Ok this is a precautionary tale to all would be cucks - sorry it’s so long - bit of background - my wife has supposedly had a few partners but all it seems were to a man vanilla sex people - each to there own , I have had less partners but mines have been more adventurous , dirty/ kinky - whatever - I have had a 3 some with a married couple ( I was single ) and tried swinging with my last partner of then 6 years - was a disaster and lasted a full 3 minutes if that but we had an ad etc so sort of knew the ropes so to speak - both of these events have always been a sore point with my wife - doing a married woman etc , - fast forward and we were having missionary sex , I caught my wife sort of smirking and she laughingly said she couldn’t feel me in her ? ( all of my partners said I had a good cock - think I have a pic of it on here ) I should have been mad at her but instead thought of ways to satisfy her - first was a cock extension - ok but didn’t quite do it for her - FUCK UP NO 1 - I said to maybe advertise for a hung guy - thinking of her - she seemed keen and went along with the ad etc , asking me about it and what age of guy etc - she then said she was going along with it all merely to see how far I would go , I was disgusting - it was disgusting , getting someone else to fuck your wife etc , somehow managed to get over it and now 3 years later it has happened again - in between times my wife with a bit of coaxing was sexing herself up a bit - or changing her ways to please me as she put it to include wearing stockings , heels and her favourite using vibrators while I watched her - all good u say but I had previously been told no one used vibrators / sex toys , wore heels / lingerie etc FUCK UP NO 2 - during our vibe sessions she sort of heard me saying to myself how good would she look with spunk coming out of her , she said it was ok and to speak up - so over another good few sessions I said dirtier stuff and when I mentioned an ex work colleagues name she physically reacted to it , her legs opened , nipples hardened and she rubbed harder etc , also during this and after being advised by other members to reassure her I didn’t want to mess around with women - she said but that’s not Fair u not getting any pussy etc . SO I looked at a swinging site and I innocently sided to her about it - her reply was Mmmmmm sounds good we will need to look at it then - happy days I thought . That night in bed - no sex involved - she asked me all about it and what I knew of it etc - what do you do / talk about etc - after telling her TRAP NO 2 was sprung - her telling me you want your wife to get fucked next to you while u are fucking someone else etc - looks like our marriage is now over and I foolishly again acted on information she told me , seemingly she was faking the physical urge with the co worker as well . Both times was well and truly trapped , now I’m a piece of shit on her shoe etc - she has googled cuckold etc but I noticed taken screenshots of people on the internet all saying stuff like - he wanted me to fuck other men and I was appalled etc - you know only negative ones to reinforce her view / opinion of it - she had changed her ways for me and still want more etc , I love her and know I did wrong but my motives were purely for her which I haven’t a chance in hell of making her see that , think she was really devious , cold and calculating to seem really keen both times so I would step in the noose only for her to pull it tight TWICE . She says I know people swing and share ( that alone makes me wonder why she knew it was called that - makes my mind work overtime which I found to be fatal ) but she doesn’t want to be with someone who thinks that way etc as none of that is for her -
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So doesn’t anyone have any experience of this and how / if to resolve it ? - think she has been reading about the cuckold lifestyle in general as I have caught glimpses of pages she has been looking at on her phone - pages with long paragraphs etc - my wife never - ever reads stuff but then again it might be divorce stuff - who knows but with all that’s went on I for one won’t be saying another word to be strung up with yet again - I was too honest and did everything for her pleasure and satisfaction because I love her that much But she can’t / won’t see it that way
Yes well I have only reacted to what I thought was her genuine interest in it only to be set up and trapped twice , I think she is jealous about my past and can’t deal with it . That’s why she has picked and chosen only negative articles about it to reaffirm her views and from day one of our relationship it has always been me that’s suggested things regarding sex , on the one hand I find out things like a friend showed her his cock in his office but won’t say what else ( if anything happened ) and when I mentioned sex toys , she knew of no one that had one , tried one etc but when she tried it had the best orgasms of her life she said . Again I had tried them with my previous partner , she continually says she doesn’t know anything about toys , ways to spice up our sex life , hasn’t watched porn / doesn’t turn her on - even down to saying that she does not know what turns her on period ??? I knew she had had a number of previous partners but think not one of them had a clue about sex and her mentions of them possibly made me think she was more experienced / kinkier than she actually is , whereas nearly all of my experience / partners have all been dirty / kinky women ,from the start I have only wanted to put her satisfaction before mines but my past is used against me time and time again whereas her past is always much more innocent shall we say than mines , I was a disgusting dirty bastard etc for having a 3 some with a married couple ( I was single ) and was about 15 years before we met , whereas she was seeing a guy ( no sex though - so she says ) who had a fiancé and was getting married but wanted to run away with her , which wouldn’t happen overnight would it ! , she said he liked her and used to wave when he saw her - then 2 years later she dropped the same waving guy had wanted to marry her so the double standards is amazing to me but if I retaliate for example with that example , she goes down the Victorian defence of wedding vows and a man and wife should make love , not swing and fuck another guy next to her husband who is fucking someone else’s wife next to her etc - I really do love her but she won’t entertain any therapy etc and feel I’ve almost reached the end of the road 🙁
I'm sorry you had such experience, but this doesn't mean it is valid to all people. I had girlfriends which didn't find it appealing and we just moved on. You are grown people, you should communicate. If there is a mismatch, move on. Its better to be alone for sometime, than be with a wrong person or a person that is not going to give you what you need. This is going both directions by the way
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