I have the answer for shy,hesitant wives

The real answer is communicate with your wife, have a healthy relationship and have a great sex like where you are both happy and feel safe discussing fantasies, feelings, wants, desires etc

She still may not go for being non monogamous but it's where you should start
As long as she feels and is safe, you will be fine. It's all up to her.
 
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