We have recently started fantasizing and watching porn (interracial) and it really turns her on. She like to talk dirty about wanting BBC and latin guys larger than me as I am not well endowed. How should we proceed?
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Wife roleplays but not sure
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Just continue doing what you're doing. An opportunity will arise, and IME, when it come about organically is when it is the hottest. Trying to orchestrate something invariably leads to encountering a mixture of creeps and flakes. Tons of flakes who will no-show, and that doesn't do any good for her self-esteem or desire to continue.
keep in mind fantasy is just that fantasy. many times when you try to make them a reality the ground falls from beneath your feet. stick to the role playing, and every now and then outside of the bedroom simply ask if she would like to try something like that. see her reaction. if she pauses and thinks about it for a bit before she answers it means that she probably does, but has doubts and scruples stopping her. if she says maybe later or not yet, then you have your answer. she just needs time. if she quickly says no, then she means no.
also make sure you are ready for something like this. it's all fun and games until it becomes real. there are no do overs. you can't undo it.
The old saying "It's a woman's prerogative to change her mind" came about for a reason. IME when a woman says "no" (or anything else for that matter), it should be interpreted as "Right now, in this moment, that's how I really feel." Accept it, respect it, and don't be surprised if she has a different answer on another day to the exact same question.
That is not to say that women are capricious. Women are emotional beings, and emotions are dynamic.
Embrace it and look at profiles of guys she fancies in order to get an idea of what type she likes then try to set it up.