This is long, but it helps me to write it.
So its finally happened her full complete solo sex date, and certainly a success. So to frame it. m50, f55, together 23 years, 2 teenagers, she had a date in mid august but no orgasms, no PIV, very disappointing. We were both very excited for this.
So this is what she has told so far (just the day after). I was out walking, caged for 4 days, and grocery shopping while they met. Or hard rules were: she was not staying the night with him, condom, me not panicing and turning up at the airbnb, and her send 4 basic texts. He's here, we are going to the bedroom, we are finished, he's left.
Yesterday afternon 24/10 she was dressed up chic sexy in our airbnb, extremely nervoous and he arrived at 4:30. They sat on the couch and more or less immediately he started rubbing her legs and felt her string, telling her to take it off as she had been told in one of their calls. It moved within minutes to the bedroom and to calm her down he gave her a massage.
I'm not pushing for details but i think it was something like this. After a 15min massage he performed oral and fingering her. He had told her he would make her squirt, that he loved it. So for the first time ever he fingered her making her squirt 5 times being very strict ordering her to let go. She wasn't crazy about the squirting but found it fun to try. She said it's not like a full orgasm.
After 5 she said enough so he started fucking her and when he entered her he complimented her big pussy, that she could take him easily. She has a very big sloppy, amazing pussy. She was really happy with his dick, about an inch longer than my 7", same thickness (5.5) and slightly curved. She said it was perfect and she loved the extra inch.
She said he was a nice dom, pretty rough, but not painfull, but much rougher than me. She said she loved the roughness and that he was absolutely in the lead. He fucked her extremely vigorously for about another hour, a lot in doggy, and legs up in the air him on top kneeling. She was never on top. He was also telling her things like "i'm going to give the fuck, your man can't", "am i better than your man", ..... and she loved it. He then was fignering her to another squirt and came all over her tits and face. She said it was a huge load and loved it. She knew I wanted the cleanup (lol).
He said he had tired her out, that she was a natural, very sensual, and he couldn't believe that he was her first fuck apart from me in 23 years. He said she's made for swinging/hotwifing and he wants to fuck her in our home bed. He showered quickly, had maybe a 5 min talk and said he had to leave.
She called me and i arrived, she was in her sexy nightgown. We kissed, cuddled, i felt a bit awkward. It was like without any photos or videos it had'nt happened in my mind. We went to bed, and the passion came. She told me to lick his cum off her and she starting getting turned on so she got on top of me. The kissing was HOT. I licked her to an orgasm with her saying I am a better pussy eater (YES). Then i fucked her in kneeling, missionary, hard and fast, she loved it and told me to keep going, it's what he did. I came after a few minutes but stayed hard so kept going, then she wanted it hard in doggy until i started going soft.
We stayed there for a few hours, i got takeaway, chilled, watching tv, cuddling. Sometimes she was emotional. It's all so intense. We went home, chilled again in front of tv .She then went upstairs, i was struggling so i stayed in front of the tv (not the right choice). A while later i went up and she was asleep.
My head wasn't in a great space. Why did she do all this stuff for him and never me? Why did she never ask me to dom her? Note, it's only in the past 2 month she's opened up sexually and she knows she was so closed to me for so many years. She's truly in lust with me again but the hurt of the years is still there, the rejections, lack of adventure. So it was more struggling with the past rejections than being jealous of now. I got my head together and fell asleep.
I was awake again a 6am on and off until 9am trying to get my head okay. We then cuddled a lot and she started talking. She got very turned on saying she was a slut and then we had amazing sex while also watching porn. Our kissing passion has gone through the roof in the last week.
She will still probably gradually reveal stuff over the coming days/weeks, and i'm looking forward to it. After an hour or 2 of making love we got up, had breakfast with the kids and then we continued talking, laughing, kssing, cuddling.
She loved it, his leading, dom, roughness, cock, handsome, fit, very sweet, guiding, skilled. But he is too standofish for her. Not enough kissing, cuddling. He was a great first for him but she needs more. Earlier in the week he had asked her to ...... the night with him, she said no, not yet but he was welcome to ...... there. It's weird, standofish but want her to ...... there. She thinks he would have still been the way he was even if she slept there.
We are probably going for the first time ever to a swingers sauna/club this week. She wants to try most things, fmf, mfm, forusome, ......bukkake, where will it end LOL. It was never in my wildest dream she would want to get other women, groups etc involved. IThen we will go back online looking for some other thirds, preferrably a bit nearer to us.
My guess is, she will start remembering how good he was. They might keep in contact, and if he asks to meet again they will have a call and she will explain she needs more kissing, cuddling etc... So, it wouldn't surpise me if they meet again. It's currently not her plan to but i suppose it depends on who else we will find.
I've learnt that I am fine letting her solodate until she gets comfortable fucking other men but I need to be there either watching, next room or actively involved. I'm a switch so lots could happen.
