Am I a cuck or how would you describe me ?

[Anonymovs]

Ever since my first gf cheated on me when I was 15yrs old, I’ve been turned on by the whole situation but I never told anyone. Now, in my late 30s and married for 11 yrs- that changed.

My wife is very shy and conservative, but when she has a few drinks - she really lets loose and shows a side I didn’t know existed. I took advantage of this and started hinting that I wouldn’t mind if she had sex with another man. She never believed me and then I started to turn up the intensity. Any time we’d go out for drinks, once I knew she was horny , I would ask her to tell me about her past experiences. Eventually she realized I was actually turned on by this and she began to play along. Now, 3 years after slowly turning up the intensity of this little game- I feel we’re getting close to making it happen. But here are the things I feel make me different from other cucks.

1. I would love to see her with other men, but I need to be present. The thought of her NOT being in front of me makes me anxious. So she knows I will need to be present, otherwise everything has to be recorded and she can’t spend the night with him.
2. I’m incredibly turned on by her humiliating me , but if it comes from the bull- I feel we will have a problem. Like I can take a little banter but I know it’s gonna ruin everything if he starts talking to me as if I were his bitch.

This past weekend I discussed my ground rules to her since I got the feeling she may be open to doing something with a coworker.

My rules/boundaries were:
1. Don’t bring any STIs home.
2. Don’t get pregnant.
3. I would like to be present the first few times or you must record every second.
4. Only you (my wife) is able to tease/humiliate me.


Again , nothing has happened yet but I feel it’s imminent. Do yall think I’m being unfair/irrational ? Please share your thoughts !

 

[Jeanswatcher]

You are right to discuss with her your concerns this is where a lot of relationships fail, however i would be surprised if she agreed to you watching first time, you have to consider should she go with a chap its probably someone "normal" and he would NOT want her husband knowing never mind watching.


A lot of men are happy having an affair as in fucking a women married or in a long term relationship BUT would not happy if he knows or asks to watch, most men who are not seasoned bulls will be freaked out and be out of the door.

Recording: i understand where you are coming from HOWEVER, would you like a chap you didn’t know to film your wife, naked being fucked? think... social media, facebook, porn sites.......and the associated risks of people you know seeing this? The same goes for a man who maybe is in a relationship so unless he is a seasoned bull i suspect that’s a none starter too.

Have you considered does she want to be fucked on film?

Your insistence that she cannot spend the night with him, shows real insecurity, passion takes time, excellent love making or fucking takes a certain chemistry and again time, to me this shows you are not ready to be a true cuck. What you i would suggest want is a time limited quickie, not desirable to a horny women wanting to explore her sexuality.

These areas i suggest will prevent her from playing, even if she wants to. It may be having awoken her desires she finds a decent man and gets fucked making you a true cuck but your demands may mean she never tells you for fear of a backlash from you.

In my opinion you need to decide what you want, a threesome or to become a true cuck, that takes a lot of confidence and stable mind, it also means giving up any control and restrictions over her and a man you may not know and may never meet, can you feel comfortable with that?

Your comment: "Only you (my wife) is able to tease/humiliate me", i suspect if she did this and went with another male isn’t that humiliation in a way?, my experience tells me that you would be surplus to them as they channel their intensity towards each other, unless he is a seasoned bull.

Your comment: “Don’t bring any STIs home, Don’t get pregnant", my cuckoldress would take this as an insult to her intelligence.

You say "I feel we’re getting close to making it happen" i am not as sure as you having been a cuck for over 30 years.

The only time i managed to get my reluctant cuckoldress to meet a man alone in a pub, she messaged me and said he is lovely please come down, but i didn’t want to meet him, that was another of my kinks. However she insisted saying he knows i am married and you enjoy this please come. I declined but she continued, he is happy to meet you. So after numerous messages i reluctantly went, walked into the pub as a 6ft 3 muscular masculine male, yet locked in female underwear. I saw them, he stood up and left! simply saying to her... FUCK.

I have watched and videoed hundreds of times over the years, and see how the intensity between them increases when i leave and these are men who i have met numerous times and become friends with, both he and she like and deserve privacy. I view this as they give me what i like and i return the favour. To make a successful meet means all considering others views and wishes, it also means letting my cuckoldress go to her lovers alone, which as her cuck she is entitled to do.

