Need Info on Possible Psychological Harm Due to my Fetish

[Mando]

Hello, so i picked up this weird cuckold fetish few years back when my gf cheated on me, and recently i decided to get over it and started watching normal porn.. but i noticed that it was not as simple to leave it as i thought when i found myself watching cuck porn again, and i also noticed that when watching normal porn i only get super hard when about to cum and don't stay hard until m not jerking it but when i'm watching cuck porn i stay super hard the whole time and don't even have to touch myself to get hard and orgasms are way more intense..
So here i am wondering should i be worried? i mean if i keep on watching cuck porn will it effect my sexual life cause i dont wanna do it in real life and wanted to keep it in fantasy only, so will i start getting erectile issues if i only jerk off to cuck porn?
i hardly jerk off once a week though as i heard it is not harmful this way and only harmful if you do it daily but im worried if cuck porn will harm psychology instead of harming me physical because here is another issue when my friends are making jokes about women cheating and cuckold stuff i get very anxious and upset like my hands start sweating and i get worried that i might end up saying something stupid
I would really appreciate some help in this cause i just wanna enjoy it without such possible harms and leave if it is not possible cause physical and mental health comes first
Thank you

 

[JozyXt]

If it disturbs you, then you should seek professional counseling. A good counselor can help you come to terms with your feelings and find a balance before they become an unhealthy obsession.

I talked to a woman therapist about mine and just a few sessions really helped me find a way to live with cuck feelings without losing control. I do suggest a female therapist so you can speak of them directly to a woman.

 

[jw_kk]

It is often the case, particularly in response to a partner’s cheating, that arousal occurs as a consequence - the thought of one’s intimate partner enjoying that experience with someone else, even a rival, even if it is a clandestine infidelity is within the range of predicted response to this kind of situation.

When I first discovered my then fiancé, now wife KK was a cheater, there were times I could only get hard, or cum when thinking about her engaging in sex with another man. My response to porn changed, triggered by my discovery - I was more aroused by cuckold or adultery themed porn than by “normal” porn. Decades later, that’s still the case.

Your response to this situation is possibly telling you something about yourself and your desires. Once the fetish of cuckolding is triggered, it is difficult, perhaps impossible to “put that genie back in the bottle."

 

[Mando]

If it disturbs you, then you should seek professional counseling. A good counselor can help you come to terms with your feelings and find a balance before they become an unhealthy obsession.

I talked to a woman therapist about mine and just a few sessions really helped me find a way to live with cuck feelings without losing control. I do suggest a female therapist so you can speak of them directly to a woman.

very helpful i'll get me some counselor then thanks

 

[Mando]

It is often the case, particularly in response to a partner’s cheating, that arousal occurs as a consequence - the thought of one’s intimate partner enjoying that experience with someone else, even a rival, even if it is a clandestine infidelity is within the range of predicted response to this kind of situation.

When I first discovered my then fiancé, now wife KK was a cheater, there were times I could only get hard, or cum when thinking about her engaging in sex with another man. My response to porn changed, triggered by my discovery - I was more aroused by cuckold or adultery themed porn than by “normal” porn. Decades later, that’s still the case.

Your response to this situation is possibly telling you something about yourself and your desires. Once the fetish of cuckolding is triggered, it is difficult, perhaps impossible to “put that genie back in the bottle."

ok something more personal then.. do you get hard fine when you guys are or if having sex?

 

[jw_kk]

ok something more personal then.. do you get hard fine when you guys are or if having sex?

Quoting a movie line, "Normal is a setting on a dryer." I do get hard, and stay hard, no performance problems, when KK and I engage in "vanilla" sex one-on-one. However, I'm often imagining KK kissing, touching, sucking, and fucking another man while the two of us are having sex. I'd say that's about 80% of the time if pressed for a statistic.

In fact, the experience, one-on-one is better for me - as my cock slides in and out of my wife, or she takes it in her pretty mouth, my thoughts are of her doing these things with another partner. My erection is harder, firmer, longer-lasting, and my ejaculatory/orgasmic response is significantly more intense.

 

[JozyXt]

very helpful i'll get me some counselor then thanks

A good therapist won't try to make feelings go away, but can help you find perspective on them that will allow you a wider set of ways to interpret your feelings. Good luck.

