Definitely dick though I’ll have my share of flaccid moments that may more closely resemble the bloom of well-developed wrinkly labia minora.
Not a thing that really happened much when I was younger. More since my mid 50s. Dick related stuff is less central for us but we’ve made it part of our fun in a natural teasing way
I’ve shaved and generally and well tended and groomed. Not effeminate either, though occasional panty play is certainly not beyond the pale