I do, i prefer the partner to be present and they are certainly welcome to participate. I'm fine with some touching, sucking by the partner, but i'm not going to fuck them. Bi-curious versus bisexual.
This is a great list, especially #6. So many couples finally work up the nerve to meet in person, but want to go straight from fantasy to the bedroom. I've had plenty of couples reach out to me, meet and then one spouse realizes that reality of it is too much.
Plenty of bulls in the UK, next time you are roleplaying with her, ask her what kind of guys turn her on. Then you'll have the information you need to find the right bull for her.