 

[Mando]

A good therapist won't try to make feelings go away, but can help you find perspective on them that will allow you a wider set of ways to interpret your feelings. Good luck.

i see, i mean thats good too i guess i just want any progress at this point cause i feel stuck!

 

[Mando]

Quoting a movie line, "Normal is a setting on a dryer." I do get hard, and stay hard, no performance problems, when KK and I engage in "vanilla" sex one-on-one. However, I'm often imagining KK kissing, touching, sucking, and fucking another man while the two of us are having sex. I'd say that's about 80% of the time if pressed for a statistic.

In fact, the experience, one-on-one is better for me - as my cock slides in and out of my wife, or she takes it in her pretty mouth, my thoughts are of her doing these things with another partner. My erection is harder, firmer, longer-lasting, and my ejaculatory/orgasmic response is significantly more intense.

i meant like natural=normal but yes different perspectives i guess so good to know that its working out for you that actually cleared out alot of questions for me so thanks

 

[jw_kk]

One element of the cuckolding fetish involves voyeurism. Many are "wired" to enjoy voyeurism and related scenarios; watching an intimate partner having sex is a trigger for intense arousal. In cuckolding/hot wife scenarios, voyeurism can take on many dimensions, from implied to explicit.

In my case, KK is my favorite "porn star." I find that one of the benefits of enjoying and accepting this lifestyle - not "abnormal" or worrisome. If I could manufacture the situation, KK would be the star of every porn video or photo I look at. I'm fascinated by the level of arousal my wife can generate within me in these situations.

For a time, KK and I engaged in mutual and joint counseling and therapy. The discussion topics with the counselor/therapist included adultery, cuckolding and related areas. My interest and prurient desires in the domain of cuckolding weren't abated or reduced through therapy, and it wasn't something the therapist tried to talk me out of, or "fix." Rather, finding understanding of, and acceptance was the outcome.

 

[keylife022]

Hello, so i picked up this weird cuckold fetish few years back when my gf cheated on me, and recently i decided to get over it and started watching normal porn.. but i noticed that it was not as simple to leave it as i thought when i found myself watching cuck porn again, and i also noticed that when watching normal porn i only get super hard when about to cum and don't stay hard until m not jerking it but when i'm watching cuck porn i stay super hard the whole time and don't even have to touch myself to get hard and orgasms are way more intense..
So here i am wondering should i be worried? i mean if i keep on watching cuck porn will it effect my sexual life cause i dont wanna do it in real life and wanted to keep it in fantasy only, so will i start getting erectile issues if i only jerk off to cuck porn?
i hardly jerk off once a week though as i heard it is not harmful this way and only harmful if you do it daily but im worried if cuck porn will harm psychology instead of harming me physical because here is another issue when my friends are making jokes about women cheating and cuckold stuff i get very anxious and upset like my hands start sweating and i get worried that i might end up saying something stupid
I would really appreciate some help in this cause i just wanna enjoy it without such possible harms and leave if it is not possible cause physical and mental health comes first
Thank you

You’re cuck. Introduce me to your gf, sit back and enjoy the show.

 

[JerzyJonesNotBo]

It is often the case, particularly in response to a partner’s cheating, that arousal occurs as a consequence - the thought of one’s intimate partner enjoying that experience with someone else, even a rival, even if it is a clandestine infidelity is within the range of predicted response to this kind of situation.

When I first discovered my then fiancé, now wife KK was a cheater, there were times I could only get hard, or cum when thinking about her engaging in sex with another man. My response to porn changed, triggered by my discovery - I was more aroused by cuckold or adultery themed porn than by “normal” porn. Decades later, that’s still the case.

Your response to this situation is possibly telling you something about yourself and your desires. Once the fetish of cuckolding is triggered, it is difficult, perhaps impossible to “put that genie back in the bottle."

Once the fetish of cuckolding is triggered, it is difficult, perhaps impossible to “put that genie back in the bottle."

That is so very true. It is life changing. Once it's triggered that gut punch feeling you'll forever be chasing after it again.

