Revenge Sex?

My girlfriend, fiance, or wife has engaged in revenge sex with a man other than her primary partner.

  • Yes

    Votes: 3 100.0%
  • No

    Votes: 0 0.0%

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    3

jw_kk

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The topic is on the notion of ‘revenge sex’ - the situation in which one partner has sex with someone outside the primary relationship to get even, settle a score, or for some similar motivation.

Before evolving to our present lifestyle, Krista was a serial cheater, even from the time we started dating. She was never monogamous or faithful to her marriage vows. Perversely, Krista demanded absolute monogamy from me. She was (and still is, though better controlled) insanely jealous whenever it came to me and other women.

The first time Krista was triggered into an act of revenge sex was over a fight we were having. I was ride sharing to evening university classes with a female colleague, Laura. At first there was nothing going on between Laura and me - Krista didn’t care, as she was convinced that we were fooling around. Krista demanded that I cut off contact with Laura, even to the point of pressuring me to drop out of the graduate program.

I refused, not only to drop out of the program, but I continued to ride-share with Laura. One night while I was in class, Krista decided to drown her sorrows with tequila and weed, planning to tell me off, how it was gonna be when I got home from class.

Krista ran out of weed before running out of tequila. She called up our “weed dude” and he was happy to oblige her supply needs. Of course when he found my young, ......, stoned and angry-horny wife alone in the apartment, he was happy to service Krista’s other needs as well.

The anecdotal story I later heard about that night was Kurtis (weed dude) fucked Krista’s mouth and ass until she ...... - this from another acquaintance, Lane, a friend of Kurtis, and our back-up weed dude. I found Krista ...... on the sofa when I got home that night - empty bottle of tequila on the floor, a tiny stub of a roach, along with an open bag of weed on a tray atop the sofa table. Krista was naked except for her socks.

Had I known the signs, I’d probably have been able to tell she’d just been brutally fucked. I was young and naive, thinking that she’d pissed herself a little from the booze. I got the anecdotal confirmation of Krista’s fakery about a month later, when I confronted Kurtis and Lane about how much Krista was spending on weed; trying to get a little help to slow her down.

They both laughed hysterically - long story short, Krista had been essentially fucking them both, in return for “free” or extra weed, or a discount on it… I managed to get out of the two of them that Krista told them both I was a fucking cheating bastard, cheating on her with Laura (Krista called her my “work wife”), and she needed to show me that two can play at that game.

Ironically, perhaps not, Krista’s concerns about Laura were accurate. We engaged in a destructive, complicated affair - which came to an embarrassing and near catastrophic end. In parallel, Krista tired of Kurtis and Lane, turning her attention to the boss at her new job.

After that first event, I can count at least another half dozen similar scenarios. Krista would react to a perceived injury, a “dalliance” on my part, her anger and rage horny boil-over would hit, and she’d be out for revenge sex.

These events ranged from one-and-done fucks to repeat encounters over weeks, or months. I’m wondering about those who’ve had similar experiences, a wife, fiancé, or girlfriend who sought out revenge sex to get back at her primary partner…
 
The topic is on the notion of ‘revenge sex’ - the situation in which one partner has sex with someone outside the primary relationship to get even, settle a score, or for some similar motivation.

Before evolving to our present lifestyle, Krista was a serial cheater, even from the time we started dating. She was never monogamous or faithful to her marriage vows. Perversely, Krista demanded absolute monogamy from me. She was (and still is, though better controlled) insanely jealous whenever it came to me and other women.

The first time Krista was triggered into an act of revenge sex was over a fight we were having. I was ride sharing to evening university classes with a female colleague, Laura. At first there was nothing going on between Laura and me - Krista didn’t care, as she was convinced that we were fooling around. Krista demanded that I cut off contact with Laura, even to the point of pressuring me to drop out of the graduate program.

I refused, not only to drop out of the program, but I continued to ride-share with Laura. One night while I was in class, Krista decided to drown her sorrows with tequila and weed, planning to tell me off, how it was gonna be when I got home from class.

Krista ran out of weed before running out of tequila. She called up our “weed dude” and he was happy to oblige her supply needs. Of course when he found my young, ......, stoned and angry-horny wife alone in the apartment, he was happy to service Krista’s other needs as well.

The anecdotal story I later heard about that night was Kurtis (weed dude) fucked Krista’s mouth and ass until she ...... - this from another acquaintance, Lane, a friend of Kurtis, and our back-up weed dude. I found Krista ...... on the sofa when I got home that night - empty bottle of tequila on the floor, a tiny stub of a roach, along with an open bag of weed on a tray atop the sofa table. Krista was naked except for her socks.

Had I known the signs, I’d probably have been able to tell she’d just been brutally fucked. I was young and naive, thinking that she’d pissed herself a little from the booze. I got the anecdotal confirmation of Krista’s fakery about a month later, when I confronted Kurtis and Lane about how much Krista was spending on weed; trying to get a little help to slow her down.

They both laughed hysterically - long story short, Krista had been essentially fucking them both, in return for “free” or extra weed, or a discount on it… I managed to get out of the two of them that Krista told them both I was a fucking cheating bastard, cheating on her with Laura (Krista called her my “work wife”), and she needed to show me that two can play at that game.

Ironically, perhaps not, Krista’s concerns about Laura were accurate. We engaged in a destructive, complicated affair - which came to an embarrassing and near catastrophic end. In parallel, Krista tired of Kurtis and Lane, turning her attention to the boss at her new job.

After that first event, I can count at least another half dozen similar scenarios. Krista would react to a perceived injury, a “dalliance” on my part, her anger and rage horny boil-over would hit, and she’d be out for revenge sex.

These events ranged from one-and-done fucks to repeat encounters over weeks, or months. I’m wondering about those who’ve had similar experiences, a wife, fiancé, or girlfriend who sought out revenge sex to get back at her primary partner…
Sounds a little like my first wife. She cheated from the get-go. She accused me of cheating and got angry when one of her girlfriends flirted with me. She once claimed that she saw me kissing a neighbor at our front door. Total hallucination, really. That never happened, but she really believed it did.

She also was totally into weed, way too much. After our divorce, she got hooked on hard stuff. I think the guy who eventually became her BF was pimping her. I think she used sex to get hard stuff from dealers. She did some wild stuff that I believe the BF set up for her in return for money - she and a GF blew an entire college football team. She told me later that the BF was responsible for her troubles with hard stuff and being a prostitute. Maybe her took advantage of her, but I really think she was headed in those directions. She enjoyed sex and ...... too much. We hooked up several times after our divorce. The sex was always great. The best oral that I ever received was from her. She really moved her body in good ways during sex.

I really regret that she and I did not work things out. Sex with her was great, and she was always ready for it. She enjoyed it with me and I with her. Problem was that she could not get enough, so when I worked she was cheating. As I look back, it should not have been a problem for me. We should have discussed the lifestyle, arranged for 3-somes and gang bangs and taking her to adult bookstores/theaters to play with strangers. (She really liked porn.) She should have been more flexible about letting me play with other women. Maybe I would have found my bi-side earlier in life. Instead of trying to hide her cheating, we should have agreed that she would return home and let me clean her up whenever she played without me and tell me about what happened. We could have gone to sex clubs and parties, maybe find other couples for swapping. Unfortunately, neither of us was mature enough and open-minded enough to go in that direction. Personally, I was too bound up by the traditional family values stuff, something I regret.

One last thing. We had a ....... She was not a very responsible parent. It was a major problem that would have been difficult to solve. We should have tried. Oddly, after our divorce she ended up having something like 4-6 more kids that she neglected. Don't know why she did that. Should have had her tubes tied.