over the fetish, but it never went away

Same experience totally empathetic to you

 

[Jon Day]

My wife goes along with it while we are having sex. I tell her how I want her fucked by others all the time and then she plays with her vibrator and we carry on talking like this with her saying yes yes yes very urgently. I'll wank and she'll suck my nipple's as I tell her that I love cock and want them so badly in my mouth. Outside of sex we don't really talk about it.