convincing the wife.
the thing is, convincing her takes time. lots of time. and patience. and persistence.
you need to realise is that the focus is on her (cuckolding is actually more male focused) not you and your success depends on how you play the game with your mrs. you must learn to adapt to her needs. i can offer some advice but do remember that all women are different.
well, let me explain how i did it with my wife and how i persuaded her into this lifestyle?
also, this is never an easy question to answer as it involves many factors. most impt of which is whether she IS ABLE to at the very least, fantasise with you about being a hotwife. THIS IS KEY.
if she has not, then it is a harder hill to climb. so begin fantasising WITH her. start slow.
1. there are some things that you must first learn - patience and persistence. these are your tools to help you achieve this.
2. never push her. you must be very very patient in getting your fantasy to be a reality. always let her think she is in control of it. this means that if she does not want to talk or fantasise anymore, stop. respect her wishes. start again another time. but be persistent. she will give in eventually.
this is a slow and steady process and your Mrs MUST always have the feeling that she is in control. ALWAYS! This reassures her that should she want to stop, IT WILL BE STOPPED. only then will she trust you.
3. AGAIN REMEMBER that the focus here is your wife. not you and what you desire her to do for you (please understand this as they will learn the truth).
this was one of the methods i used on my wife......
my mrs loves to suck cock. she really loves it as she can go for an hour or more just sucking on one. and you will only enjoy having your cock sucked IF the person sucking enjoys what she is doing. i should know this as im her hubby. she loves to swallow too. and not the porn you watch type where they spit it out! she love to taste it and swallow (i suppose this was the thing that turned me bi too as i loved watching her do it so much that i too got hooked).
so during my convincing her to join a swing party, i bought a vibrator and when she was sucking my cock, i used the vibrator on her. now when she sucks she is in heaven and then applying the vibe on her pussy was the ultimate for her. i used that moment to fantasise that it was a mutual friends. an american guy that we knew (she is partial to white men, we are asians). this method me a great deal in convincing her that another cock or cocks would be great in our sex life. so i did this time and time again. this was the persistent part. as long as she likes sex, half the battle is won.
about 4th month - the reluctance soon gave way. and she began to allow me to talk to her about a third person.
about 8th month - then i began to ask her things. and she answered!!
with this i knew i was doing the right things.
10th month - while having sex SHE asked for the vibrator.
after a year of some hard work she finally agreed to join in a swing party. and the rest is history. this was the patience part.
so keep plugging at it. always remember that the focus is on her. not you.
we began with swinging, then moved gradually (as my cuckold side began to emerge) to threesomes and finally cuckolding. this is something i really enjoy. i especially watching the action up close (like in fucklicking) as it is so intoxicating.
my advice is leave out the cuckolding part of it (see? this is what i mean about focus. you are only focused on your needs which is for her to cuckold you).
leave that part out for now. instead, focus on HER PLEASURES. make sure she reaches new heights, better climaxes and mind-blowing pleasures.
this is all a plan.....as once she starts experiencing all these new things, your sex life will change and then you slowly bring cuckolding into place. so your time will come my friend.
because one day when you see a large hard cock plunging in and out of your wifes pussy, and juices spurting everywhere, the wonderful squishing sounds the aroma wafting into your nose as you watch this up close then you know your time has come. and it is just fucking erotic. we had so many wonderful experiences.
i know. as i followed this path and it was successful.
remember, persistence, patience, non-pushy.
once you succeed you will be in heaven. so many enjoyable experiences we had.
cheers,
dan