Now i appreciate others will have different views, so i don’t write this as a Bible, just from my years of experience. All women are different and like different stuff, so i maybe miles off the mark about your wife.

Good luck.

 

[Anonymovs]

You are right to discuss with her your concerns this is where a lot of relationships fail, however i would be surprised if she agreed to you watching first time, you have to consider should she go with a chap its probably someone "normal" and he would NOT want her husband knowing never mind watching.


A lot of men are happy having an affair as in fucking a women married or in a long term relationship BUT would not happy if he knows or asks to watch, most men who are not seasoned bulls will be freaked out and be out of the door.

Recording: i understand where you are coming from HOWEVER, would you like a chap you didn’t know to film your wife, naked being fucked? think... social media, facebook, porn sites.......and the associated risks of people you know seeing this? The same goes for a man who maybe is in a relationship so unless he is a seasoned bull i suspect that’s a none starter too.

Have you considered does she want to be fucked on film?

Your insistence that she cannot spend the night with him, shows real insecurity, passion takes time, excellent love making or fucking takes a certain chemistry and again time, to me this shows you are not ready to be a true cuck. What you i would suggest want is a time limited quickie, not desirable to a horny women wanting to explore her sexuality.

These areas i suggest will prevent her from playing, even if she wants to. It may be having awoken her desires she finds a decent man and gets fucked making you a true cuck but your demands may mean she never tells you for fear of a backlash from you.

In my opinion you need to decide what you want, a threesome or to become a true cuck, that takes a lot of confidence and stable mind, it also means giving up any control and restrictions over her and a man you may not know and may never meet, can you feel comfortable with that?

Your comment: "Only you (my wife) is able to tease/humiliate me", i suspect if she did this and went with another male isn’t that humiliation in a way?, my experience tells me that you would be surplus to them as they channel their intensity towards each other, unless he is a seasoned bull.

Your comment: “Don’t bring any STIs home, Don’t get pregnant", my cuckoldress would take this as an insult to her intelligence.

You say "I feel we’re getting close to making it happen" i am not as sure as you having been a cuck for over 30 years.

The only time i managed to get my reluctant cuckoldress to meet a man alone in a pub, she messaged me and said he is lovely please come down, but i didn’t want to meet him, that was another of my kinks. However she insisted saying he knows i am married and you enjoy this please come. I declined but she continued, he is happy to meet you. So after numerous messages i reluctantly went, walked into the pub as a 6ft 3 muscular masculine male, yet locked in female underwear. I saw them, he stood up and left! simply saying to her... FUCK.

I have watched and videoed hundreds of times over the years, and see how the intensity between them increases when i leave and these are men who i have met numerous times and become friends with, both he and she like and deserve privacy. I view this as they give me what i like and i return the favour. To make a successful meet means all considering others views and wishes, it also means letting my cuckoldress go to her lovers alone, which as her cuck she is entitled to do.

Now i appreciate others will have different views, so i don’t write this as a Bible, just from my years of experience. All women are different and like different stuff, so i maybe miles off the mark about your wife.

Good luck.

I appreciate your insight. Again, this is all new to us and I’m genuinely eager to try this out and I feel my wife is also intrigued.

I feel like there are some aspects of the lifestyle that I feel I don’t fall into which is why I asked for thoughts. I’m sure I’ll evolve as time goes on but I want to understand everything and see things as others do. There’s def a few points you made that I didn’t consider so I really appreciate you.

Thanks again ! I’m looking forward to (hopefully) many adventures!!!

 

[Rendezvous4us]

Every has their own personal take on what they like. Me? Love the thought of seeing my wife with another man. Having said that, I would have to be there and directly involved. Granted, I could go periods watching and not interfering, but eventually, I would have to be involved. I WOULD NOT get off seeing my wife humiliated as many others on this forum do. Calling her a whore, cum slut, etc would result in an abrupt end to the session and a hasty escort to the door. Likewise, I personally would not be okay with either of them humiliating me. My turn on is having this experience in an intimate setting with mutual respect shown to all parties involved.

