My wife and I have been working hard on communication and intimacy since our kids were born. We've had some really good conversations about what turns us on, and I nervously opened up about my fantasy — including her attracting/flirting with other men, hotwifing, and even interracial scenarios.
We got over that first big hurdle. She was shocked but genuinely flattered. She couldn’t believe me when I told her other men would think she’s sexy, and when I even joked that I wouldn’t mind her having an ..., she laughed and was clearly flattered.
She had strong concerns about the reality though, and asked how I’d feel if I actually saw her with someone. I was honest and told her I don’t know for sure, but right now the idea and fantasy is exciting to me and that’s where we’re leaving it.
She admitted she’s open to a low-pressure first experiment: going to a bar or lounge together to see if anyone flirts with her. She’s even mentioned possibly sharing some faceless pictures online later.
For me, the fantasy is secondary to us having a healthy, fun sex life and strong connection. I want her to feel empowered and see herself the way I do — as incredibly desirable. Date nights are tough with kids, but if we make one happen, I want it to be a positive, confidence-boosting experience no matter what.
Any advice for making this first “feeling desired” step safe, fun, and low-risk? How do we set up the bar night for success so she has a great time and we come away closer? Tips on debriefing, handling her reality worries and self-doubt, outfit ideas, faceless pics / ...-type content, or other baby steps welcome. Thanks!
We got over that first big hurdle. She was shocked but genuinely flattered. She couldn’t believe me when I told her other men would think she’s sexy, and when I even joked that I wouldn’t mind her having an ..., she laughed and was clearly flattered.
She had strong concerns about the reality though, and asked how I’d feel if I actually saw her with someone. I was honest and told her I don’t know for sure, but right now the idea and fantasy is exciting to me and that’s where we’re leaving it.
She admitted she’s open to a low-pressure first experiment: going to a bar or lounge together to see if anyone flirts with her. She’s even mentioned possibly sharing some faceless pictures online later.
For me, the fantasy is secondary to us having a healthy, fun sex life and strong connection. I want her to feel empowered and see herself the way I do — as incredibly desirable. Date nights are tough with kids, but if we make one happen, I want it to be a positive, confidence-boosting experience no matter what.
Any advice for making this first “feeling desired” step safe, fun, and low-risk? How do we set up the bar night for success so she has a great time and we come away closer? Tips on debriefing, handling her reality worries and self-doubt, outfit ideas, faceless pics / ...-type content, or other baby steps welcome. Thanks!
