need advice / clarification regarding my wife

latinn74

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Sorry for the title, wasnt quite sure how to address this.

My wife and I have been married for 21 yrs... I met her and started dating her at 18 and married when she was 20 and i was 25. She has always been the flirty type and since she is very attractive shes never had a shortage of compliments and guys/men hitting on her. Her parents divorce when she was very young and has always had father issues so attention from men has always been rewarding for her. For the first 8 years of our marriage she flirted a little but stayed faithful. She officially cheated around the 8th year with a high school aquaintance while back home for the holidays and during a night out with old hgh school friends. She had sex with him 2 times over a 2 day period.

she confesses and we patched up our marriage, although it was painful for me... not sure why but 5 years later I had started sexualizing her affair and got into masturbating to the idea of her with an older man.. old/young porn and cuckold porn started becoming more addictive and I sugested she go out with old rich men, as a sugarbaby... she did and little by little she started getting confortable with the idea. When I told her it turned me on sexually she felt happy because she said she had the freedom to be who she is.... meaning someone who wants to date and sleep with other men while she has me still. We have always had great sex, to this day and I am the love of her life and she is mine...we have kids together and love each other to death and dont ever want to be apart since we know we wouldnt last long and would be back together...weve realized were in it for life since we adore and love each other.

Fast forward 20 years into our marriage and my wife is a sexy 40 yr old woman, she has a tinder account, and has had now a total of 15-16 sexual partners since 2015. She likes the idea of the HOTWIFE and considers herself one, she is aware she is desired as a MILF and makes them most of it.

She says we are in an open relationship but even though she offered a while back for me to date women for sex I am not interested.. She is my sexual fantasy and I masturbate to her pics more than porn...she loves to pose. She recently told me she wants me all to herself and wouldnt be able to see me go on dates with other women and sometimes due to her insecurity she gets hurt and upset if i look at other women...she tries to be fair considereing the situation and the freedom that she has... but she is terrified of me leaving her or falling in love with another woman...even though I tell her shes the only one for me

I know I am not into humiliation so Im still not sure what I fall under..... am I a cuckold? Sometimes I feel I am just married to a compulsively unfaithful attention needing woman. Or maybe me calling her a hotwife is a way to cope with my situation and make it more rewarding for me... not sure but any opinions are welcome.
 
it sounds to me that are already her cuckold hubbie and like it. go with it and accept your role. It seems you already did.
I like the idea of her being a slutty wife.... I guess she says she doesnt want to always be seen that way, that I have different expectations.. she likes it sometimes...me calling her a hotwife...but she says she was born unable to be monogamous so not sure if she is a hotwife or just a woman that wants to be with me but also date and sleep with other men.
 
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As has been pointed out, technically, semantically, you’re a cuckold.

KK and I have similarities in our relationship. She has never been happily monogamous. We’ve both had many affairs, from one-night stands to more complex “traditional” affairs. I’ve cut way back, in part because we now do the hot wife thing, so my interests are focused on KK’s pleasure, and enjoyment of fucking other men.

KK is insanely, almost (possibly) homicidally jealous when it comes to me and other women, so I am very discreet if I decide to enjoy sex with another woman. On the other hand, KK expects to have whomever she pleases, whenever she pleases - it is an asymmetry in our relationship.

She craves variety, and KK has ingrained personality traits that include novelty seeking behavior, attention seeking behavior, and she’s easily bored. That translates into the need for varied sex partners.

We found out a little more than a decade ago that KK has a form of bipolar disorder - in her manic phase she becomes hyper-sexual. Medications like Zoloft exacerbate that hyper-sexuality. In her depressive phase KK seems “normal.” In part, this explains much of her behavior - for the first part of our marriage, I had no idea what was going on. We found out about the Zoloft thing as a misdiagnosis - her original psych/therapist treated her for depression. These days we accept the bipolar thing, and most of the time KK’s unmedicated - we’ve learned to enjoy the hyper-sexual thing. Oddly, we’ve also learned to enhance it when we so desire using the Zoloft.