 

[Anonymovs]

Every has their own personal take on what they like. Me? Love the thought of seeing my wife with another man. Having said that, I would have to be there and directly involved. Granted, I could go periods watching and not interfering, but eventually, I would have to be involved. I WOULD NOT get off seeing my wife humiliated as many others on this forum do. Calling her a whore, cum slut, etc would result in an abrupt end to the session and a hasty escort to the door. Likewise, I personally would not be okay with either of them humiliating me. My turn on is having this experience in an intimate setting with mutual respect shown to all parties involved.

Thank you for your thoughts. I’m glad to see there are others with similar preferences as mine!!!!

 

[thebeginner]

You are right to discuss with her your concerns this is where a lot of relationships fail, however i would be surprised if she agreed to you watching first time, you have to consider should she go with a chap its probably someone "normal" and he would NOT want her husband knowing never mind watching.

I have watched and videoed hundreds of times over the years, and see how the intensity between them increases when i leave and these are men who i have met numerous times and become friends with, both he and she like and deserve privacy. I view this as they give me what i like and i return the favour. To make a successful meet means all considering others views and wishes, it also means letting my cuckoldress go to her lovers alone, which as her cuck she is entitled to do.

Now i appreciate others will have different views, so i don’t write this as a Bible, just from my years of experience. All women are different and like different stuff, so i maybe miles off the mark about your wife.

Good luck.

You are spot on with your comments, IMO. It's a learning experience for all involved. What I thought I wanted when we first started was entirely different as we progressed with her FWBs.

 

[WellHungBull9]

Ever since my first gf cheated on me when I was 15yrs old, I’ve been turned on by the whole situation but I never told anyone. Now, in my late 30s and married for 11 yrs- that changed.

My wife is very shy and conservative, but when she has a few drinks - she really lets loose and shows a side I didn’t know existed. I took advantage of this and started hinting that I wouldn’t mind if she had sex with another man. She never believed me and then I started to turn up the intensity. Any time we’d go out for drinks, once I knew she was horny , I would ask her to tell me about her past experiences. Eventually she realized I was actually turned on by this and she began to play along. Now, 3 years after slowly turning up the intensity of this little game- I feel we’re getting close to making it happen. But here are the things I feel make me different from other cucks.

1. I would love to see her with other men, but I need to be present. The thought of her NOT being in front of me makes me anxious. So she knows I will need to be present, otherwise everything has to be recorded and she can’t spend the night with him.
2. I’m incredibly turned on by her humiliating me , but if it comes from the bull- I feel we will have a problem. Like I can take a little banter but I know it’s gonna ruin everything if he starts talking to me as if I were his bitch.

This past weekend I discussed my ground rules to her since I got the feeling she may be open to doing something with a coworker.

My rules/boundaries were:
1. Don’t bring any STIs home.
2. Don’t get pregnant.
3. I would like to be present the first few times or you must record every second.
4. Only you (my wife) is able to tease/humiliate me.


Again , nothing has happened yet but I feel it’s imminent. Do yall think I’m being unfair/irrational ? Please share your thoughts !

This is a billion percent normal and what a marriage should be. These "Bulls" here that fuck wives without the cuck present aren't real Bulls just normal boring swingers

 

[andysmith]

for me, i have to be present if she is getting fucked. she can suck strangers if she wants without me. condoms always. humiliation never.

 

[Samerwali]

I think the concerns and feelings you’re going through are absolutely normal for the first time.
The rules/boundaries you have set is to ensure the bond between you two don’t break or let a completely different third party take over.

If you ever want to take this further, feel free to DM me. Happy to assist.
Best of luck on your journey 🙏🏽

 

[droopy1]

Ground rules are fine. Everyone should be comfortable. The bull should know and agree with the rules. In time you may find that you become less uptight about things. You might start to enjoy the bull giving you a little tease here or there along with your wife's taunts that turn you on so much. I have found that cuckolding has a way of evolving and growing in intensity with time. If you stay with the same bull for a while you will develop trust and perhaps your insisting on being there won't be as important. Your rules are reasonable especially the pregnancy one. Which is probably the one you should maintain. Good Luck.

 

[droopy1]

This is a billion percent normal and what a marriage should be. These "Bulls" here that fuck wives without the cuck present aren't real Bulls just normal boring swingers

My wife's bull became her boyfriend that is to say they got more romantic. It wasn't just fucking any more but romantic dates then weekend outings then full vacations. They fell in love and now he is moving in and I'm getting kicked out of the marital bedroom and have to sleep across the hall in a converted closet.