 

[Pampix]

I think also think that once the cuckolddfetish is triggerd there is no way back. Mine came because a girl that I loved from the bottom of my heart did cheat on me. I got so insecure, depressed and on an emotional and psychological rollercoaster with terrible sleepingproblems etc. that becoming a cuck was a way of protecting myself against this emotional catastrophy. Me inducing her to date other men gave me a kind of cotrol I think...

 

[keylife022]

I think also think that once the cuckolddfetish is triggerd there is no way back. Mine came because a girl that I loved from the bottom of my heart did cheat on me. I got so insecure, depressed and on an emotional and psychological rollercoaster with terrible sleepingproblems etc. that becoming a cuck was a way of protecting myself against this emotional catastrophy. Me inducing her to date other men gave me a kind of cotrol I think...

It’s only an issue if YOU make it an issue. If you are comfortable being cucked, then there’s no reason to worry about anything.
It’s your choice to continue or walk away.
It’s her choice to continue with her lifestyle or change to protect the relationship. It’s not a right or wrong answer. It’s what’s good for each of you.
Now introduce me to your girlfriend.

 

[majorem]

Hello, so i picked up this weird cuckold fetish few years back when my gf cheated on me, and recently i decided to get over it and started watching normal porn.. but i noticed that it was not as simple to leave it as i thought when i found myself watching cuck porn again, and i also noticed that when watching normal porn i only get super hard when about to cum and don't stay hard until m not jerking it but when i'm watching cuck porn i stay super hard the whole time and don't even have to touch myself to get hard and orgasms are way more intense..
So here i am wondering should i be worried? i mean if i keep on watching cuck porn will it effect my sexual life cause i dont wanna do it in real life and wanted to keep it in fantasy only, so will i start getting erectile issues if i only jerk off to cuck porn?
i hardly jerk off once a week though as i heard it is not harmful this way and only harmful if you do it daily but im worried if cuck porn will harm psychology instead of harming me physical because here is another issue when my friends are making jokes about women cheating and cuckold stuff i get very anxious and upset like my hands start sweating and i get worried that i might end up saying something stupid
I would really appreciate some help in this cause i just wanna enjoy it without such possible harms and leave if it is not possible cause physical and mental health comes first
Thank you

It sounds like you're relatively young? I only say this because I remember worrying about such stuff in my teens / early 20s but, ultimately, I think it is much worry about nothing. I mean, sure, if you take things to an extreme, it could potentially be detrimental but it sounds like you're nowhere near that. When I was in my 20s I'd sometimes masturbate 2-3 times per day. I got into all sorts of different types of porn and would sometimes obsessively watch some new, more taboo thing for a while, then eventually it would get old and I'd move on.

I didn't get into cuck porn until later in life, after having some related experience, two where I was sort of accidentally "the bull" and one where my girlfriend (now wife) fucked some other guys when we broke up for a few months. I feel like cuck fantasies are especially potent because it is a weird mix of sexual arousal and... adrenaline? A sort of thrill / fear / competitive element that adds excitement, plus the whole element of it being dirty and "against the rules". Years later, I still quite enjoy the fantasy but it does not give me quite the same excitement watching cuck porn and I think mainly, the confused feelings that go along with it have mostly gone away as I've made peace with it. A lot of things in life, you feel are supposed to be a certain way when you're younger because that's what mainstream society dictates but... who made up the rules? Eventually you realize, it's all nonsense and that the worry / shame you're made to feel are the real detriment.

As for why you might enjoy cuck fantasies, there are clearly different elements of it that appeal to different people. Some guys like the idea of humiliation or being put in a beta role, while others are not into that at all. For me, it is about a fascination with female sexuality - I am aroused by naughty women giving in to their lust and letting themselves by used like sluts. There is something really hot about a woman, who is brought up thinking she has to act a certain way, be chaste and pure, faithful, as society expects, but then her sexual nature gets the better of her and she cannot resist giving in to all her dirty sexual desires.

So yeah, I wouldn't worry too much - you're overthinking things. If you get to a point where you really feel like something is beginning to negatively affect you, then step away from it, re-train yourself to think about or enjoy other things. Until that point, worrying about it is probably going to cause you more problems than just enjoying it and doing it. Guilt / shame / anxiety are the biggest things that will affect your sexual performance.