Yes I have.
I’ve trawled this forum and another one similar with the last few years but never joined until I seen this post, and I have to reply.
Because yes there is another side to this.
So although I may be the exception, I hope it’s something to consider for anyone new or anyone thinking about this lifestyle.
Full context; I’m 38, wife is 30. Together 13 years, married 10 years. Have kids.
About 8 years ago on a night out ...... the subject came up and I said I’d love to watch someone fuck her. I’ll spare you all the details but over a couple months this evolved into us deciding (always when out dr1nking) that we’d actually do it, we planned nights away in different places and she would go on the”pull” it worked out great for a few months, but we weren’t always successful. And paying for nights away was getting expensive, and me of course being eternally hornybaleays wanted it more and more. We decided to go the swinging route, tried fab, fet, and some others. We had relative success in that it always ended up in her being fucked, and a lot of the time I got to watch. So it was all great,-I thought. Anyone that’s been on those sites (especially fab) will know the majority are creepy dudes, (more creepy than us on here lol) so eventually that whole thing kind of wore thin. Dudes were agreeing to meet, she’d go to effort doing makeup, lingerie etc for them to either turn up ...... or else only last 30seconds-a minute. Her words were “it’s like I’m a hooker only I don’t even get paid” to once again keep the story as short as possible and spare you the details, over the following 6-9 months I encouraged her to indeed “be a hooker” and she began escorting. I loved this, I mean I REALLY loved it. Encouraged her more and more and encouraged her to push her limits more and more. Offering more services etc. That began about 5 years ago, and she’s been working as an ...... since. For the first 2-3 years it was good, I enjoyed it all, and she enjoyed it, and more importantly she enjoyed pleasing me by doing it. We had great sex ourselves. However with the last 2 years she’s become more work-minded. It’s about the work and money now rather than enjoying it or pleasing me. She gave up her normal part time job, ...... full time 4-5 days a week, and I’m lucky if we have sex twice a month. She uses excuses like she’s tired after a day of working, or a day of running around with the kids etc. or lately she’s used the line “if you’d had x cocks in you today you’d want a break too” she doesn’t do/say any of this with malice or bad intent, she’s still the loving wife I married in every other sense. But for me it absolutely was not worth it, to end up with only getting it twice a month when that was never the plan is an absolute kick in the balls to me.
So yes I do regret it.
If you need any details or advice please feel free to ask. As I do believe it’s something everyone should bear in mind when considering this
