Questions to ask GF to be sure of next step?

[Bernie84]

I've hinted to my girlfriend of 8 years about having a mmf threesome. It's really the idea of watching her with another man that appeals to me. I don't know how to approach the subject without fear of her reacting negatively.

I bought some vibrators and dildos for us to play with, me using them on her and when she's turned on in that moment, I have asked if she enjoys more than one cock, to which she replied not totally convincingly yes.

She seems open to the possibility of a threesome when in the moment but seems to go a bit cold aterwards. I would love to just watch another man fuck her but don't know how to go about asking her about cuckolding.

Any hints and tips would be much appreciated.

 

[Tjmill]

I've hinted to my girlfriend of 8 years about having a mmf threesome. It's really the idea of watching her with another man that appeals to me. I don't know how to approach the subject without fear of her reacting negatively.

I bought some vibrators and dildos for us to play with, me using them on her and when she's turned on in that moment, I have asked if she enjoys more than one cock, to which she replied not totally convincingly yes.

She seems open to the possibility of a threesome when in the moment but seems to go a bit cold aterwards. I would love to just watch another man fuck her but don't know how to go about asking her about cuckolding.

Any hints and tips would be much appreciated.

Just bite the bullet and tell her when you’re having some private time together. A few drinks a porn flick and once she’s in the mood give it a shot

 

[Bernie84]

Just bite the bullet and tell her when you’re having some private time together. A few drinks a porn flick and once she’s in the mood give it a shot

I think she thinks I want a female to join us for a threesome. She's admitted to me she's had a threesome years ago before we met each other. I've told her I'm not interested in anyone else.
We've watched porn while using dildos and she was really aroused, watching threesomes. I am waiting for the right moment to tell her. We're having a few drinks tonight and I'm thinking about telling her I would like to see her being pounded by a big fat cock.

 

[Random_name]

Also having the same trouble as you lol, hopr you figure it out.

 

[Tjmill]

I think she thinks I want a female to join us for a threesome. She's admitted to me she's had a threesome years ago before we met each other. I've told her I'm not interested in anyone else.
We've watched porn while using dildos and she was really aroused, watching threesomes. I am waiting for the right moment to tell her. We're having a few drinks tonight and I'm thinking about telling her I would like to see her being pounded by a big fat cock.

Any luck last night?

 

[GoodTimes40]

I would start with explaining what you find hot and the concept of compersion.

Also, my wife and I have delved into using penis sleeves and that has definitely opened her mind on a few things. Not saying it will all work out but it helps. Sensual extensions dual layer low shore rating is amazing. Wife said it absolutely feels real.

 

[RedlandsHotwife]

I would start with explaining what you find hot and the concept of compersion.

Also, my wife and I have delved into using penis sleeves and that has definitely opened her mind on a few things. Not saying it will all work out but it helps. Sensual extensions dual layer low shore rating is amazing. Wife said it absolutely feels real.

Link to the sleeve?

 

[mikewannacuck]

'Open to the possibility in the moment' isn't good enough. Going hard will trigger all the self and relationship doubts she has.
You have already put it out there. Don't press. I'd continue to use the dildo on her and watch some videos (but nothing that is a huge leap from what you know she likes).

Believe me, if you are 69ing her and using a large dildo to fuck her you don't have to ask her 'does she like 2 cocks'.
Let her enjoy the sensation. When you are at the point where she is fucking it back and is coming on it you can rest assured she is picturing it as a real man's hard cock.

Do that every few times you play, not all the time. Then about the 4th time get her an extra drink and really in the mood, then get into the talk while shes taking it.
You need to peel back her inhibitions.
First is her liking it.
Then is her being ok with liking it.
Then is her being ok with you being ok liking it.
Then it is her being ok with you being ok with her liking it.
That is NOT the same as you saying its ok.
She's likely 3-6 months away from getting the mindset you want her to have.
Be patient.

 

[BullDotado]

I've hinted to my girlfriend of 8 years about having a mmf threesome. It's really the idea of watching her with another man that appeals to me. I don't know how to approach the subject without fear of her reacting negatively.

I bought some vibrators and dildos for us to play with, me using them on her and when she's turned on in that moment, I have asked if she enjoys more than one cock, to which she replied not totally convincingly yes.

She seems open to the possibility of a threesome when in the moment but seems to go a bit cold aterwards. I would love to just watch another man fuck her but don't know how to go about asking her about cuckolding.

Any hints and tips would be much appreciated.

It's far more about relationship $ecurity than whether or not she enjoys the experience. Women don't want the insecurity they believe it'd bring if they fuck others. They hear you saying you'd like to see it, but they still don't believe a part of you will be okay with it, or they believe that you're wanting to have sex with other women/that she's not good enough for you.

You have to remove all the doubts from her mind. You can achieve this by convincing her that you love her for reasons other than sex, that you want to see her happy and getting the most pleasure she can out of sex, and explaining where you feel inadequate to properly please her.

You have to let her take lead of the relationship and reward her the more she does so.

 

[GoodTimes40]

Link to the sleeve?

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[GoodTimes40]

Link to the sleeve?

That is the link to one of them. They have a bunch of options and you can pick a color. If these are newer to you and your wife isn’t used to using sleeves or dildos, it’s somewhat difficult to choose the size and shore rating. I would start with something not gigantic. Men have larger eyes than their wives vagina usually (not always). We bought the vix skin colossus which some people love. It’s kind a one size fits all type but my wife thought it was “hard” and unrealistic plus it didn’t feel great for me. The harder ones are better for guys with ED issues bc it kind of solves that problem. When I spoke to the owner of sensual extensions who is awesome (Michael), he gave me guidance. We went with really low shore ratings bc I have a solid erection and it allows you to have a softer toy which is “hard” because of your erection which gives it a solid inner core. Plus the softer material will flex more and have some give as it enters your partner. Harder material will be tougher on them.

My wife swears it feels real and I regularly cum inside it when using it.

My order is attached. I am 50/50 on the matte finish. I just ordered another without the matte but same thing. Experimenting but not changing too much bc the wife loves it.

 

[GoodTimes40]

Now, when you partner starts to like it, tell her you know a real one would feel better and you would love to see her give it a try.

When she says what if she likes it too much, tell her, look you love going to Disney, the Caribbean and other places but you don’t live there. Its for fun.

Why would she leave you for a guy with a big dick who you had random fun with. This is where you leverage ever other part of who you are as her reason to not worry.

The guy is a stunt cock.

 

[Funnguy1]

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