Any help/tips more than welcome

[Yrkhopeful]

Hi. I have hit a brick wall getting the Mrs to become a hotwife, we have been talking about it for over a year now only while having sex mind, and she always got very turned on by it.
Now I feel I may have pushed too far by saying we should take the plunge and invite another guy into the bedroom for real. Now she seems to have gone all silent and sheepish about the idea. We have a very strong relationship and have children together, I am confident that we would be OK. I will put some points following just so you know where we are.
*watch porn together and talked about another guy joining us, she loved the idea.
*I have told her I have no interest in a woman joining us.
*I have bought her sexy lingerie which she loves to wear.
*she is quite shy sexually sometimes, as in she thinks she isn't attractive, she 100%is BTW.
*I am quite open and not afraid to breach the subject.
*I am straight and in no way want dominating or cream pies or anything of the sort.
*quite happy to watch.
*madly in love with her.
. So like I say I just don't know how to proceed, it's been quiet since I brought it up 2 months ago. I wasn't sure to keep pushing or step back still. Any tips welcome.

 

[Snoopsissy]

Hello I’m in a sort of similar situation , we both love vibe / pussy pump sessions and I vibe her to get her going then she takes over , a good while ago - possibly 8 months or so we went down the road or should I say I put an ad for another hung guy - we got a lot of responses and even read a couple , then she dropped the bombshell she was only teasing me and would never do it . Fast forward to a month ago now ,she sort of heard me saying to myself how sexy she looked like that and how good it would be to share her or something like that , I’ve then upped it to calling her dirty names and she reacted big time , I said I wanted to share her with older guy she had been helping to gauge a reaction but she said no and we discussed other suitors , she then mentioned a married ex couple workers name and again went on heat . She said she wouldn’t as it wasn’t fair to me and she would feel guilty , she then proposed another couple , I reassured her that I was fine with it and she could casually mention she was bored or needing a bit of fun and see if he would bite ( defo - my wife is really pretty and sexy with it but a bit shy i) and to say I didn’t know anything about it , I then told her again it was what I wanted and if given the chance would she fuck him and she said yes , I have left it that , planted the seed so to speak , it is a fine line between what and when is the right moment to move things on , I will mention it again maybe tonight just a bit and see if she takes the initiative on things , he phoned and texts her now and then - only normal ex work stuff as far as I know but she laughs away so I know she sort of fancies him anyway , if I can reassure her not to feel guilty and no repercussions from me I think I might have a hot wife 👍👍😃😃😃still early days and sort of at the edge of the sharing minefield

 

[Snoopsissy]

Update - the ex co worker has in the past has sent her a funny gif of a bbc filling a cup of coffee so it’s probably a laugh or maybe an in , she could say she fancies a cup of his coffee , like the one he sent her and see how quick he is on the uptake as I think if she was more direct possibly the guilt feeling would re surface , sort of let him take the initiative 😃😛😃 she away out looking lovely with plenty lipstick on and that alone gets me thinking - wishful thinking - I

 

[Robert Smith]

I see this question asked a lot on sites like this. I think too many men are looking or hoping for some magical or trick thing to do or say to their lady to convince her. It did take me probably a year and a half to convince my wife to consent but it was simple persistence on my part. She told me after our first successful MMF that she was going to do it one time just to get me to qut bugging her about it. Luckily we had a good time and ended up in the lifestyle for nearly 30 years. Just be truthful and get her to talk about it. Ultimately if you can't talk her into it you will not get to see her fucking and sucking another man. Go to page one on Elaine's First Time thread in the Share Your Real Stories Forum is you want to see how we started, both our first failure and first success

 

[Snoopsissy]

I see this question asked a lot on sites like this. I think too many men are looking or hoping for some magical or trick thing to do or say to their lady to convince her. It did take me probably a year and a half to convince my wife to consent but it was simple persistence on my part. She told me after our first successful MMF that she was going to do it one time just to get me to qut bugging her about it. Luckily we had a good time and ended up in the lifestyle for nearly 30 years. Just be truthful and get her to talk about it. Ultimately if you can't talk her into it you will not get to see her fucking and sucking another man. Go to page one on Elaine's First Time thread in the Share Your Real Stories Forum is you want to see how we started, both our first failure and first success

Thank you Robert I’ll have a look and Elaine is a really lovely looking lady 😃

 

[Trev802]

I think as men we need to really understand our sexual fantasies are very much male oriented, as they should be but trying overlay these fantasies onto our wives who quite rightly think differently is doomed to failure. In my experience, I fell into the same traps as most of us but realised doing the same thing over and over would only serve up the same results. So I took years researching and talking to women, learnt a lot so will not bore you with the details but for advice if you genuinely want this then change your approach. Give your wife what she needs in order to be open to your fantasy, first thing is she must feel your unconditional love and feel confident you are hers for life. Next you must allow her to explore her sexuality in her own time frame and she needs the freedom to flirt with other men on her terms. We are in a pandemic so suggest you both get a mutual on line friend male, overtime allow your wife to flirt and enjoy it unrestricted and for goodness sake never show any jealousy what so ever she will be on her guard for this. Allow this guy to get her horny and reward her without telling her it's a reward for flirting outrageously with this guy, eat her to orgasms but don't fuck her at this time and definately do not allow yourself to cum this is her time not yours. In time you will begin to see subtle changes in her when this happens I can advise how to proceed.