And one last point of advice or reference. It sounds as if the chatting has gone well and built a good communication foundation. Encourage her to continue that while they play. My wife has had a steady black male partner for an extended period and they have great communication. That communication makes a huge difference in foreplay, the build up, and flirting when we get together. The three of us have an amazing and different bond because of it and it’s incredibly hot watching them interact, tease, and flirt because of that openness. Really becomes a three way reciprocal set up.